Happiness is not about being incredibly rich, going on an amazing holidays, having a huge house and a fleet of luxury cars.
It begins with recognising what makes you feel good. And since you aren’t exactly the same as me, or anyone else, that recipe for being happy is going to be a little different too.
You know that old expression “Simple Pleasures?” It’s well known with good reason!
If you can’t recognise the little details that make you happy, then you’re never going to appreciate the larger, more lavish ones either.
Examples of simple pleasures might be a walk in the countryside through fields and woodland, a gorgeous meal in your favourite restaurant (or even better, cooked by a special person in your life), getting immersed in a wonderful novel, or spending an evening with close friends.
But we can narrow it down even more than this. To precise moments of pleasure. Think about the moment you pause to take in your surroundings in the middle of that huge wood, with only natural sounds around you, and the cleanest, freshest air you’ve breathed in days. Or the moment when the first mouthful of that delicious meal enters your mouth, its array of flavours dissolving on your tongue and into your throat.
Imagine that moment in the novel where the murderer is finally revealed, or the couple finally unite, those moments that your read with your breath held.
Or the moment in your social evening where that rather silly joke had everyone in the house in tears of laughter.
It’s these little details, these moments, that bring us happiness.
When you stop to count them up, I’m sure you have far more of these in your life than you might first think. And the great thing is, the more you notice them, the more they will occur. It’s like watching the sky as night falls. At first it’s just complete blackness. Then out of the corner of your eye you catch a tiny glimmering star. The more you look, the more you stars you see, until there are thousands around you, and seemingly more still appearing.
Happiness is kind of like that starry sky. The more you notice and acknowledge those moments of happiness, the more they’ll occur.
You don’t have to get up and make a huge declaration each time, like: “Everyone stop what they’re doing, I want to announce that this is a very happy moment and I’m giving it my full undivided attach. You can continue when it has passed!”
But a simple smile inside, just to recognise those good feelings when they come, will lead to more and more happiness before you know it.
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Sally had made an appointment to visit with me. She arrived preciously on time. She was garbed in a summer dress. It was 95 degrees on the thermometer outside my office window. Sally carried a small handbag, pink in color.
The usual pleasantries concluded, I asked how I might be of service. Sally hemmed and hawed a bit. Finally, she came to the point of her visit. “Dr. Bob, it seems like I give, but get no gratitude. No one seems to take my attempts at gratitude seriously. They almost ignore me when I try to express my obligation to them. Both sides of the coin frustrate me.”
“Let’s work on your being grateful first. Does it feel that you have an obligation to express indebtedness to these others?”
“Well, yes. They do something nice to me and I hear my mother saying to me in my head, ‘Don’t forget to get those thank-you notes done. People are expecting them from you’.”
“In other words, you feel obligated to give thanks to them. Something from your childhood nags at you to show appreciation. Something your mother hammered into your thinking when you were a child.”
“Yes, that’s it,” Sally said.
I began by pointing out to Sally that gratitude is the crux of happiness and that happiness was the meaning of life. She placed a puzzled look on her face.
When you feel happy, you feel like you want to say something in appreciation. But it is not an externally motivated sense of obligation. I told Sally I knew I was walking a very fine line. Just because you hear your mother’s voice in your head does not mean you must respond with gratitude. On the other hand, to demonstrate thanks for someone’s support or care can spontaneously arise from your inward happiness.
Still, you don’t have to say or do anything. From a place of happy security within you, you can feel like you want to.
Then you express your happiness, which is the meaning of life. When you are in contact with your happiness, you are exercising your spiritual health. Whenever someone is moved to express recognition of the other’s concern, you have fulfilled your wish to communicate thankfulness.
“Sally, there’s the other side of this coin, as well,” I said.
Sally said, “One side is being grateful. What’s the other side?”
“Never expecting return because of your care for or support of others. I know it is tough to live that way sometimes. But if you dropped the expectation, guess what? You get along better in life.”
Do things for others out of the joy you find in your own inward happiness. This is the position you find yourself in when you give without expecting any return. Living this way is to experience spiritual health.
For you live like the Cosmic Consciousness. It gives and supports and cares, but never requires or expects anything in return. You do not need to ask for something in return because you are complete as you are, supported and cared for by the Soul of the Universe.
