3 Simple Steps To Spiritually Awaken In Your Everyday Life

By Tim Freke -

Spirituality teaches us how to transform our state of consciousness, so that we feel really alive. It is easy to get so caught up in our daily dramas that we become consumed by worry. To deal with the pressures we often numb ourselves to the intensity of living, which means we miss the joy of simply being. When we ‘spiritually awaken’, however, we cast of the numbness we call ‘normal’ and truly appreciate the world around us. And then life becomes WOW! Here are 3 simple steps to help you transform your state of consciousness.

1. Remember to wonder

We are living in wonderland, but usually we don’t notice that! The easiest way to spiritually awaken is to remember to wonder… to look at the world around us with new eyes … to see things as if for the first time and the last time.

Shortly before he died of cancer the British playwright Dennis Potter did a moving interview, in which he shared the wonder that arises in the face of imminent death. Have a look at this and get what he is trying to tell us.

‘. . . at this season, the blossom is out in full now, there in the west early. It’s a plum tree, it looks like apple blossom but it’s white, and looking at it, instead of saying “Oh that’s nice blossom” … last week looking at it through the window when I’m writing, I see it is the whitest, frothiest, blossomest blossom that there ever could be, and I can see it.

Things are both more trivial than they ever were, and more important than they ever were, and the difference between the trivial and the important doesn’t seem to matter.

But the nowness of everything is absolutely wondrous, and if people could see that, you know. There’s no way of telling you; you have to experience it, but the glory of it, if you like, the comfort of it, the reassurance … The fact is, if you see the present tense, boy do you see it! And boy can you celebrate it.’

Life is WOW and Dennis Potter could see that as he was dying. But why wait until you’re dying? Now is WOW if you open up to it. Just take a moment to really wonder. As the American author Ray Bradbury says

‘Stuff your eyes with wonder … live as if you’d drop dead in ten seconds. See the world. It’s more fantastic than any dream made or paid for in factories.’

2. Enter the mystery of the moment

Life is a breath-taking mystery. We are alive and we don’t know what life is! That’s truly astonishing. Yet most of the time we become so embroiled with the story that we tell ourselves about life, that we don’t notice the deep mystery of existence. We live as if we know what is going on, when actually life is an enormous enigma.

To spiritual awakening we need to step out of the story and into the mystery. We can do this by entering a state of ‘knowing and not-knowing’. This means recognizing that on the surface of life we may ‘know’ a lot of things, yet also appreciating that deep down life is utterly mysterious and miraculous.

A simple way to do this is to focus on the present moment. When we do this our state of consciousness spontaneously changes because we come out of the story into the mystery. This is because the story exists in time. The story is how we understand life with thoughts. And thoughts are a sequence of words in time. You can easily see this … if … you … read … this … sentence … slowly … because … you … don’t … know … what … I … am … going … to … say … until … the … sentence … ends. And that takes time.

The story exists in time, so when we bring our attention into the present moment, there’s no story about the past and future. And this can be a great relief. In the here and now we don’t understand life with words, we experience the mystery of the moment.

3. Become sensually alive

Spiritual awakening is intensely pleasurable, because we truly appreciate all we see and hear and touch in this world of wonders. When we’re only superficially awake we only partially feel the enjoyment available to us, because we’re partly numb. When we’re ‘deep awake’, however, we find ourselves really savouring the pleasures of life. The body wakes up to how sweet it is to be alive.

To spiritually awaken we need to open the doorway of wonder … step into the mystery of the moment … and become sensually alive. We need to relish the colours and sounds and feelings we are experiencing. And as we do they become rich and vibrant. The world starts to sparkle. And there is an experience of profound gratitude that arises when we see how glorious life really is.

Tim Freke has an honors degree in philosophy and is the author of many groundbreaking books, including his newest, The Mystery Experience: A Revolutionary Approach to Spiritual Awakening. Freke runs ‘mystery experience retreats’ internationally, in which he guides others directly to a spiritually awakened state. He also performs as a ‘stand-up philosopher’ – a concept he developed from the ancient idea of a philosopher as a traveling ‘spiritual entertainer’ who transforms people’s consciousness. For more information, please visit, www.TheMysteryExperience.com.

