People place their self worth in the hands of others instead of their own. They spend too much time thinking about how others perceive them. In other words, their sense of value is extrinsic and comes from external factors. These sources can be their peers, social institutions, or what they hear and see in the media.
Precious metals such as gold and silver are said to have intrinsic value. This value has traditionally been thought to lie at the heart of ethics. The intrinsic value of something is said to be the value that that thing has “in itself,” or “for its own sake”. Gold, for example, is non-toxic and never tarnishes or corrodes. These unique properties make it what it is. More importantly, it is SCARCE.
Just like these precious metals, you are a unique person with your own set of qualities that are not easily found elsewhere. You too are scarce. Regardless of what scientists have managed to clone these days, they will never be able to duplicate you. Your experiences and thoughts make you the person that you are now. However unlike gold, people do carry certain imperfections and can very well be toxic at times. Such is life.
But if you are waking up each morning thinking of new ways to learn and grow as a person, than you are consistently building your worth. You are not only becoming more valuable to society, but to your family and friends. Only you will know how hard you are pushing yourself to become a better and more enlightened person.
It can be hard to remember to keep this attitude. People are constantly bombarded by negative messages that can take a toll on their psyche. The important thing to remember is, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”. OK maybe that isn’t as useful as it once was but it carries an important message. If one person’s opinion of you can have such a big impact, than you have not spent enough time on your mental toughness. Let’s face it, the world isn’t all rainbows and sunshine. It can be rough out there. Developing a mental toughness doesn’t mean being hostile or defensive. It is simply there to help deflect the thoughts, words, or intentions that will stunt or inhibit your growth. As you develop a thicker skin, you will have less and less trouble shrugging off other’s negativity.
So start to see yourself as a unique individual who is scarce in today’s world. The workplace has conditioned people to view themselves as a dispensable robot. The reality is, nobody truly knows your worth but you. So don’t sell yourself short.
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As a writer and editor for a self-improvement online store, I come across all kinds of interesting methods for improving personal happiness and tackling low esteem. Some are a little kooky and out-there and some, like the self-esteem journal, are pure common sense and undeniably effective.
The philosopher and spiritual writer, James Allen, believed that an individual’s personal circumstances were fully within his or her control, because those circumstances, far from being the result of external factors acting upon the individual, were actually created by that individual’s own thoughts.
Thoughts, Allen tells us in his timeless classic (and highly recommended) ‘As a Man Thinketh’ crystallise into habits, and those habits solidify into circumstances. If we can capture our thoughts, observe them, then change them, we can alter our circumstances very much for the better. Nowhere is this more true than in the case of low esteem, a condition that has its roots firmly embedded in the thoughts of the sufferer.
This is where the self-esteem journal comes into play. Some recommend that the self-esteem journal be used for capturing and exploring those moments when the sufferer of low esteem feels at a low-ebb. While there are undeniable benefits to this, there is a danger that one is simply looking at the impact of low esteem and not at the root causes, focussing on the smoke and ignoring the fire. Instead, I would recommend using the journal before any obvious low esteem related incidents occur. Simply capture your thoughts as they emerge whenever you have the chance. Write them down in your self-esteem journal. And remember, you’re not interrogating yourself, you’re observing yourself. In other words, don’t ask yourself ‘What am I thinking?’, instead, write down what you’ve just thought.
At the end of each day, go through all the thoughts you’ve jotted down in your self-esteem journal. Highlight the negative ones. You’re not necessarily looking for the cause of your low esteem; you’re just interested in capturing harmful thoughts. In a relatively short time, you will become very familiar with your negative thoughts and you will be able to recognise them as they emerge. You can then stop them in their tracks and choose to think something else, something more positive which won’t feed your low esteem’s appetite for negativity.
For example, if shortly after waking, your first nebulous thought is something along the lines of ‘Oh God, another day, another dollar’, block it and instead think, ‘I wonder if something wonderful will happen to me today’. In your self-esteem journal, write down next to each negative thought, a corresponding positive thought. Practice, until it becomes second nature to replace one thought with another.