Being complete you seek to help others find their completeness by caring for and encouraging them. Besides, it feels so good when you are giving to others, in ways that are appropriate for you.
“Are you with me, Sally?” I said.
“Let me see. There are two sides to this gratitude coin. One is to give appreciation because of my happiness inside. The other side of the coin is to give without ever expecting anything in return. These two, plus happiness, are the foundation of spiritual health, then, of course, happiness gives meaning to my life. Yes, I have it, Dr. Bob.”
We said our good-bye pleasantries at the door and Sally was gone. Her step seemed to me to be lighter than when she came into the office. Maybe it was just my imagination.
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Often we hear the term inner happiness; what does that mean exactly? Many have found that inner peace and/or happiness is the key to a fruitful and happy life. Finding inner peace can be difficult, many find at some point they’re desperate enough to do whatever it takes to find happiness; whatever that entails. The alternative is a life filled with the endless chase of the all elusive phantom of happiness.
The opposite of this inner happiness would be inner sadness or madness. Looking at why one would suffer from such inner conflict can be broken down into a few different perspectives. One reason may be the individual had a conscience (which is a good thing), yet they’re not living true to that conscience. They may be living a self-destructive life style or constantly compromising their moral values. When we live in manner that is not consistent with what we want, or know is good for us, the result is inner conflict or unhappiness.
Another reason may be the individual has not real internal moral compass at all, yet they continue to put themselves in positions to be hurt by others. Or conversely, they find that they’re constantly hurting someone emotionally with their actions. Not understanding why they keep getting the same reaction can cause intense unhappiness and inner conflict.
The most simple way to look at obtaining inner happiness, is to seek within ourselves to determine what a benchmark for an ideal person or “us” would look like. In essence, what are the highest ideals we would like to have for ourselves? Once we have determined things such as; be less selfish and more altruistic, become a better worker, etc. we then have something to strive for. Keeping in mind that we must not be too hard on ourselves. Remember we are human and will make mistakes, so take it easy and work on a little bit at a time.
Many of us have that inner voice that is constantly talking back to us. At times it may be telling us we’re not good enough or other negative things. Learning how to listen to this voice is important in learning what type of relationship we have with ourselves. If we’re truly going to find inner happiness, we must start by building a nurturing relationship with ourselves. By building a relationship with ourselves first, learning how to love and respect ourselves, we are then better able to love and respect others; which many agree is an important part of finding happiness.
“The happiest people seem to be those who have no particular
cause for being happy except that they are so.” -
William Ralph Inge
Do you remember the Self Rich we were talking about in an earlier article? If I were to ask you to point out the SINGLE most defining characteristic of these people, what would it be? Happiness, no doubt. These people just seem to be overflowing with their self-made happiness. They go around with a smile on their faces as if they were drinking from some imperishable inner source of happiness. It’s almost as if they owned a beam of happiness. Come to think of it, you would agree that this is an essential part of their charm. This is one of the things that makes them Self Rich.
So, what is the secret of their happiness? How can you invite that kind of joy into your life?
First of all, let us define happiness. What, to you, is happiness? Is it:
Ø Having more money?
Ø Having a more fulfilling relationship with somebody?
Ø Enjoying good health?
Ø Living peacefully?
Ø The ability to buy whatever you want?
If these(or anything like these) defines happiness for you, that’s good. Because you are on the right path to discovering happiness, but you are only halfway there. Before I explain, let me speak of an incident that happened a few years ago.
A family – let’s call them the Jones’ – had been saving up for their grand trip to Disneyland. Parents were working really hard, putting in extra hours for the extra money. Kids knew that there would be no pocket money and cash allowances. All outings were cancelled for a year, there was no eating out and new dresses were looked upon with horror.
Finally, the father announced that they had just enough to make the trip. Everybody was excited. The kids couldn’t stop talking and planning and dreaming. Dinnertimes were discussion times about who would ride what and who would go where. The parents had their own plans and they quietly charted activities for themselves.
At last, the day of the trip came. Everyone trooped into the car and off they went to catch their flight. The family did exactly what they had planned. Everyone had a great holiday. When they came home, the father asked his children what they enjoyed the most about the holiday. To his utter surprise, his kids answered unanimously that they enjoyed the planning, scrimping and saving that went BEFORE the holiday more than the holiday itself!