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Peace With a Smile and Understanding

By Steve Wickham -

Many dreams commence with peace, as do many that wish to end there. But just like happiness, peace is elusive, whether we discuss inner peace, relational peace, or regional peace. Perhaps peace commences in a smile and finds its meaning in understanding:

“Peace begins with a smile.”

~Mother Teresa

“Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.”

~Albert Einstein

THE COMMENCEMENT IN A SMILE

A smile is so simple, yet we are apt to completely miss the elegant simplicity implicit in our smiles because we do not give ourselves completely to them. A smile is so solemn. A smile reverberates from our facial muscles through the rest of us.

Inner peace can be trialled in the moment we reach for a smile. When we grasp it we have it. It can be found convincing when we steady our conscious thought to consider the influence our smiles have over even us.

Then, there is the irrefutable power for peace in our smiles as they unfold in the lives of others. Suddenly our smiles are responsible for the achievement of understanding. Barriers are lowered and trust is nurtured. People seeing us enjoy life subliminally wish to enjoy their lives, too.

THE ACHIEVEMENT IN UNDERSTANDING

If we commence being at peace with ourselves through a simple smile, and such an action of love proves contagious in the midst of others, because there is no force in a smile, then understanding can be forged.

Peace is achieved through understanding; both via our understanding ourselves, and accepting our status quo, our conscious and unconscious minds aligned, and by mutual understanding. Understanding is central in the authentic congruence of peace.

By understanding we have reached agreement. And agreement is working in unison for a common cause; whether within ourselves or between parties or nationally or internationally.

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Peace begins with a smile and it finds its completion in understanding.

We all want peace but we often shirk at the cost, personally or interpersonally, that it will require of us. Such comparatively large cost, however, is transacted never more simply than via surrender.

We all want peace, but how much do we want it?

Is it worth the sacrifice? It is worth the sacrifice.

When we commit to smiling by our demeanour, even when things are tough, and to fight for understanding, when all is confused, we are on the path to peace.

When we can smile when we don’t want to, and choose to understand when we don’t, then we know we want peace. Peace can be a hard thing, but it’s really an easy thing.

� 2012 S. J. Wickham.

Steve Wickham is a Registered Safety Practitioner (BSc, FSIA, RSP[Australia]) and a qualified, unordained Christian minister (GradDipBib&Min). His blogs are at: http://epitemnein-epitomic.blogspot.com/ and http://inspiringbetterlife.blogspot.com/

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Let’s Talk About Luck

By Christopher “Divinity” Dines -

Dear friend,
(Editor’s Note: This was in my email this a.m. and I thought it was so good that it should be shared with those of you who visit this blog. Enjoy)

I hope you’re good today. The word “luck” is persistently used in most societies and cultures. We hear people credit the word “luck” after a successful or happy spell in their lives. We hear of people in music, entertainment, sports and banking who credit luck as their secret weapon, “I was lucky to get a break” “I was lucky to be in the right place at the right time” “We had a bit of luck playing today” etc. The question is, does luck really exist or is it a mythology? If you want to believe in luck then go for it, however what someone really means when they say they were lucky is that they had a vision, worked extremely hard, believed in themselves, put in extra effort and went the extra mile, helping others along the way and capitalizing on every opportunity that presents itself.

 

In this universe, which is predominantly governed by the Laws of physics, “The Law of Cause & Effect” i.e. (sowing & reaping, cosmic law, action & re-action & karma) there are no accidents. The thoughts, beliefs, ideas and actions that you produce today are shaping your “future” experiences. Think about it. When someone declares they had a lucky break by being in the right place at the right time, was it not their thoughts, feelings & actions that guided them there? They had to make a decision to be at the place of their lucky break before they could actually take any action.

The truth is your thoughts, beliefs and feelings create your perception of the world. Your perception becomes your reality. If you can learn to master your thought patterns, and develop emotional intelligence (emotional stability), you will attract greater people, places and things. When you take responsibility for your attitude (a positive one) you will attract “like energy” i.e. people and new opportunities to express your gifts, talents and abilities to the world.

