The spiritual nuance of letting go

By Gary Spinell -Letting go

God and the Universe’s manifestation of your energy into reality, do not work on your timetable. Due to our lack of patience we often want to move from point A to point Z rather quickly, instead of taking the time to hit all points in between. So often the points in between are there for our safety, self-awareness, spiritual growth or prerequisite knowledge to take on the next task. None of us learn how to ride a bicycle until we know how to walk and run.

It is imperative you also let go of your attachment to your goal, and release it to the Universe. If you are deeply and strongly attached to an outcome or desire, by doing so you block your ability to receive that which you desire. By attaching yourself so strongly to the outcome you are in essence telling God and the Universe you will not be happy until the desired outcome occurs. Further, by constantly focusing on the outcome, you actually are confirming you do not yet possess that which you desire.

By continually confirming you do not yet have that which you desire, your world will continue to mirror a reality with you not achieving your goal.

The nuance is that when you release your attachment to your outcome, you are releasing the power to God to make it happen in your highest good.

It is important to balance your energy both to focus on visualizing your reality once you have obtained your goal as well as focusing on the daily steps required in order to achieve your goal. But this can only occur once you let go of your desire. You might believe that goes against your desire, as if letting go of it means you will lose it. Rather, to not let go is like writing someone a letter or email and never sending it. Not sending the letter or email prevents it from reaching its destination and being filled with energy to have its desired impact.

Your attachment to “your” solution and focus on your goal restricts the energy from flowing into the Universe to manifest itself into the solution you seek. There is no way to control the outcome and therefore there is no need to spend time focused on it and worried about it. Relax and release the power for God to manifest the best solution.

There always is a solution, but you have to let the Universe determine the one in your highest good.

Knowing the fundamentals of the law of attraction is important to achieve your goals, but understanding the nuances is mandatory.
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What Do You Think? (Or Go Within For Your Answers)

By Elise Fee

How often in life do we turn to a friend and ask them, “What do you think?” And then if they tell us something we don’t want to hear, we generally disregard their advice. So what is the point?

It seems pretty clear that we already knew the answer before we solicited input from others, so why bother asking? The answer is because you haven’t yet learned to trust your own knowing.

Once you really trust (not just sorta trust, but REALLY trust) your own internal GPS (your inner voice, your knowing), then you will no longer feel the need to ask others their opinions. For you will already know what is the best course of action for you.

As John Steinbeck said, “No one wants advice – only corroboration.” And Cicero said, “Nobody can give you wiser advise than yourself.” These are wise words from wise men.

Try this simple exercise the next time you think you want someone else’s advice. Pretend you are going to ask someone their opinion. But instead of actually asking them, state the question aloud to yourself. Think about what answers the other person might have given you, and then see how you feel in response to each answer.

Those answers you don’t like, you now know aren’t in alignment with your own knowing. Those answers that seem to “fit” (and that are pleasing to you) are pointing you in the direction of what you already knew, but weren’t quite able to define.

After you do this a few times with various topics, you’ll get to the place where you don’t need the exercise at all. You’ll come to a place of surety about what you know, of being more clear about what is right for you and what direction to take.

As Erica Jong said, “Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer, but wish we didn’t.”

Begin to trust in yourself – somewhere inside you do know the answers that are right for you. And in all honesty, only you know them. All that others can do is project their own perspective onto you, and do their best to help you. But you actually know yourself and what’s best for you.

As you practice trusting your own knowing, it will grow stronger and more powerful, just like a muscle that’s been exercised regularly. And it will continue to get easier and easier to really KNOW what you know, to be clear, to be sure, and to be able to hear your internal GPS.

And one day you’ll realize that you don’t really need anyone else’s input – for you can reliably follow your inner knowing. This is typically what people mean when they say, “I don’t care what anyone else thinks.” It’s not that others’ opinions aren’t valuable bits of wisdom, it’s just that this person KNOWS what is right for him/her and doesn’t want or need outside advice.