Now, think back to such an event in your own life. You will agree with the children that half the fun in doing anything is the exhilaration of planning and executing. Therein lies the first rule for attaining happiness:
Ø Live every day in anticipation of happiness
Positive anticipation is the key to sustained happiness. That is why it is important to start your day on a positive note. That is why successful people usually spend some quiet minutes contemplating what they have achieved and looking forward to what lies ahead.
Ø Speak positive, not just to others but to yourself
Words have a tremendous impact on all of us. Even the words we speak to ourselves send ripples throughout our system. Each time you tell yourself that you’re a failure or that you are unhappy, you are sabotaging your chances of happiness. In a way, this is a piece of good news because it means you can achieve happiness by simply changing the voice that you carry inside you.
How many times do you tell yourself, “I have to cook” or “I must get there on time”? Now, change these words and tell yourself, “I choose to cook” or “I love to get there on time”. How does that make you feel? Do you see what a difference a few words can make?
Do away with your ‘I-have-to-do-this’ mentality. Channel positive thoughts into your responsibilities and your chores become happy milestones. When you take pride and joy in what you do, your life automatically becomes more fulfilling and happy.
Use words wisely. Do not undermine yourself or put yourself down. Remember your words can change your life. Your words have the power to make you sad – they also have the power to make you immeasurably happy.
Ø Share your joys to multiply them.
Like abundance, your joys multiply when you share them. When you put a smile on somebody’s face or do something to make another person happy, your own cup will overflow.
Donate to charity, volunteer for some social work or help a friend who desperately needs support. When you take the time and effort to share the unhappiness and problems of others, you will learn to be grateful for what you have. You will also experience the rich satisfaction that service brings. Try it. It will take years off your back and put a song in your heart.
Ø Engage in an enjoyable activity.
Have you ever noticed how good you feel when you do something well? Doesn’t it give you a high? Many of us perform these activities as a matter of chance, not choice. We feel happy for a while and then forget about it as life moves on. But what if you could keep returning to these activities at regular intervals?
It is important to keep doing the things that make us happy, deliberately and for the sake of the pleasure they give us. It could be painting, cooking or singing. Just go and enjoy yourself.
The funny thing about happiness is that happiness is really an individual decision, but we seldom realize this. So we go and place the fate of our own happiness in the hands of others. ‘If the weather were more sunny, I’d be happier’, ‘If my husband was a better man, I’d be happy’, ‘If my boss weren’t such a creep, I’d be happy’ and so on. You don’t have to wait for things to change before you can be happy. If you did, you probably would have to wait forever.
Remember, happiness is as much a state of mind as a decision. You can become happy simply by deciding to be happy. Your happiness is in your own hands – and that in itself is reason enough to be happy!
Make a list of all the things you hate doing. Now, try to frame sentences that make you feel happier about doing these things. For example, ‘I choose to clean my house because I love the fresh airiness of the room after a thorough clean-up’. Whenever you feel oppressed by a task at hand, re-write the unhappy messages in your mind.
Take the time to enjoy the little things in life. Watch the sun rise, take deep breaths and exercise your body. Feel alive and respond to the vigor of life that surrounds you.
Make it a point to do some activity that you enjoy at least once every day. Do it only for 10 minutes, but get it done. Your self-confidence will go up, and stress levels will plummet. You will feel a new joy in your being.
Do you hear yourself criticizing others? Well, change it: harp on goodness for a change. Look at the bright side of things: so you didn’t get that job, well at least you don’t have to say goodbye to your friends!
Lower your standards. That’s right – I really said that! When you aim for perfection in everything, you will end up feeling like a failure. You cannot be perfect in everything – accept that and allow yourself the right to falter in things that really are not important.
If you compare your life to the perfect life of the richest and the happiest person you see, you will always fall short. You then become the jackal that cursed the grapes because it could not reach it. Happiness is relative; whatever your situation, there is a lot to be happy about. Happiness is one of the easiest things to attract; you only have to think happy to be happy.
To be happy is something most people want on this planet and there are many ways of achieving happiness. Some of these ways are beneficial and actually enhance ones general quality of life. And then there are other ways that can make one feel happy for a short time and then cause them to feel a lot worse after.
This is because happiness doesn’t have one meaning for everything. What will make one person happy might not make another person happy. There are also different levels of happiness that someone can experience; from feeling content on one end of the spectrum, to complete euphoria on the other.