Of course, things are rarely as simple as that, and everyone is different. But there is something undeniably persuasive about capturing your thoughts as they emerge, writing them down in your self-esteem journal, making sense of them and then, most importantly of all, choosing to do something about them, taking control of the very seeds that can either erupt as the choking weeds of low esteem or bloom as beautiful flowers of positivity and possibility.
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“Trade your expectation for appreciation and the world changes suddenly.” Tony Robbins
Low self-esteem can be tricky in that it makes you feel like everything is wrong in the world, namely yourself. Unmet expectations can lead you to believe that your life is one rain cloud after another. However this couldn’t be further from the truth.
Do you remember coloring as a child? You were given characters or landscapes outlined with thick black lines against cream paper and with your colors you began your work. Blues, reds and greens filled in the lines, not always neatly, but the end was colorful masterpiece that was your very own. Your adult life is not so different. Lines swirl and join to outline the landscape that is our daily existence. Take your blues, take your reds and take your greens. Take a moment to color in of all that you have to be grateful for and when it is complete, give thanks for the ability to create such a beautiful masterpiece.
What things do I have to be grateful for?
I get it, this can be a hard question to answer especially after a difficult day or week or month. Here are a few blessings to consider for your list:
Special people in your life (family, friends, mentors etc… )
Challenges that you have overcome (job loss, injury, fears, life-changes etc… )
Natural beauty (you are alive, happy moments, nature, love etc… )
How can I remember to be grateful in my daily life?
Find a small object of meaning that is easy for you to carry around with you. It can be a necklace, bracelet or pocket-sized item. Every time you touch or see this object, think of at least one thing from your list that you are genuinely grateful for and say “Thank You”. This singular action will allow you to incorporate gratitude into your life on a regular basis.
I’m good at expressing gratitude towards others, but what about myself?
Begin by making a conscious effort to express gratitude towards yourself for a job well done. Too often low self-esteem leads us to down play our role in success by giving all the credit to someone else. While it is important to show appreciation to all members involved for a job well done, it is imperative to take a moment to acknowledge your contribution to the achievement. By recognizing the value in yourself, you set the expectation for others to do the same.
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Since most of us had little or no role modeling regarding loving ourselves when we were growing up, it’s often challenging to know what loving ourselves looks like. It’s through my work with my inner child and my spiritual Guidance that I’ve discovered what loving myself really means for me.
“All I know about “loving oneself” is to not let anyone (anymore) abuse me in any way, including yelling, criticizing me, etc. As I write this, it sounds like I just described “protecting myself”, so maybe I don’t know what loving myself REALLY means. I would love to hear your definition.”
Let’s look at what loving yourself means and what it doesn’t mean.
Loving yourself doesn’t mean:
“I’m just going to take care of me and screw you.”
“I’m not responsible for how my behavior affects you. That’s your problem.”
“If you love me, you will do what I want (whatever that is).”
“I’m only trying to help you and support you in what I believe is good for you — even though you haven’t asked for my help or my opinion.”
“I’ll put my full attention on you and sacrifice myself for you so you will put your full attention on me and sacrifice yourself for me.”
“When I’m hurting it’s your fault, and it’s up to you to fix it.”
“Since I need your attention and approval to feel good about myself, it’s okay for me to do whatever I can to get what I need — such as being overly nice, being angry, blaming you or withdrawing my love from you.”
“If you love me, and I end up disabled or dying as a result of not taking care of myself physically, that’s your problem, not mine.”
Loving yourself does mean:
“I am responsible for learning to manage and regulate my own feelings so that I don’t dump my anger, neediness and pain on you.”
“I am responsible for defining my own worth and giving myself the attention I need, so that I am not in need of getting this from you, and so I can share my love with you, including supporting you in doing what brings you joy.”
“I am responsible for managing my time, my space and my finances in ways that make me feel safe and don’t place an unnecessary burden on you.”
“I am responsible for learning how to access a spiritual source of love so that I can share love with you, rather than trying to get love from you.”
“I am responsible for taking care of my physical wellbeing – eating healthy foods, getting exercise and getting enough sleep, so that you don’t eventually have to take physical care of me, unnecessarily.”
“I am responsible for the effect my behavior has on you when I have acted out in ways that are hurtful to you.”