So the next time you need to make a decision in your life, turn to yourself and ask, “What do YOU think?”

Elise Fee is a Consulting Hypnotist and Life Mentor – her business “EliseOnLife” helps clients get a new lease on life — http://www.EliseOnLife.com. Elise works with clients via private consultations, either in person or over the phone.

With a diverse background in business, marketing and teaching, Elise’s many varied life experiences have taught her broader, more expansive ways to view and experience the world and humanity.

She writes a daily blog sharing her perspectives on life and humanity, and provides readers with practical, easy techniques they can use to begin living their best life. Subscribe to her free blog today: http://www.EliseOnLife.com

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Manifesting Your Vision

By Evelyn Lim -

To learn about manifesting your vision, study the journeys of successful people. Through observation, you would realize that most of these followed their true calling. They had a vision. They were clear in what they wanted. Instead of wishful thinking, they acted on them. And eventually, after some time, their vision bore fruit in terms of much abundance and wealth. They provided proof to the saying, “Find what you love to do for a living and the money will follow”.

Take the case of Donald Trump who successfully manifested his vision. Donald Trump is someone who represents opulence and wealth. And it is a deliberate attempt to be known for these labels. However, Donald Trump didn’t start out as wealthy as he is now. He started out by learning the real estate development business that his father was already into. Eventually, Donald found that he had a knack and a passion for it. He amassed great fortune through taking properties that had low value, and imagining them to have lots of value. He was and still is a visionary.

However, Donald Trump did not stop there. Instead of being just a great real estate developer, but to brand himself, his name, and his personality. He even has a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, which is usually reserved for entertainers. Donald had the vision to become more than what was required or expected of him out of a passion for what he does. As a result, many people are so familiar with Donald Trump the brand, that they forget that he is first and foremost a real estate developer.

Then there was another visionary who began his success journey as a young boy. He had the guts to start a record label out of his college dorm. The record label featured a new music medium called rap. This music was known, but it certainly wasn’t the billion-dollar industry that it is now. That college boy was Rick Rubins, and he together with Russel Simmons started Def Jam Records. At the time, they had 3 primary acts. Those acts were young New York guys who didn’t have much money, but had talent and a dream. All of these acts now are entertainment legends, and Def Jam Records has been sold to Island records for millions of dollars.

Learn from the following people as well about manifesting your vision. Bill Gates started Microsoft with his buddies out of his garage. Dominoes Pizza was started with a few hundred dollars that was borrowed from friends and family. They turned their dreams into untold millions of dollars.

What about you? Would you like to live abundantly? It is possible to. But you would need to have a clear dream and put it into motion. You would need to allay your fears. Avoid letting them hold you back. You would need persistence before you can manifest your vision. You deserve to prosper from creating a life of your desire, and not be a slave to the dreams of others.

Evelyn Lim’s vision is to create a life of her own dreams, inspiring others to do the same. She is the author of the book, Abundance Alchemy: Journey of Gold. She also wears many hats: Life Coach, Intuitive Consultant, Blogger, Master NLP practitioner and Vision Board Counselor.

Evelyn runs an inspirational site with topics on visioning, creativity, law of attraction, intuition and so on. Her site attracts thousands of readers every month. Click over here to get a free report on Creative Visualization or visit her site at http://www.abundancetapestry.com.

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Find Freedom in Forgiveness

By Cauwna Bowman -

For years, you may have been told that the key to a peaceful existence is forgiveness. And for years, you probably wondered how forgiving someone who had done you wrong was beneficial to you. Most would consider that forgiving someone is a sign of weakness; that you are telling the offending party that what they did to you was okay. Sorry to be the one to tell you that you’re actually the one that’s wrong.

Letting Go

The act of forgiving isn’t easy. It takes a lot to let go of the hurt and pain that is a result of something that someone did to you. When the offense first occurs you will find yourself asking questions like, “how could they” or “why would they do that to me”? The problem with asking those questions is that, depending on how bad the situation is, you may never get answers.