One way to achieve happiness is to accomplish a goal or to reach a certain outcome that one wanted. Here one will attain a feeling of happiness for a short time and soon this will begin subside.
How they felt at first won’t last forever and one’s mind may start to crave another achievement in order to feel happy once more. The enjoyment may end up being short lived and the next achievement consumes one’s mind.
This could feel like being on a treadmill that is stuck at high speed and every now and then, it slows down. Here, one is able to feel a sense of relief. But just as they are getting comfortable with this feeling, the treadmill starts up again.
Through craving or wanting happiness, one can easily start to forget about what they have. This is due to ones attention being on what they don’t have, as opposed to what they currently do have.
And based on the contrast that is created, it will be normal to feel unhappy and that one needs to have or to gain something in order to be happy. However, if one were to focus on what they do have and not on what they don’t have they might gradually start to observe a shift in how they feel.
This could take a while though, especially if one has got into a habit of placing most of their energy on what they have yet to gain or achieve in life. To be in this place, could be described as a place of acceptance and is another way to feel happy.
Another way to achieve happiness is through drinking alcohol, taking drugs or eating food. These might not always be useful one’s body and mind, but they will cause a momentary experience of being happy.
After consuming them, one could end up feeling far worse after the effects have worn off. Either through a hangover, a come down or through feeling bloated. So these are then nothing more than short term solutions or options.
What these examples show is that happiness is a transitory experience; it doesn’t last for very long. Once it is achieved, it soon starts to disappear. And when it comes to the mind, the law of diminishing returns is at work.
So what did cause one to feel happy at one point will no longer have the same effect as time goes on; something more and something better, will be needed. What did it at one point, will no longer be enough at another point.
The Ego Mind
When it comes to the ego mind, seeking pleasure and avoiding pain is the norm. To feel pleasure feels good and can allow one to feel happy. To feel pain feels bad and can cause one to feel unhappy.
The mind is then hell bent on the pursuit of happiness and this is how it functions. And yet when one consciously observes this process, it is clear that it’s a game that can never be won. Where there are ups, there will be downs. And where there are downs, there is likely to be ups, if one allows them to take place.
Of course, to be happy is something everyone should embrace, but to see happiness as the be all and end all is only going to result in more pain. For one thing, the desire for happiness or anything else for that matter causes it to be pushed away. When one seeks something they are telling the universe they don’t have and this will create more of the same thing.
To drop out of the mind and into the body, one will experience something completely different. While the body lives in the present moment, the mind only knows duality. One can get caught up in their mind and play all the games that the mind plays. Or they can be the observers of their mind.
Here, one can see that happiness and unhappiness is an experience that comes and goes, it is not who they are. It can be natural to think that one is either happy or they are not happy and that’s the end of it. But beyond these two sides of the same coin is presence. This presence is there when one is happy and when one is not; it doesn’t go away.
So being happy is the purpose of the mind and this allows it to avoid pain. The challenge is that pain is part of life and can’t be avoided. Life undoubtedly doesn’t always go as one wants it to go, people pass on, losses take place and the unexpected often happens.
And as happiness is transitory and can’t be maintained for very long, it would be easy to conclude that there is no other option. One is then trapped between the heaven of feeling good and the hell of feeling bad. Underneath this duality is having a sense of purpose.
This purpose is going to be different for everyone, but no matter what this purpose is, it has the potential to be far more fulfilling than simply being happy. It is inevitable that this will cause one to be happy, but even when one has moments when they are not happy, this will give them something more substantial.
One can then experience being unhappy, but the fact they are living their truth and a life that is meaningful can cause them to experience pain without getting too attached to it. And this will enable one to see it as a temporary experience and not necessarily something that one needs to completely avoid.
For someone who is living their truth and has a sense of purpose, they might be able to see how this grounds them during the challenging moments in their life. And if one unsure of what purpose of or what gives their life meaning, it might be necessary to take a deeper look at their life.
One could begin by looking back on their life and at what is currently going on and seeing what gives them a sense of being on course. Or what do they do that feels easy and causes their sense of time to disappear through doing it.
Prolific writer, thought leader and coach, Oliver JR Cooper hails from the United Kingdom. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation; love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With several hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behavior, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. Current projects include “A Dialogue With The Heart” and “Communication Made Easy.”
