What I want to share with you today is a conceptual tool, which if you choose to use it, is guaranteed to help you make your journey through life, an easier, more effective, and more fulfilling one!
I am talking about harnessing the Power of Belief. Learning to unleash your highest potential with the power of your own mind.
You may well ask, how can what you believe be so important? Simply put, what you believe, for better or worse, will determine how you act and what you feel.
Interestingly, in many cases our beliefs about ourselves and our world have never been subject to conscious scrutiny. Much of what we believe has been handed down to us. From birth onward, our parents, families, friends, teachers, clergy, media, etc., give us countless messages about who we are, what we can expect, what life is like. Unfortunately, as children, we are not in a position to evaluate the actual merit of what we are being told.
The famous developmental psychologist, Jean Piaget, demonstrated that children do not develop full adult cognitive capacity until around the age of 12. This means that much of what we hear up to that point slips under the radar screen of our critical judgment.
That would be fine if everything that you heard came from truly wise, sensitive and loving people, who had no baggage of their own and were always looking out for your best interests. But which of us has not experienced someone, perhaps many someones, well intentioned or not, telling us so-called truths about ourselves? Which of us was told we were, too stupid to learn, too small to get picked for the team, too lazy to achieve, too selfish to deserve, too plain to attract, too flawed to love? The killer is, that like little sponges, we absorb those beliefs into ourselves with toxic results.
Ask yourself this, if you truly believed you couldn’t possibly do something, how likely would you be to even TRY it? Not very likely, right?
On the other hand, if there was something you really wanted to do, be or have, and you knew you had unlimited resources and COULD NOT FAIL, is there anything that would STOP you from going after it? If you’re like most folks, the answer is a resounding “NO”!
The only difference between the first scenario and the second is your own belief about whether or not you can succeed.
Webster’s Dictionary’s first definition of the word belief is, “Acceptance of something as true”. Notice that it did not say that a belief was something that WAS true, but merely ACCEPTED as such. BIG DIFFERENCE! It means that a belief is not NECESSARILY a FACT.
So a belief is really just a type of thought, an opinion, a view. It may be accurate, but it may have nothing to do with reality or truth. And this is important: neither its popularity, nor the strength with which it is held, is proof that it is a fact.
Let’s look to history for an example. In the 1400′s and before, the prevailing belief was that the earth was flat. Everyone knew that. You didn’t see a whole lot of eager sailors pointing the masts straight for the horizon line. They would have had to have been crazy or suicidal to do so. Now there was a guy named Columbus who had a different set of beliefs. Since his did not include falling off the face of the earth, he was willing to make that awesome journey.
How about the story of Helen Keller? A young girl rendered deaf and blind by disease at a very early age. As she grew older, she became increasingly wild and unmanageable. Her adoring parents were in despair. Their choice? Put her in an institution, a particularly frightful alternative at that time in history or try to find someone who could make her more docile, like taming a wild animal. Capt. and Mrs. Keller BELIEVED that that was the most they could hope for from their terribly impaired daughter. They believed it would be CRUEL to expect any more from her. In desperation, they hired a young teacher to come live with them, hoping that she would be able to help control their child. Her name was Annie Sullivan. Luckily, Annie did not have the same set of limiting beliefs about young Helen.
Now you’ve probably heard of Helen Keller. But in case you haven’t, here’s a partial list of some of her accomplishments:
She was the first blind and deaf person ever to graduate college. That was in 1904. And she graduated with high honors. From Radcliffe.
She won the Presidential Medal of Freedom in 1964.
She was elected to The National Women’s Hall of Fame.
She is one of the hundred most important women of the twentieth century.
And in the book, The 100 Most Influential Women of All Time, she comes in #18 and Annie Sullivan comes in at #19.
When you’re telling yourself what you can’t possibly do, and you believe that, remind yourself of Helen and Annie.
Einstein said “The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking which created them.”
Nobel Peace Prize winner, Anwar Sadat said “He who cannot change the very fabric of his thought will never be able to change reality, and will never, therefore, make any progress.”
What are these men telling us? They are telling us when we are stuck, when we feel up against it, on a societal or personal level, that we must be willing to expand our consciousness and challenge our assumptions and beliefs – even our most dearly held ones.
Now I’m not beginning to suggest what it is you should believe, but only pointing out that you do, in fact, have a choice in the matter.
So here’s the technique I promised you: When you’re feeling stagnant on the job, unfulfilled at home, unsure of your place in the Universe, take some time and ferret out the limiting belief or beliefs that are underlying those feelings. Write that down. Then ask yourself the following questions, and write down your answers.