Find the strength to forgive, leads to you finding the power to let go. When you harbor resentment of any kind, it’s like a wound. It will fester and begin to ooze into areas of your life that have nothing to do with it. Anger is an emotion that will always find a way to manifest itself. It’s an emotion that gets worse over time. It’s an emotion that will eat away at you.

They Aren’t Mad. Why Are You?

Do you think that the person you’re mad with is really sitting around pining over your hurt feelings? Just as easy as it was for them to commit whatever personal crime against you that they committed; it was just as easy for them to say “oh, they’ll get over it”. This is not to say that they weren’t bothered that they hurt you. However, once they noticed you weren’t coming around any time soon, they pretty much got over it. The same way they feel you should.

Forgiving Doesn’t Always Mean Forgetting

People always suggest that one should forgive and forget. Realistically, it’s far easier said than done. Being hurt, especially by someone you thought cared about you, is bite that takes some time to lose its sting. Humans function on emotions and are entitled to their personal feelings. It’s alright if you find it in your heart to forgive someone; yet you realize that your mind won’t forget what they did. It only means that you are a person who is fully aware of the inability to easily trust someone who has already proven that they cannot be trusted with your feelings.

There is also nothing wrong with forgiving someone and not being sure if you are still open to maintaining a relationship with them; on any level. Forgiving the person who has hurt you has nothing to do with helping them find peace within themselves. It’s all about restoring peace in your own life by releasing any negative emotions and energy that are simply occupying space in your spirit. Remember, whenever you plant a seed, you expect it to grow. What do you think happens when you allow someone’s actions to plant a seed of anger and you continuously water it with attention?

Rediscover your freedom. Forgive. Not for them but for yourself.

For every lesson in life, there’s an article to be written!

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Nifty Alternatives to Watching the Super Bowl

By Linda L Missler -

It has been estimated that 100,000,000 million people watch the Super Bowl each year. Although the football game is broadcast to 225 countries, we can assume that the majority of viewers are American as the two teams in competition are American teams.

Not everyone in the United States, though, is a football fan. Some of us like to do other activities, so here is a list of neat things to do INSTEAD of watching the pig skin warriors:

Go swimming or walk along the beach. You might be able to get some beach walking time in without the crowds although water temperatures are chilly for swimming. Indoor pools are a good bet. Don’t forget your flip flops and towel.

Go shopping. This football game is so popular that stores have special sales going on. Might as well take advantage of low prices on selected items, and the stores will be noticeably less crowded.

See a movie. This week happens to be loaded with interesting movies: The Grey with Liam Neeson, Underworld Awakening starring Kate Beckinsale, Katherine Heigl in One for the Money, Red Tails, Man on a Ledge, and the 9/11 film Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close.

Exercise either outside or at the gym. I was at the gym last year during Super Bowl and had my pick of machines to use.

Read a good book. Normally, you probably read the paper, online news and such. Treat yourself to a great story, whether it be from the library, the bookstore, or downloaded to your Amazon Kindle Fire. According to Bowker Info, over 300,000 titles were published in 2010. Take your pick!

Ever visited Ancestry.com? Curious about your family history? Are you that person in the family that keeps everyone together? Right now Ancestry.com has a 14-day free trial to see if you find it as interesting as we do.

Clean out a closet. It doesn’t matter who you are or where you live. If a closet hasn’t been straightened in six months, its due. Cleaning and organizing are how some people destress. It’s also nice to donate items you don’t need.

It’s tax time. If you haven’t started your tax returns, this is prime time.

When is the last time you planned a vacation or even a weekend getaway? If you can’t remember, perhaps some research on travel destinations might be in order. Sit down with your favorite beverage and start planning.

Don’t forget the luxury of a bubble bath and soaking to your heart’s content. Slow down and take some time for yourself. Monday comes soon enough.