Quietly meditating can do a lot to boost your mood and clear your mind. But if you are just sitting and fretting, listening to the clock tick, wondering if your time is up yet, then maybe it’s time to shift gears. Maybe it is time to get up and dance your thoughts away.
I am not talking about steps and choreography. I’m talking about dancing like little kids dance. Goofy and silly, and whatever feels good. Dancing for all its worth can shut off your thinking. You clear your mind because you don’t need it to dance.
Whoever created the phrase, “dance like no one’s watching,” had the right idea. It doesn’t matter if you put on rock ‘n roll, African drums, or swing. There is some kind of music out there that will sweep you away.
As long as you don’t run into your furniture, you can even close your eyes. Music is about feeling, and if you can feel yourself letting go of whatever ties your thoughts in knots, then you can feel momentarily free.
Dancing Won’t Solve Your Problems
Way back in 1973, Dobie Grey sang, “free my soul, I want to get lost in your rock and roll.” When we lose ourselves for a moment or two into the sound and movement of music, it does not make the problems of life disappear. But it clears our minds of the extra clutter that we dump on our problems by worrying, over analyzing, or feeling guilty.
When you clear your mind by becoming totally absorbed in anything else, you can gain a new perspective. Sort of like how the air smells after a rain. Everything seems a little fresher, and more manageable.
Dance in Joy and in Sorrow
Dancing is not just about feeling good. Dancing is almost primal; an expression of human emotions that has been around since we lit the first fire.
No one demonstrates this better than the wonderful character Zorba, the Greek. Zorba’s story is told by a young, uptight and unnamed narrator, with plenty of intellectual expertise, but little experience in the muck of life. It is Zorba, the old man, who knows how life should be lived. When the young man has finally loved, and lost almost everything, his emotional and spiritual awakening finally begins. And he asks Zorba to teach him to dance.
Clear Your Mind Throughout Your Day
When we first begin a mediation practice, it is easy to separate our meditation time from what we consider real life. We push ourselves through hours of stress, then try to find twenty minutes to make everything all right.
But if we can dance, or sing, or do anything else that draws us away from being negative, then we can do that at any time.
What about you? Have you found that it clears your mind to dance, or walk, or listen to music? I would enjoy hearing what helps you. Just add a comment below.
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Are you your own worst critic? Do you also take personal development and spiritual growth seriously? Ironically, your very desire for self-improvement can make self-judgment even stronger. However, at some point on your journey, you discover that moving out of self-judgment is a crucial step if you are going to change your life and achieve what you truly desire. In this article, we explore the shift from self-judgment to self-confidence, which includes a surprising first step on that path.
Many of us learn from a young age to “be hard on ourselves.” As early as we can remember, parents and teachers told us what we can and can’t do-and the “NOs” tended to dominate. Of course, those telling us “No” usually had our best interests at heart. They were likely doing their best to help us succeed. We all do the best we can, given what we know at the time.
Unfortunately, because of their desire to help us avoid disappointment and frustration, we learned how we “should be” much more strongly than we learned to be “who we are.” We learned to fit into the mold. Self-judgment became a tool to keep us on the accepted path.
Now, as we journey through life, we may find that the ways we were taught to fit in don’t work for us. Fitting in just isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be. We feel stifled, frustrated, and unfulfilled. Our frustration leads us to look for different answers. We have a feeling that there is more to life and we want it!
A great power of being human is that we can observe ourselves in action, see our patterns, and make changes in our thoughts, attitudes, and behavior. We can wake up to what we are currently doing, imagine other ways of being, and take new actions to have better results. This is the path of self-development and spiritual growth.
Now, as we gain insight on how to “do better,” a natural reaction is to criticize “how we are now.” It’s natural to idealize how we “want to be” and measure ourselves harshly against that. It’s an easy trap to fall into. After all, we’ve been trained well in self-judgment. Yet, here’s the irony:
To shift to a new way of being, you must first completely accept how you are now.
This is essential for two reasons. First, self-acceptance is necessary for you to clearly see what you are currently doing. Second, it’s a step toward a fundamental attitude shift.