We can say that we make our own luck however, never be fooled into thinking that the universe gives out luck like it’s a game of dice. After all, the world isn’t a poker table. We have a choice how we want to live but it takes plenty of work and commitment. Make your own luck from this very moment and give everything you’ve got into the stream of life. Then watch what happens. In good time.

 

Peace & Love

 

About Christopher *Divinity* Dines

Christopher Dines, is an English life coach, author and former House DJ. Christopher’s music alias was Chris Lopez and Splash. Dines’ career took off DJing at profiled club nights in his late teens and early twenties. He worked with chart-topping UK dance music trio Afro Medusa and remixed some of their singles. Christopher traveled the world as a DJ particularly in Asia then left the dance music industry in 2006 to become a life coach. Dines is the author of “A Ticket to Prosperity”, based on spiritual success principles.  Daniel DiCriscio was quoted as saying: “Christopher Dines brings a new energy that can elevate oneself to places one thought was unattainable.” Dines coaches and speaks at public events on motivational and inspirational concepts and spiritual awareness. Since 2007, Dines has been active coaching, public speaking and writing. He has authored A Ticket to Prosperity and the recently published The Mystery of Belief: How to Manifest Your Dreams

 

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Capturing Magic Moments Forever!

By Steve G Gamlin

This past week, I did something I felt I had not done in years: I actually took time to ‘kick back’ and relax. Other than a couple hours here and there, the last 7 days were spent sleeping late, spending time in the fresh air and being with my sweet, beautiful Tina.

I had to laugh a few times when I saw the clock in the morning as it displayed: 5:00…5:01…5:02. Without reluctance, my eyes voluntarily closed as I smiled (without entrepreneurial guilt, this time) for a few more hours each day.

The week was split evenly between Burlington VT and Dunbarton NH. We went out, we spent time with friends whom we hadn’t seen in months, and we enjoyed some deeee-licious food!

As much as my life is devoted to creating positive messages and following one’s passions (while enjoying life in the process), I must admit that I do not spend enough time allowing my own batteries to recharge.

It is a fact that I have allowed many ‘small’ things to distract me recently. The intricacies of my new website have bogged me down. A new e-book by my canine co-author Super Teddy Maximus has required a lot of my time. Several upcoming events have absorbed a great deal of my focus as well.

Last week, with all its relaxing, taught me a valuable lesson. Even though this new week means a back-to-the-grind return to busy-ness, I take with me the memories (and lessons) of my downtime.

One of my favorite moments came on Tuesday. While Tina was in meeting, I made my way to the docks at Lake Champlain. After climbing to the second floor balcony of a seasonal restaurant, my camera caught the reflection of the sun as it danced across the ripples of the late afternoon lake surface.

Who could have known that one random moment in the sun, with camera in hand, would lead to so many future smiles?

Even now, as I am preparing for a verrrrry busy week, this photo reminds me to ‘take a pause for the cause’, close my eyes, take a deep breath, and smile a great big smile.

These tiny breaks make a HUGE difference for me.

What keeps YOU going? We are all busy people. Times are tough for many right now.

Amid all the chaos of work, meetings, phone calls, etc., what magic moments make YOU smile?

Are there photos you’ve taken? Or memories that you’ve tattooed on your heart and in your mind?

If not, perhaps THIS is the week that you capture one, keeping it with you for the busy weeks on the hamster wheel?

Please remember that magic moments can happen at any time.

Take a moment, and capture them forever!

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Build Integrity Into Your Character

By Jeff Robb -

Integrity is a gift that once tarnished you may never be able to get it clean again. Integrity is not just about how you deal with business situations, but how you act in all matters from your home to your business and everything in between. A leader should never have their integrity put into question.

If you build integrity into your character, how you act even in your private life you will become a person that can not be called into question about your motives. People will trust you quickly and will remain loyal forever as long as you keep your actions integral.