Linda Missler
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The Carriers of Joy

By Karen Nazmi -

It is when life’s tribulations are heavy to bear that they leave a fog of fear and uncertainty in their wake, a state, often couched in common parlance, as ‘soul destroying’.

- at worst a foreign land never visited. Yet the aridity of this is ours to control.

Trying situations in life are probably as various as grains of sand on the shore, and, while trials they may be for those involved, their resilience will also vary, one to the next. Some people make very heavy weather of simple events and remain traumatised for time to come, clouded by a miasma of fear and negativity. Others survive the ‘impossible’ with equanimity, the ability to cope and move on seemingly incumbent on a deep-seated force which lends strength and perspective in times of stress – going beyond the adrenaline to which it is often attributed.

And it’s there for all of us!

Just as the soul is not ‘destroyed’ by events, so the central force of Joy never departs – and maybe they are one and the same, but this is not a religious diatribe. This is more of a focus on coping mechanisms against, what appears to be, a spiritual backdrop.

There are those who graduate from the direst of circumstance with a light in their eyes and forgiveness in their hearts, seeming to ride a wave of Joy. Apparently inherent to their makeup, it carries them through, keeps them strong and enhances their ability to solve their problems, facilitating the best outcome. Positive acceptance within the nature of such people creates a virtuous spiral to any situation – impervious to slings and arrows they just get on with it and smile at the finish, unscathed.

On the other hand, the poor cringing violets who weep and wail in the face of adversity, viciously spiral themselves into a pit of despair, unable to contemplate their problems unless to foresee the most negative of outcomes. Thereafter, the fallout from that despair may taint every action and encounter, gather to itself more bleak negativity and weave a shroud for that inner Joy which makes life worth living. But since Joy is always there, waiting to be accessed, for such people the dirge is for their own confidence and self esteem.

Oscar Wilde famously observed that “There are those who bring happiness wherever they go, and others – whenever they go.” Happiness is not Joy, it is more the light froth born of Joy – and can lead back to it. Wilde possibly noted that the Joyous carry a lightness which imparts to all they meet, while those devoid of Joy, the opposite. We all have the potential for both – Joy is inherent to every being – choose your state and your effect on the world.

Mystics of every religious persuasion preach Light and Joy as their essential message, and a lifetime of experience and observation has convinced me that the joyous are nice to be around, I want be like them and I want to make my life easier. For this I am convinced that:

Aye! – the mystics have it.

Karen Nazmi is a qualified homoeopath who writes about wellbeing against a spiritual backdrop. You can check her website here How to Find Joy, where she explores evidence of Joy in life, and its discovery – article Where is Joy

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A Myth About Mirth in Business

Pat Armistead The Joyologist

Pat Armistead

By Pat Armistead (Taken from her book, “Humour Works”)

Yes, there is a myth about mirth in business! It goes something like this. You can‘t be funny and be taken seriously; or you are in business to make money not have fun. I am sure you recognize those two lines, however humour in business is not about clowning. It is about demonstrating that you are a warm, responsive, intelligent and considerate person. In the world of comedy, humour means creating maximum laughs per minute as a measure of success. In business it is about creating a positive receptive and cheerful mood with successful communication the end product. The paradox is that low morale and decreased productivity can affect your bottom line

Humour can expand your perceptions on how things really are, and boost creativity. When this happens you boost productivity. You boost it by creating an environment that accepts humour as a tool to engender positivity, and with practice it can be used in attack or defense. When applied with discretion it becomes a powerful ally, balancing empathy and aggression, and embarrassment and vulnerability. People can learn to capitalize on the humour they have within them to foster relationships with colleagues and with clients. People remember and feel good about enjoyable encounters, especially at the customer interface.