Self-acceptance enables you to witness all of who you are, so you can be very “real” with yourself. Acceptance enables you to see clearly because you’re not filtering what you see according to “what you want to see” and “what you don’t want to see.” You’re more likely to take in the whole picture when you remove the strong filter of self-judgment. You’re less likely to ignore things that you don’t like about yourself-and these are just as important pieces of information as the parts you do like. Self-acceptance is taking a neutral position towards yourself that helps you see who you really are.
Self-acceptance is also the first step of an attitude progression. It’s a small step up from acceptance to “appreciation.” When you start to see yourself clearly, you can appreciate the beauty of “exactly how you are.” You see your strengths and you discover that what you thought were “weaknesses” actually give you a unique perspective that can be useful. It’s that variety of exact details that gives you a unique niche in life.
From appreciation it’s another small step up the attitude ladder to gratitude. The more you appreciate yourself exactly as you are, the more grateful you feel for the gifts, resources, and circumstances you’ve been given. When you learn to look at life through the lens of gratitude, you start to notice the unique opportunities in every detail and circumstance. You begin to marvel at the infinite complexity and coherence of the Divine design.
For example, when you were trying to fit into the “extroverted” ideal that is celebrated in this world, you may have thought your introversion was a “liability.” However, the fact that you are introverted gives you sensitivity to inner feelings and experiences. That could make you a student of the inner life, excelling at practices such as meditation. As you pursue that interest, you could learn to describe meditative experiences so that others can understand and benefit from them. When you fully develop that skill you realize that your introversion is a real “asset” and not a liability.
When you understand, appreciate, and are grateful for your assets, you gain confidence in who you are.
Instead of struggling to fit in, you see that you are made perfectly for what you are here to do. There is a Greater Power and Intelligence at work that has created you exactly this way for a purpose. Self-confidence flows naturally when you appreciate your unique talents, resources, and perspective and trust your connection to the Greater Power that has given these to you.
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Kevin Schoeninger graduated from Villanova University in 1986 with a Master’s Degree in Philosophy. He is certified as a Life Coach, Reiki Master Teacher, Qigong Meditation Instructor, and Personal Fitness Trainer.
Happiness is that unrelenting joy, the undeniable Duchenne smile or an incredible peace of mind. Except, what is it that really makes us happy? Chocolate can raise endocrine levels and the idea of vacation time offers relaxation. However, they cannot define the intangible idea that we call happiness. In fact, if you’re asked to show someone happiness, you cannot. Why? It doesn’t exist. At least, it does not exist because of what we find inside or outside of ourselves.
From day one, we’ve carried around a rulebook for self-fulfillment, collecting the thoughts, opinions, beliefs etc. given to us. They are not our own yet, we continue to listen to them, whether credible or not. Before long, these ideas become immersed in our speech, and consequently our actions, so much so that we cannot ascertain our joy. We only have what others have described.
Believe it or not, we are the ones responsible for our own happiness. If it does exist, it is in what we think and say. Therefore, happiness is easily attainable if only we decide to create it for ourselves in our speech.
It’s like when we’re learning to ride a bike. We’ve seen others doing it, and attempt to mimic them. When we initially get on a bike though, we fall or crash because we lack balance. No one can teach us balance. We can listen as much as we like, but when it comes down to it, we are the only ones who can stabilize ourselves on a bicycle.
We can try to pursue what we believe to be happiness, or success, love, and the like. Yet at what point will we attain it? Who defines what that happiness is? And how can we be sure that all that effort will get us to that indefinable idea?
Just imagine, you can be happy right now. You just need to clear away the clutter of voices you’re listening to saying, “No.” The limitations we put on enjoyment come from the thoughts we’ve carved into stone based on what others (family, friends, media, etc) have said.
If you could simply say, “I’m happy,” you’ve defined your own happiness. Though others may claim that your situation is miserable, only you can decide that it’s true. If not, speech will manifest into action, and your own defining voice will carry through the cacophony of sounds embedded in your head.
We have been indoctrinated with the facts of life. Thus, saying, “I am happy” and being happy is a challenge. Since childhood, we have perceived happiness or unhappiness based on a reward-punishment system depending on the actions we’ve taken. People have told us what will make us happy or sad without ever asking us what we want.
Ask yourself, “What would it feel like to be the happiest person in the world?” If that question is a part of your daily routine, you will find yourself feeling happy simply because you said it.
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