I had a boss once who demanded that we be on time for all meetings. No matter how short the notice was, his expectations were expected. I can tell you that it took about a month for everyone to notice that he was never on time and the grumblings started. You can imagine what they said. Everything from, “He demands us to be on time, eh?” to “I quit!”.

Your expectations on others need to be met by you first. If you expect others to be on time for a meeting, then your integrity with your time management needs to be above reproach. Once you head down the path of expecting more from others, without being able to do the same, your character becomes tarnished.

Integrity is about an unimpaired or perfect condition. This means that your demands need to be perfect, or you will lose support. Integrity has much deeper meanings to it, but the bottom line is, you need to develop integrity as part of your character. Part of this process will be you reflecting on what you expect of others and ensure that you can reflect those same demands back yourself.

Take the time each night to make note of what you did well and what you did not do well. Ask for feedback from others and resolve to develop the habit of getting better everyday. Your integrity once integrated into your character will help take you to new levels of leadership. If you take the time to reflect and resolve to do better, your character will reflect the truth of who you are, words will not be necessary.

If you have been called to be a leader, take the time to really develop your character to the fullest you can. there are so many traits to add to your character. If you want respect, give respect, build character traits starting with integrity today.

Leadership is a skill that must be mastered and practiced at all times. For more information on leadership, check out my webpage located at Jeff Robb International

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Stop Negative Thinking – 5 Practical Tips

By Dian Winter -

Negative thinking is always toxic. It paralyses you and stops you solving problems, it distorts your view of the world and it’s the ultimate vicious circle – the more negatively we think about things, the worse we feel, and the more negative our thoughts become. It is therefore in your very best interests to stop negative thinking as quickly as possible, and the following tips will show you how.

1. Who’s In Charge Anyway?

Your mind is rather like your car. It can be comfortable, fuel-efficient and get you from A to B in record time, but it’s not actually doing the driving. You are! You are ultimately in charge of your own mind, and you’re responsible for your own thoughts. So the first step towards thinking more positively is to accept that fact. Make a conscious decision to stop negative thinking by challenging it as it arises. Remind yourself who’s in charge every time a negative thought crosses your mind.

2. Use Affirmations

Following on from the above point, you can program yourself to think positively by using affirmations. It’s said that Bruce Lee imagined burning his negative thoughts in a fire. You may not be able to achieve that level of discipline, but you can achieve a similar effect by repeating positive affirmations to yourself throughout the day. Try something along the lines of “I am in charge of my own thoughts and I choose to think positively.”

3. Choose Your Friends Wisely

Misery loves company, or so they say, so stop negative thinking by surrounding yourself with positive people. If your current social circle do nothing but moan, complain and rail against the state of the world, you need to seriously consider getting yourself a new social circle. Thoughts are contagious, so make sure you’re in a position to catch positive ones.

4. Mind Your Language

Avoid musty thinking, “coulda, woulda, shoulda” syndrome, and the big but. Words like “must”, “should” and “but” carry the seeds of negative thinking within them – “I really must get around to calling my friend. I know I should. But I’m really busy right now.” “I could take that class I’ve always been interested in, but I know I’ll probably fail”. Instead, use more direct and decisive language to stop negative thinking. “Can” and “will” are great positive words to use, because they inspire action – “I will phone my friend right now”, “I can take that course, starting this week”.

5. Be Realistically Realistic

Of course, negative things happen from time to time, but negative thinking is always an extra problem on top of that. To be truly realistic and positive, you need to accept criticism when it is justified, and put bad events in their proper context. Ask yourself “what can I learn from this?”

By following these tips you can stop negative thinking, freeing your mind to achieve your goals. You can find out more about how to stop by clicking here now. You owe it to yourself!

On my website you will find more free information and a video that tells you why negative thinking has to be stopped and reveals a little known image concept, that will allow you to develop a habit of automatically eliminating negative thoughts as soon as they enter your head: http://www.destroythedemonwithin.com

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The World Is Going To The Dogs!