“I am responsible for taking loving care of you when you are my responsibility — because you are my child, or you are old, sick or disabled and I have agreed to take care of you. There are times when it is loving to me to put myself aside for you, like when you are an infant or toddler and you need me, or when you cannot take care of yourself.”
It took me many years of inner work to discover what loving myself looks like for me, and it may be different for you, since each of us has different things that make us feel loved and important. What makes you feel loved and important?
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I had a great training day the other day on motivation and self-esteem. During it I recommended a simple technique for increasing self-esteem which I have found over the years to work. One of my clients said, “You ought to write about that”. Hm. Good idea.
Dr Nathaniel Brandon called self-esteem the single most powerful force in our existence. On it everything depends. As he goes on to say: “Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is more important than the judgment we pass on ourselves.”
Unsurprisingly, self-esteem is a core component of motivation. Three key factors feed into motivation: our personality, our self-concept, and our expectations. In brief, the self-concept or self-identity comprises three main components: the ideal self, the self image, and the self esteem. The heart of our self-concept is our self esteem – there we feel ourselves.
The problem is – for many – that what we feel is ‘crummy’ or rotten, and then we go through the processes of disguise or of creating the false self images, or what Branden called the “pseudo self esteem” – a personal reality characterised and motivated by fear. This leads to living not in a universe of facts but in a “universe of people”, whereby people derive their opinion of themselves not from within but from others’ views. This creates dependency and lack of authenticity.
What can be done about this? Well clearly, read the books of Nathaniel Branden for one thing! According to Google there are 2548 references to self-esteem on my laptop; and 18,500,000 on the Web – so plenty to choose from!
More specifically, then, here is one technique that I love. Most people know of affirmations – repeating (a mantra as it were) a positive, present-tense, and personal statement to yourself. The idea is to hypnotise yourself into believing and subsequently manifesting the core idea that is currently not reality. So, for example, the great Brian Tracey’s favourite affirmation is: “I like myself”. One is specifically advised to repeat the phrase with feeling, intensity and frequency so that the sub-conscious will accept it. It can work but the problem is: the subconscious frequently doesn’t accept it. In effect it says, “Come on – like yourself? Get real – you hate yourself!”
One way round this rejection by the subconscious is to repeat the phrase but use a more deeply embedding process. For example, combine the affirmation with Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and the result is much more powerful. This really does work because the tapping procedure directly accesses the sub-conscious through the acupuncture meridians, and the ingenious methodology that Gary Craig discovered also involves a ‘psychological reversal’ tapping to prevent sub-conscious rejection! Wow!
However, not everyone has the time to go and learn EFT. So, here at last is something simple which I really like and do myself on a daily basis: ensure at the end of every day that you log at least 3 things, activities, or words that feel good to you. And when I say log I only mean you have to capture it in one sentence, so we are not talking about huge diary commitments. That’s it!
What’s so powerful about it, then? In one word: evidence. When you think about it, the subconscious is like a jury in trial. You say you like yourself, right? But what evidence is there that substantiates that affirmation? And when you think of this you remember that most of us seem to spend an inordinate amount of time logging all the negative stuff we do or which happens to us. How many of you have had an almost perfect when towards the end of it the boss came up and made some casual remark which troubled you till bed time and beyond? We seem to have an inordinate capacity to focus on the bad stuff.
By focusing on the good stuff, logging it, and then subsequently reviewing it, we remind ourselves of our best side. Even better, as in a trial, written evidence has far more clout than casual hearsay of memory. It’s almost believable because it’s in writing – it’s authored – and so an authority. Over time – and it’s not an immediate fix – we begin to believe, at last, that we are capable of goodness, that people like and admire us, and that within us there is worth. Ultimately we can become independent of others’ perceptions – we know who we are and we like that.
Give it a try for a month. Get a new note book. Use one page per day. Date each day and log three ‘achievements’ (no matter how small) or good words by you or to you. I have done it for eight years and the truth is that after you have accumulated this body of evidence you begin to feel pretty wonderful about yourself whatever anyone else may say.
