By Elliot Zovighian -
We all have these expectations on what we want our relationships to be. Everyone is a little different, but we still have the same fundamental desires… love, respect loyalty, and support. Although we may be looking for this in our partners, it is what we should be seeking within ourselves. As relationships are a reflection of who we are and what we settle for in ourselves.
Vulnerability isn’t a dirty word!
We have to stop thinking that being sensitive and vulnerable is bad thing. We are all afraid of being hurt. Love hurts because we cared so much, and there is nothing wrong with believing in someone, and trying your best. Sometimes it doesn’t work out, but it should never be something we feel angry or ashamed about. It’s happened to us all and they are valuable lessons taking us closer to the truer love we were meant to experience.
Walking the talk
No one is perfect. We all have our flaws. If we are meant to have this wonderful Utopian love life and relationship we dreamt of then we have to be the willing partner. It’s not about waiting to see if it comes in return. Be the love you want. Give the respect you want. Not from jaded hearts, and suspicious eyes that look for some imaginary emotional garbage at every turn. Life is what you make it. So is love. Be the love you want in return. If it isn’t returned… walk.
Live in the moment
Some people are so cautious. They take every step in fear and in doubt. Open yourself to be receptive to the love that embraces you. Accept the imperfections within yourself and your partner and stop sweating stuff that you manufacture in your mind, because you seek and ideal, not something that is real. Make love fully in the moment. There is nothing greater than being in the arms of your partner fully lost in the passions of the moment, surrendering to the love. When you can free your mind, you can free your physical manifestation of your love, and be in unison with your partner on every level.
Love is a reflection of who we are. It is what we want it to be. If we want to this great love that we’re all told we are to experience once in our lifetimes then we have to embrace it within ourselves so that we attract it from others. Love is inside us to give. Yet, we are the ones who taint it, and we are the ones who cage it. Once you fall in love with the love deep inside you, then you will truly never settle for less.
Elliot Zovighian is a life coach, speaker, author, blogger is the owner of EZ Lifestyles, a life coaching company from Toronto, Canada. His daily blog offers articles and advice on such subjects as life skills, work and career, relationships, parenting, featured videos and more. http://www.ezlifestyles.ca
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This morning as I was reading my book at breakfast, I read that question – “When is the last time you said ‘I love you?’” Hmm. It was yesterday. I hugged my grandson and declared, “Jack, I love you soooo much.” He smiled, wiggled down and continued his important mission with some trains, trucks and cars. Sometimes he’ll stop what he’s doing and come over to put his arms around my neck and say, “Gramma, I love you.” Sometimes it’s followed by “Can I watch TV?” but generally it’s a stand alone statement. 
Yesterday I watched and listened as the Pope, the leader of the Catholic Church, addressed the American bishops at the National Shrine of the Immaculate Conception in Washington, D.C. I was especially interested since I went to school at The Catholic University of America which is located on the same grounds as the Shrine and I spent a great deal of time in the Basilica. The Vesper service prior to the address was beautiful and uplifting and set the tone for reverence and worship and I felt “warm fuzzies” at the beauty of it.