By Wayne Kehl -

As I travel through my life, I have often noticed that dogs have some interesting effects on people. In the presence of a dog, even the gruffest, most hardened human beings can become soft and caring. I also notice that in the past few decades, more and more people are adopting dogs than ever before. In fact, I believe it safe to say that human beings harbour much more generalized affection for the entire canine species than they do for the human race. As a lifelong dog lover, my observations caused me to ask myself some very important questions about our puppy friends…

  • Why do so many people own a dog or wish they could own a dog?
  • Why do so many people stroke the hair of almost every dog they meet?
  • Why do people hold their hands out for olfactory inspection by even the scariest mutts?
  • Why do people enjoy watching dogs playing with their owners in a park or in their homes?
  • Why is human behaviour more patient and kind with dogs than with people?
  • What is it that dogs do to affect the emotions of people so deeply?
  • Why do seventy percent of dog owners call themselves Mommy or Daddy to their dogs?
  • What is it about dogs that make people so darned happy?

Of course some of the answers are obvious…dogs are cute, funny and fun to play with. Because they are not human, they are incapable of lying, cheating or bragging. In a wonderful way, they always display a childish naivete and sense of wonder. I was curious though, if there might be some deeper reasons why people love dogs. My curiosity led me to the following conclusions:

The positive influence of dogs can be traced right back to human infancy. Exposure to well-behaved dogs can improve intellectual and cognitive development in babies and small children while stimulating their immune systems to help them avoid allergies and skin irritations. With increased exposure to pets, even at a very early age, babies will learn compassion and responsibility for animals that will spill over to their relationships with human beings.

As children age, their relationships with dogs can help them improve their self-esteem, increase their empathy toward others, and nurture better communication skills. Dogs tend to give insecure adolescents a sense of purpose and a feeling of value to the world that they would not otherwise have. That confidence can improve their natural ability to socialize with other people.

A dog can provide much-needed companionship to adults and provide them with a purpose for living while encouraging a more active life. “Walking the dog,” is, after all one of the most common forms of physical exercise in North America. Studies have indicated that a dog in the workplace can bring employee stress levels down and improve morale. It is also believed that dog ownership can directly or indirectly provide some of the following health benefits to adults:

  • Lowered blood pressure
  • Lower cholesterol levels
  • Increase immunity to illness
  • Reduced stress levels
  • Reduced anxiety and depression levels
  • Diminished incidence of heart disease

I am not an animal psychologist or a “dog whisperer” but I think it is safe to say that the main reason people enjoy being around dogs is because they provide unconditional love to the human beings closest to them. No matter how aloof a dog-owner is or how mean or uncaring he or she might be, a dog’s naturally generous nature will cause the pup to come back for more. Dogs always forgive their owners their greatest transgressions as they optimistically strive for a greater share of the affection all human beings are capable of. All they want from their owners is love and the opportunity to love them back.

Dogs that are taught bad behavior by a human being might be considered bad dogs but even those dogs love their owners. A dog that has been trained to be aggressive or even vicious by human beings will seldom, if ever turn on his or her owner or trainers. Most dogs are inherently good natured. Even a vicious dog will strive for the love and affection of the people closest to him or her. They are only vicious because they believe that is what their owners want. Their aggressiveness is a desperate display of loyalty. Only a human being can create a bad dog.

If human beings could learn to be more like the dogs they cherish, the world would be a much better place, indeed. There might still be an occasional dogfight, but the abundance of unconditional love, generosity, and forgiveness would far outweigh any negatives.

Keep an eye on the dogs in your life. They might just help you learn how to get along with people just a little bit better!

All the Best

Wayne Kehl

Wayne is an author, lecturer and business coach in British Columbia Canada. You can find out more about Wayne and his company at http://www.waynekehl.com or http://www.dlionline.ca

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Using Self-Talk Tactics As Self Help to Improve Positive Thinking

By Mark Grey -

In this day and age the internet is full of resources that display techniques and methods of self help and positive thinking. What many these resources don´t mention is the tactics of self talk, this has to be a unique method when it comes to self help, and especially positive thinking. The mind is a very powerful thing and we will only ever get out of it what wee put in, or what we let others put in – so it remains vital that we use self talk to input some real positive thinking and vibes in order to maximize our self help efforts.