As an executive or business leader, you can use the cognitive properties of humour to lift morale, enhance decision-making and improve problem solving. Humour patterns can be identified and developed to the point of being automatic. De Bono says humour is a more significant process than reason and helps us switch from one way of thinking to another. This is of particular value today in New Zealand with industrial
laws and the notion of stress at work. Laughter releases endorphins and leaves you with a heightened sense of well being which can last up to two hours. People who are stressed/depressed have problems concentrating even for short periods of time. And World Health Organization statistics tell me that depression is currently world health burden number 4 and by 2020 will be number 2. 1:4 New Zealanders are prescribed anti-depressants in any one 6 month period.

We can support people with depression by being good humoured. Mental acuity can be heightened with the practiced application of good humour. I recently did a ten week Improvisation Acting Course. I learned to be in the moment, to trust my intuition and to have fun with my own humour. My first engagement following that course, and for which there was no prior briefing, earned me $5000 in one day on a TV game show. I attribute that success to my capacity to remain good humoured and therefore confidant, even though under intense pressure. I trusted first thought and did not panic and I won.

Humour is the single most effective human resource, acting as a safety valve and allowing us to inform, educate, enhance personalities and entertain. As a result we boost morale and productivity and therefore profits. Maybe you can start your days with humour like a colleague? She dressed like a hare for an Easter function, and has since taken the photo, enlarged it and placed it in the foyer with a sign that says, in almost traditional Maori welcome ….―Hare am I‘… There are no doubts about the humour that lies within that business!

To contact Pat: pat@joyology.co.nz  Website: http://www.joyology.co.nz/programs.htm

 

Stop Procrastinating! Tips to Move Forward

Stop procrastinating

By Caroline Pigott -

“Just one more story, please Mummy, then I’ll go to bed.” “I’ll do my homework in the morning; it’s not due ’til Monday.” “I’ll tidy up my room after this program.”

Sound familiar?

Many of us learned the art of procrastination at a very young age.

Procrastination is something most of us do, but when is it a problem? Joseph Ferrari, psychology professor at DePaul University in Chicago, and author of Still Procrastinating? The No-Regrets Guide to Getting It Done, says everybody procrastinates, but not everyone is a procrastinator. “A procrastinator is someone who habitually and consistently delays tasks.” Occasionally screeching in before a deadline is one thing, but if your life is in constant disarray because nothing ever gets done, then you’ve got a problem.

Ferrari thinks you should start by looking at why you procrastinate. Fear of failure is one of the most common reasons. Many people put things off because they’re worried the task will be too hard. If this is an issue for you, you could try breaking it down into easier steps and then visualize yourself completing the task. Is it really that hard? In extreme cases, Ferrari recommends using counseling to help change the way you think.

There are simple techniques for overcoming a tendency to procrastinate. The easiest is to write a list. There’s something about an ink and paper list that makes you want to get a task finished and crossed off. I can’t be the only person who finds it so satisfying I write down tasks already completed, just so that I can cross them off.

Do important and urgent tasks first, then ones you really don’t like, saving the easiest and pleasantest for last. Keep your list regularly updated and make sure your goals are achievable. I have a long master list with absolutely everything I need to do on it, then each morning I create a smaller list of tasks I need to achieve that day. The feeling of satisfaction I get from finishing my daily list goes a long way towards motivating me to get the unpleasant tasks done.

Many people think they work better under pressure, and they may be right. But if you leave something to the last minute then your child gets sick, you’re going to have a problem. Try and schedule your time in so you can get things done without having to rush.

Switch off distractions. For me this is key. I love Twitter and Facebook, but having them on in the background is the surest way for me to leave stuff unfinished. We’re all great at multitasking, but actually we’re more productive when we focus on one thing.

Finally, don’t forget to reward yourself for a job completed. Finish that tricky report, then head out to your favourite coffee shop to meet a friend.

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What You Think of Me is Absolutely None of My Business

By Steve Wickham -

IT MIGHT sound rather obvious, but we can’t affect the thinking of other people. In fact, you might even say,

Tell me something we don’t already know, and don’t waste my time with such obvious statements of fact!

But, there’s a practical difference between knowing this truth and really living it.