1. Is what you’re telling yourself an indisputable fact? (It rarely is!)
2. How well does this belief serve you?
3. Is there some other belief that would serve you better and What is it?
4. What actions would you take if you adopted this new belief?
Then take those actions and watch yourself soar!
You know there is a tongue in cheek definition of insanity that says “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. I’d like to propose a corollary to that, which says “Insanity is BELIEVING the same thing and expecting different results.
Belief is the mother of action! Choose yours wisely.
You can find out more on this topic by contacting the author, Susan Lebby Spector, Life Coach and Psychotherapist practicing in the Philadelphia area and serving clients in all English speaking locations via telephone coaching. She has over 30 years of experience in psychotherapy and over 8 years of experience in Life Coaching
Are you being held back by limiting beliefs? Having limiting beliefs can seriously hinder your progress in life. Beliefs are strong convictions that certain things in the world, and in life are factual or real. They are also an overview about the condition of the world. Your beliefs are very personal and are linked to your values. For instance if you value loyalty, you will most likely have beliefs like:
Most people are loyal.
There is no need for me to check up on my wife/husband.
I know that my employees are the best because they are loyal to the company.
My friend will stand up for me.
On the other hand if you value disloyalty more. You are more likely to belief the exact opposite.
People are disloyal.
I must follow my wife/husband.
My employees are crap! And disloyal.
My friend, he will never stand up for me.
Limiting beliefs are beliefs that stop you from doing something because you think that you can’t. Basically they are simple statements that you either say to yourself, or think about.
“I am not good enough.”
“I am always unlucky.”
“Everyone is better than me at doing this.”
Most of the time these beliefs are imperceptible. But they have a sufficient amount of power over some of your thoughts and behaviours. Enough to restrict your results in some area of your life.
Like for instance if you have the misleading belief that failing at doing something is awful, then you’ll avoid trying new things. Thus hindering your personal growth, as well as passing many varied opportunities that could improve your life. The thing is you need to accept failure now and again if you want to develop new skills and opportunities in life.
So where do these limiting beliefs originate? A lot of these beliefs are programmed into you during childhood by other people. For instance, teachers, friends at school and even members of your family. Think back to when you were a child. Think of all the things that you were scared to do, or dropped out of because of some negative comment by some idiot that made you belief that you couldn’t do them.
You’ll know if you have limiting beliefs by the words that you use when you talk to yourself. If you say any of these phrases to yourself then you do have limiting beliefs about yourself.
“I can’t do this….”
“I am not good enough.”
“I am always unlucky.”
“Everyone is better than me at doing this.”
These are the steps you need to take to change unhelpful beliefs.
Ask yourself, have I always believed this belief about myself?
How did this belief originate?
Is this belief still true?
How do I know if this belief is true? What evidence do I have to support this belief?
Do I know anyone with an opposite belief?
Do I have any evidence to support that this belief might be untrue?
Is this belief stupid, or absurd? In what way is it Stupid, or absurd?
Now think of a more empowering belief. Any belief that is opposite to the one you already have. Try on different beliefs. Beliefs that make you really feel better about yourself. Do this until you find one that fits. Make sure that you state your new belief in the positive. Like, “I can learn new things, I am intelligent.”
Now you need to integrate this new belief into your personality. Think of how everything will be different now that you have this new belief. Imagine yourself holding a conversation with this new belief. How will this new belief affect your family and friends. Over time this new way of thinking about yourself will start to become a habit. Eventually you will automatically generate empowering beliefs about yourself. Good luck!
About The Author:
Dion Daly is a certified trainer in hypnosis, a master practitioner in NLP and TLT. He also has a degree in metaphysics.
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Stanley was my best friend. The last time I saw him, we both wore our new Cub Scout uniforms. Stanley, however, occupied a coffin.
The church’s silence, the images before me, and the sweet floral fragrance contributed to my trancelike state. The minister spoke softly as he said, “Sometimes, we cannot understand God’s will. Stanley is in heaven.”
I was too shocked by my friend’s death to contemplate this notion, although I could see Stanley’s body in his casket.
I hid my grief and trauma. Just as each Cub Scout badge I earned was put away in a cigar box, nearly all of my childhood memories, along with my sense of loss over Stanley, were placed in a mental cigar box. I focused on my dream of becoming a scientist. Ultimately, I became a physical organic chemist, and I had no occasion to ponder death or spiritual matters until decades later when another death occurred.
When death again grabbed my attention, I questioned what had happened to Stanley and to all those who die. I reopened the box that hid my childhood memories, thus beginning a 25-year process of questioning the nature of our existence. My work involved biology and chemistry, but my quest to understand human existence also led to an expanded study of cosmology and physics. I tackled the big questions: Where did we come from? How did life originate? What is reality? How can mind and consciousness emerge from brain and body? I realized that science doesn’t have the answers to these questions-only suppositions.