In general when we think of self help techniques, or positive thinking techniques the self talk tactic is very often overlooked and underestimated, and many people find it difficult to have the confidence in their own beliefs and feel they must here the encouragement from others, and this is a primary mistake. By talking things over with ourselves it helps us better know ourselves, and the situations we find our self in and therefore find easier, and better solutions. To ensure self help we have to ensure positive thinking, and to ensure this we must encourage ourselves and not wait for others to do so.

You will find that by understanding and learning the self talk method that you will soon be reaching levels of self help that before were unobtainable and that your positive thinking attitude exceeds what you were expecting – this is the reason we say that many overlook and underestimate this tactic of self help. To succeed in whatever we do one must believe in ones self, and to do this we must be thinking positive and encouraging our self – therefore self talk will become a daily part of your life, as will success.

It won´t take long for your positive thinking to help you improve with your productivity levels at work and home, you will feel more energetic, you will value yourself and your actions more – and this is what self help is all about, helping you succeed. Success breeds success and so positive thinking and self talk are two of the best self help tactics to bring you to that first hurdle of reaching success.

After you reach the first hurdle and overcome it you will find that the future hurdles become lower and easier to leap over as your new self help methods come into play and you find yourself as a natural positive thinking person. Self help is not complicated, but it is a thorough method of self help and to ensure that you gain optimal use of the technique I would encourage you to educate yourself about it a little prior to commencing the positive thinking attitude with this technique of self help.

So remembering that positive thinking brings success, which in turn brings further success, and with the urge to find a self help solution to improve your quality of life and lifestyle visit [http://www.positivethinking2009.com/] where you can find out much more about self talk and how it will help you.

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The Components of Personal Resilience

By Graham Yemm -

There is a growing amount of research and publicity about the power of personal resilience when managing pressure and avoiding stress. Despite this, many organizations still want to focus on stress management or wellbeing programmes. Although these are better than nothing maybe they, and their personnel, would benefit more from putting the attention onto developing people’s personal resilience. (There is a strong argument for also addressing organizational influence at the same time.)

Resilience has many definitions from the “ability to bounce back” to “The ability to withstand adverse events and stressful situations without falling apart, by actively and positively coping with stress” (Stein and Book) Whatever your preference for definitions, you can probably identify certain times and situations where you feel more capable and resilient. Maybe you can use these to learn from and expand the range of situations where you can respond more resiliently?

We have identified 6 components which we believe are fundamental to personal resilience. Each of these can be developed and thought of as a work in progress which you keep improving. Not only will strengthening them help to increase your personal resilience they will help you in many other aspects of your life.

Sense of purpose

Probably the core component of the six. It is the foundation for the all of the others. Not everyone is clear about their purpose and it is frequently something that you can define as you move through life. The stronger your sense of purpose the better equipped you are to handle challenges and setbacks and to recover from them. If you are not clear, it can lead to feelings of frustration or aimlessness. Being able to identify this can help you to feel you are having a more meaningful life. Do you understand the purpose in all the activities you engage in or do you experience a frustrating sense of why you are there?

For many people their sense of purpose is around one of the following, or a combination:

people – interests or hobbies – religion or spirituality – personal achievement or ambition

Positive realism

This component is something of a balancing act, between being able to think positively about situations and events whilst being realistic about what can be achieved. (It is not about some naive false optimism!) It involves being able to generate positive thoughts and feelings about situations. If you slip towards the other side, ask what do you gain by taking that more negative view of things? Practise seeing the glass half full, look at the positive and you will start to feel different. At the same time, a healthy dose of realism is good. It reduces the chance of having unreasonable expectations and subsequent disappointment. Keep things in perspective and it will help you to achieve these aims. Whether thinking about what might happen, or reflecting on things from the past, think positively and with the realistic perspective. Focusing on what is in front of you now can support this approach.