This truth of not being able to overtly influence others’ perceptions of us is probably one of the most powerfully empowering concepts known to human experience. There’s a level of true mature acceptance involved in really taking hold of this.

‘What you think of me’:

  • Messes with my mind if I dwell upon it i.e. what I think you’re thinking. Then my perception of you and our interaction is slanted toward a reality that cannot, in fact, be real–it has “me” all over it, not “us” plus the situational context;
  • Is based only on what you see–a separate reality to mine. No matter how much I try I cannot see as you see;
  • May impact upon me and will cause me to reflect upon our interactions, and I can’t help that. How I reflect and the conclusions and attributions I draw from my reflections are my responsibility entirely;
  • Cannot and should not ever become a concern of mine unless it becomes an issue for you to broach with me–then I need to work with you toward a win/win outcome if that’s at all possible;
  • Tells me, if I’m intuitive, what I (and only I) can do to improve or maintain things between us. If I’m ‘picking up’ anything intuitively, I’ll check with you first to ensure there is a truth basis to it;
  • Is important, but only to the extent that it helps us to just be ourselves together.

Mind games are no fun, not for the person suffering them or for the persons impacted on the other side of things.

We are best to discipline ourselves and hold ourselves to account, reacting to things only of pure fact. We’ll hence be amazed at what is not there!

© S. J. Wickham, 2009.

Steve Wickham is a Registered Safety Practitioner (BSc, MSIA, RSP) and a qualified, unordained Christian minister (GradDipBib&Min).

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Emotions, the Mind-Body Connection

By Janie Behr -

“A feeling sparked in your mind will translate as a peptide being released somewhere (in your body). Peptides regulate every aspect of your body, from whether you’re going to digest your food properly to whether you’re going to destroy a tumor cell.” – Dr. Candace Pert, internationally recognized pharmacologist, prolific speaker, and author, from her book Molecules of Emotion: the Scientific Basis behind Mind Body Medicine.

As the quote above describes, the human brain produces biochemicals that are received by every cell throughout the body. The mind-the thinking part of the brain-interprets the process as “emotions.” Dr. Candace Pert’s research began with her study of the way our brains, minds, and bodies respond to the drug morphine. When patients are in pain, they will experience not just their physical pain, but their emotional state or how they are “feeling.” The emotional state of the patient will probably be anxious, irritable, maybe hopeless, and possibly even angry. However, once morphine is administered to the patient and the cells begin to receive the molecules of the chemical through the bloodstream, the pain subsides and the patient begins to feel, among other things, euphoria-a medically recognized state of emotionally intense pleasure and happiness.

Importantly, Dr. Pert’s research discovered that molecules of a biochemical substance altered the patient’s emotional state. Dr. Pert went on to discover that the human brain produces opiate‐like molecules similar to morphine, called endorphins, which are the body’s own natural mood enhancers and/or painkillers. As her research developed further, she discovered that every single human emotion corresponds to a biochemical substance that is produced by the brain and spread throughout every single cell in the body.

According to Dr. Pert’s research, the chemical seeds of happiness and unhappiness are actually produced within each of us. Yes, the production of the chemical substances our body interprets as “happiness” can be triggered on or off by an external event or words spoken, but we can also control the internal production of happiness regardless of the circumstances. We can literally choose happiness and produce the feeling in spite of what is going on around us.So by this we can safely establish that a thing or an event is not happiness. Happiness is not a new home or new car. Happiness is not a new relationship. There are many people that are miserable with all of the same things or events that someone else is miserable without.

Check in tomorrow to see why people are waiting for happiness and what we can do to change it!

Janie Behr is a qualified life coach specializing in helping people find their purpose, achieve their goals, and explore all the possibilities that life has to offer. She is available for private individual coaching, group coaching and public speaking engagements. She runs frequent teleseminars dedicated to helping people find and live their most positive lives! For more information please visit http://www.janiebehr.com.

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