Are we simply a collection of cells in a human body that eventually becomes ill and perishes when it fails? Many scientists support this theory, while spiritual beliefs contradict it. Is there a plan for us? Science explains our bodies as mechanisms of the material realm, ignoring the issue of any possible plan or design. Spirituality, on the other hand, views our bodies as both material and immaterial, asserting that there is a “plan.”
With the exception of physicists, scientists typically regard matter as being composed of billiard ball-like component atoms. This materialistic perspective leads to several conclusions which are incompatible with spiritual beliefs. The first conclusion by materialists is that reality is simply physical and that spirit, or immaterial essence, is myth. The second is that the mind and consciousness are merely the result of brain activities. These assumptions logically eliminate free will, since if all the workings of the universe and humans are mechanical, as many scientists posit, humans cannot influence the future. Finally, the third is that since we are but matter, when we die nothing survives-neither mind nor spirit.
But what is life? And what really happens after death? Whether a person lives seven years or 70, is life merely a succession of vignettes of memories, feelings, and experiences that vanish when we die? Is that it-like they never happened at all? Seeking alternatives to the materialistic perspective, I searched for scientific evidence for existence after death. Perhaps, I reasoned, many people embrace spirituality in the hope of an afterlife.
Healing the Rift
I pondered these questions, and spirituality began to inch back into my life. Beginning as a distant whisper, the voice grew nearer. The image of spirituality changed into a welcome friend who cherished our world. I found a fascinating contrast between science and spirituality and, in the contrast, I also found unexpected harmony.
My journey took me on a tour of the mind-boggling scientific concepts of the creation of the universe, life, and humankind. New theories reveal a startling view of reality. Recent breakthroughs explain how mind and consciousness emerge from body and brain, overturning previous dogmas and offering new healing methods. New studies provide fascinating insights into the possibility of an afterlife. Comparing 21st-century science with spiritual beliefs, I found that a new truth was emerging. I discovered how the rift between science and spirituality can be healed. http://www.squidoo.com/healingtherift] Leo Kim, Ph.D. was a research associate at MIT, scientist, and executive in the biotechnology industry. He studied with healers such as Barbara Brennan, Bernie Siegel, and Deepak Chopra, and is a certified clinical hypnotherapist. For more information, and to learn about his new book, Healing the Rift, visit: http://healingtheriftbook.com/
Daily, we decide when to arise, what to eat, what to wear and what route to take to work or wherever our destination leads. These are made with little pause or thought. Others require a little more insight such as where to vacation, who to date, who to marry, which car to buy and which neighborhood is best for security and schools.
The decisions we make, whether major or minor, affect our lives to no small degree and those decisions must be made. Some of us approach decision making with reluctance and dread being afraid of the consequences. Sure, almost any decision we make could involves conflict and dissatisfaction. Yet, we must take control and make the decision and accept the outcome, good or bad.
Decision making is a lot like bill paying. Both must be done and usually within a certain time frame. If we’re late paying our electric bill the consequences can be the discontinuance of power or a late fee.
If you fail to make a decision in a timely manner it could be taken out of your hands and placed in the hands of others. Avoiding decisions or avoiding paying bills may seem easier but results are rarely desirable.
Why must you make a decision? Identify the purpose, determine exactly what has to be solved and when. It might make the problem become clearer if you make a pro and con list. Study the list and the different choices and evaluate each in terms of consequences. If I make this decision what will happen and if I make another decision this is the result.
Determine the best decision, evaluate the outcome and make the decision. You might be criticized for making the wrong decision but you’ve done the best you can do with all the information available and you moved forward. You made a decision. You did something before being run over from behind. The only people who are never criticized are those who do nothing.
A key decision can alter your life. Accept this fact and approach it with eagerness. In the movie Sliding Doors, a woman’s life is changed dramatically because she failed to make it through a sliding door.
The movie gives us an opportunity to see how she handles each set of circumstances. This is probably an over dramatization, but illustrates the power and importance of our decisions.
Gather information on the decision to be made, determine the best alternative and put that decision into action. Look back only to learn from your past decisions but don’t dwell on them. Move ahead and focus on your future. Decision making requires a plan. If you don’t know where you’re going then one decision is as good as the other.
It’s a good feeling to make a conscious decision about yourself and your life and each time you do this the process becomes easier and your confidence builds. Make a commitment, make a difference and take control of your life.
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There’s an old saying, ”The only two things you can count on for sure are death and taxes.” We’ve heard a lot about taxes in these days leading up to the election and most of us don’t believe either candidate after they emphatically claim they will not raise taxes and then recite their laundry lists of things they are going to do for us. The money for what “they do for us” comes out of my pocket and yours. Higher taxes seem to be inevitable. But I don’t really want to talk about taxes here.