Relationships

People matter to us. Supporting and caring relationships are essential. Your interpersonal communication and skills can be an important element of your ability to be resilient and how well you can handle difficult situations or times. Having people around who you can reach out to when you need support or help is a real asset. (Provided you are open to doing so and do not think it is a weakness to seek support.) It is also powerful to be able to offer help and support to others when they need it. Developing your interpersonal skills to be able to adapt to a wide variety of people and interactions can help reduce the possible pressures created in difficult relationships.

Determination yet open-minded and flexible

How good are you at seeing things through? When faced with challenges do you deal with them by having a “can do” approach, being proactive and taking action? This component considers how well you finish tasks and things which you have started. Are you able to keep going in the face of adversity rather than giving up? Your ability to persevere when confronted with difficulty will help your resilience. An important part of this is your ability to be adaptable and open-minded. Rather than being closed minded in your determination, resilience is helped if you can be flexible in your approach to things. It prevents any tendency to keep repeating the same behaviours to similar situations and expecting different results! A willingness to explore options and alternatives will always provide you with a greater range of choices to deal with situations.

Self-Awareness

This refers to your knowledge of your inner self and how you think, feel and react. What are the patterns you have in the way we think about, or respond to, different situations and challenges? Can you identify the positive, more helpful ones – and those which might be less positive? Resilient people are able to identify the causes of their success and any failures and learn from them. They will accept responsibility for their actions and reactions. They recognise what challenges or situations are beyond their control and that the part which is in their control is how they think and react. Assess your own habits about your thoughts, do you live in the present and future, or keep going back to the past?

Self-management -self-reliance

This component is somewhat more pragmatic as it considers how well you know, and use your strengths and skills and recognize your limitations. Both at work and home, do you manage your time and only take on what you can handle realistically? Over-commitment is a major source of pressure for many. Aim to get your work-life balance at the right level for you and those around you. Take responsibility for yourself and your actions. As you build your own reliance you can become stronger at doing this. Looking after yourself is also important. Your health, lifestyle and even amount or relaxation and sleep will help towards your resilience.

For organizations, you can really benefit from helping your people to introduce some initiatives to help them increase their personal resilience. We know that stress costs your business, both directly and indirectly. Why wait until it becomes a problem? Support your people by working on prevention and start offering some personal resilience training or help.

Individuals can use various ways to assess themselves. Discussion with friends or colleagues, self-assessment, coaching or taking some sort of profile or questionnaire. (You could try our Personal Resilience Index!) Identify where you feel you could improve and where you feel you are strong. Think about your preferences or choices for how you could develop in the areas you want and take some action. Ultimately, it will help you with your quality of life and potentially help in all areas.

Graham Yemm is a partner in Managing Pressure and has 20 years of experience of working with organizations and individuals, internationally and in the UK, to help them manage time more effectively and to deal with pressure and stress. He can be reached through info@managingpressure.com or +44 1483 480656.

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YOUnique – Honoring Your Reality – And Everyone Else’s!

By Roger Kenneth Marsh -

How are you different from every other human being on this planet? While it is true that we’re all here sharing the experience of being human, and that gives us commonality, we are each totally unique beings having our own unique experience of life.

Think about it. You can see this truth in the simplest of things. Some people love the beach while others love the mountains. Some people love Chinese food, while others hate it. Some people love modern art; others hate it. Some people like trucks while others prefer sports cars. We are all having our own unique experience in life – leading to things we like and don’t like, that we think are good or bad – sourced out of the totally unique entity we each are.

How is it that you determine what’s true for you? Have you ever thought about that? Why do you prefer the beach or the mountains? Why do you love or hate Chinese food? Why do you love or hate modern art? Why do you prefer trucks or sports cars? Or why do you not care for any of these things at all? How do you know these things? Where does that knowledge come from?

One of the most powerful stories I was ever told, and one which helped me embrace my unique truth and experience in life, I call “The Analogy of The Tongue.” I know that may sound a little gross, but it is memorable.

Years ago a good friend of mine saw that I was struggling to really embrace who I was as a minister, an evolutionary advocate, and a spiritual conduit. I didn’t really know what was evolving through me at that time. In the model in which I had grown up, and the life I was living at that time, it didn’t make any sense. I didn’t have any context or precedence for it.