There are times that we need to talk about death. It’s going to happen to each of us and yet it’s the most avoided topic of conversation there is. How many opening sentences at a cocktail party begin with, “Well, what do you think about death?”
We are taught or not taught a lot of things about death when we are growing up. My first encounter with death came when I was six years old. My father died. He was in his early forties and died suddenly. I was in summer camp at the time (and hated every minute of it). One day one of the camp directors came to get me, telling me I was going home. My mother came to pick me up and told me my father had died. I had no idea what she meant – I was just happy to be going home. My brother and I went to the funeral and my father looked like he was asleep. He had sustained severe burns over a great portion of his body when I was a baby and, afterwards, began to drink heavily and became verbally and physically abusive. I was terribly afraid of him. Looking at him asleep in that coffin, I was afraid he was going to wake up and be angry with us all. I can remember being glad when they told me he would not be back and I couldn’t understand why my mother cried. But no one explained what being “dead” meant.
When I was seven I was introduced to to Sunday school and the concept of Heaven and Hell. Everyone who did not believe the way we did was going to Hell and it was a “bad place” with lots of fire and torment. The chosen few of us were going to Heaven and if you were really, really good you would get a higher place there. As I grew older the concept got confusing because I couldn’t understand how a loving God could be so cruel to those who had never learned about him or our church.
As I matured and was able to study with my heart as well as my head, I began to realize that I simply could not accept that concept of Heaven and Hell.
There are many beliefs about death and the afterlife and none of us can research it scientifically. Some people believe that with death your total existence comes to an end. There is nothing after life on this planet. You get one chance and that’s it! However, some have had near death experiences and have returned to life to tell about it – Dannion Brinkley (http://www.dannion.com/)and Laura Alden Kamm (http://www.energymedicine.org) are two. Their stories about the time immediately after death are about beauty, love and deep spiritual insights. They returned because there was work for them to do. I have heard Dannion Brinkley speak several times and Laura is a dear friend of mine so I’m not writing from “hearsay.”
Others believe that we have one shot at life and “getting it right” and then, at death are assigned permanently and irrevocably to either eternity being punished in Hell or being rewarded and rejoicing in Heaven. We live once on this planet in a body and then forever in torment or ecstasy.
Some believe in life after life – reincarnation – and that we have the opportunity to experience both the good and bad, the poor and the rich, the happy and the miserable as our soul evolves. As a hypnothereapist who has had clients experience a spontaneous regression into another lifetime to deal with an issue, I tend to go with this idea. We have a series of opportunities to learn and grow and when we die that spiritual part of us – the “I” that really is me – continues in another dimension. This makes sense to me but you have to decide for yourself.
This morning I read something that describes this for me perfectly and I want to share it with you:
We’re not wanting to be insensitive to what so many of you are feeling, but we are very much wanting you to put this death thing in the proper perspective: You are all going to die! Except there is no death. You’re all going to make your transition into Non-Physical. It is time to stop making your transition into Non-Physical sound like a subject that is uncomfortable, and begin acknowledging that it is something that happens to everyone. This death thing is so misunderstood that you use it to torture yourself never-endingly and just absolutely unnecessarily. There are those who feel such fulfillment of life and such Connection to Source Energy, who understand that there is no separation between what is physical and Non-Physical; who understand that there is not even a lapse in consciousness, that “death” is a matter of closing one’s eyes in this dimension and literally opening one’s eyes in the other dimension. And that, truly, is how all death is, no matter how it looks, up to that point.. The re-emergence into Source Energy is always a delightful thing.
I just put this on the table for you to consider, chew on and make your own conclusions. But sooner or later, we will all find out once and for all. Isn’t it time you thought it through with both your head and your heart?
As long as I can remember, I have loved God. It seems I knew God from my first breath or even before it. And in my lifetime I have searched him out, wanting to know and experience more.
I started out in a Southern Baptist Church and they taught me that they were the only church that had all the truth.When I began to ask questions because there were things I didn’t understand, I was told, “Everything we believe is in the Bible.”I looked there, many times, but didn’t find the answers to my questions.
When I entered a Catholic school of nursing, I found that I loved going in their churches, and I wanted to know more. I had been taught that Catholics were “of the Devil” but I didn’t find that to be true, in fact I felt that I had been deceived by those who told me Catholics are evil. They loved Jesus as much as the Baptists did and their liturgy was beautiful and held something for me that I hadn’t experienced before. But they taught that they were the only true church. Again, the questions came and this time I had to pour through doctrine and dogma as w ell as the Bible. My soul was still restless. [Read more...]
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