So he said this to me:

He asked me to name a food I do not like. I told him eggplant. He said, “OK, why do you not like eggplant?” I said “Because it’s gushy, mushy, usually gray in color, and has a paste-like taste to it. There is nothing about it for me to like.” He said “Great. Now, what if I told you everybody else is eating it, would you then eat it?” I said, “A lot of other people do like and eat it, and I still do not eat it. Therefore, no.” He said “OK, great.

Now, what if I told you you should eat it, because it’s good for you and it’s the right thing to do. Then would you eat it? Might you like it then?” I said, “No, I don’t care what you say about it, I know I don’t like it and don’t want to eat it.” He said, “Good.”

He went on to say “Now, is this something you would purchase, prepare, and serve dinner guests?” And I said “No way. I would not serve them something I myself do not like. In fact, I wouldn’t even know if it was good or not anyhow. So, no, I would not serve it to guests at my house for dinner.” Then he said, “Is there anything I or anyone could do to make you like and eat eggplant?” I said “No, I just don’t like it.”

He said “Great. Your purpose in life, and all things in life, is just like this. It’s that simple.” And he was, and is, so right. Your purpose is innate in you, as are your preferences for food. You like some things and you don’t like other things. You won’t try to like and eat eggplant because everyone else does, or because someone tells you you should, or because someone else asks for it.

So don’t try to force yourself into SOMEONE ELSE’S TRUTH! Eat and serve others what you know and like – YOUR truth. Anything else is a disservice to yourself and others. It’s not authentic!

You have a tongue, or a taste, for everything that is true for you. And this includes God. How do you know what God is for you? How do you know which religion or path or philosophy is “the truth?” You know because you test it against your own internal “truth meter.” You are always automatically asking yourself “Does this seem true to me? Does this feel right to me? Do I like this? Do I want more of this?” We do this with everything – and so does everybody else. This is how we find our truth – including the truth for us when it comes to God.

If each person has his or her own truth about life and the world, their own unique experience, then there really is no truth – EXCEPT – and this is really important – EXCEPT what’s true FOR YOU. Truth is a personal thing. Truth is created by you, for you. No one can tell you what’s true for you. And vice versa – you cannot tell others what’s true for them. Although, of course, lots of people try.

It’s important to realize that your truth ultimately comes from within you, not from some source outside. And, just as importantly, realize this is true for everyone else too. Just because something makes complete and total sense for you, doesn’t mean it makes complete and total sense for everyone else, or anyone else for that matter. Just like you, everyone has their own unique experience and perspective of the world. And just like you, they believe what they believe, and they like what they like, and don’t like what they don’t like, because that’s what is true FOR THEM.

We live in a community of many levels: from the family; to the neighborhood; to the town; to the city; to the state; to the nation; to the planet. We all have a role in the functioning of the community, at one or many levels, and it’s essential we each play our authentic, inspired role, and that we each know, own, and share our unique truth. At the same time, we must allow others to play their role, and own, and share their unique truth. Whatever that may be and however that may look.

Try this:

Take a moment to reflect on what’s true for you and how it’s absolutely unique for you. Think about how this is true for everyone else on the planet. Ask yourself “Do I honor my truth and determine it for myself? Or do I bow to external authority and tend to believe what others say is true?” Are there opportunities or areas where you can more greatly empower YOUR truth?

And just as important, ask yourself “Do I allow and honor the unique truth that others have? Or do I more often try to impose my reality and truth on them?” Are there areas where you could more greatly honor and respect the unique truth of others as THEIR truth?

If you can really get this, you will be free – free to fully be yourself, and free to allow others to be fully themselves.

Congratulations – you are one step closer to your mojo!

Roger Kenneth Marsh is a Spiritual Life Coach & creator of the Major Good Mojo System. He has an engineering degree, MBA, is a Certified Life Coach, HeartMath® Provider, and Passion Test® Facilitator. Get his book “NexGen Human” on Amazon.com, and FREE CD “3 Keys to Major Good Mojo” at http://www.majorgoodmojo.com/free-cd

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