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How often do you compare yourself to others? When you are with close friends, relatives, or peers do you feel inadequate or not good enough? Do you spend countless dollars staying abreast of fashion trends to feel accepted? Do you need constant validation? If so, you may be suffering from low self-esteem. Although this has a tendency to affect every area of your life, there are simple techniques to improve self-esteem and live more confidently.
First, one should understand the power of words. Remember the old saying “sticks and stones may break my bones but words never hurt me.” This cannot be further from the truth. Contrary to this statement, words can potentially hurt more than actions. When words are misused, they have a way of replaying themselves in your brain like a broken record and settling deep into your spirit. Words can affect one’s psyche and behavior and can be used for two specific purposes: to build and to destroy. Take a moment to reflect on a time when someone said something offensive to you. You may have felt confused, angered, and provoked to fight. In contrast, positive words tend to uplift and motivate.
As often as possible, your words should fulfill three basic purposes: edify, empower, and encourage. This principle does not imply one to be dishonest. However, it does challenge one to become accountable for the words spoken because they have the ability to physically manifest themselves in several forms including: behavior, tone, appearance, and relationships. For example, Beth constantly complains about the weight she has gained over the past year. She also complains about-what she describes as-lifeless hair. As a result, she has unconsciously become isolated from her friends and tends to use a condescending tone when others take pride in their appearances. When asked to try trendy clothes, she tends to make negative references to her weight and unrealistic comparisons like “I’m not as pretty as you, or you know I’m too fat for that.” Beth requires constant validation yet finds it difficult to accept compliments. Therefore, Beth seeks attention from any man who remotely seems interested to fill the emotional void-without regards to the goals and standards she has for herself. Beth’s new boyfriend claims she is too clingy and needy. As a result, she is left feeling unloved and unfulfilled. Because she did resolve these issues, Beth continues the revolving cycle of emotional destruction.
What would happen if Beth had a healthy self-esteem? Perhaps, she would have committed to a regular exercise regimen to shed those unwanted pounds and shopped for more form-fitting clothes that insinuated her positive features. Beth would probably exercise caution when it comes to intimacy because she understands her worth. And finally, Beth is more supportive and appreciative of others without feeling intimidated or jealous.
Although encouragement and affirmation from others is great, true strength and encouragement often comes from within. Start by choosing one positive quality about yourself. Afterwards, write a brief statement about why you like this quality. Each day, continue to do this. Sooner or later, you will begin to feel better and realize that you are just as important and valuable as others.
The second way to boost self-esteem is to become your own groupie. This simply means celebrating your individuality by edifying yourself and others. Common characteristics of confident people include but not limited to the following:
1. Easily embraces the abilities, gifts, and talents of others
2. The ability to express personal opinions without apologies
3. Influences others
4. Lacks fear but respects figures of authority
5. Accepts constructive criticism without feeling threatened
Becoming your own groupie simply means embracing your God-given beauty. Although this may include physical attributes, it goes far beyond this. Instead, it means allowing others to shine in the spotlight. Also, this individual tends to take pride in his/her appearance without the need to follow every trend. This person is comfortable making decisions and sharing personal opinions.
No one is created the same-not even identical twins. Everyone is different. Once we leave this earth, there is no one who can truthfully claim to share our exact likeness, similarities maybe, but not exact likeness, which confirms your uniqueness.
Third, think about what your clothes are saying? Did you know that your clothes send messages? Think about the styles you may see in department stores: risqu�, conservative, professional, and casual. Although clothes do not make the person, they can definitely give some hints about a person taste, lifestyle, and socioeconomic status, regardless of size. Think about the time you saw a well-dressed man in a suit. What did you assume? Perhaps, you assumed that he was successful and educated.
Although we cannot assume that every well-dressed person is successful and educated, we can conclude that clothing speaks volumes. Fortunately, the fashion industry has responded reasonably well to those who are plus-sized. For example, King Size sells fashionable, affordable men clothing for those who are considered big and tall while Lane Bryant caters to the needs of plus-sized women. The key is to buy classic, affordable pieces that compliment your shape. Learning about your body type can help you to purchase clothing that insinuate the positive and conceal the negative. It is simple. When you look good, you feel good. Here are 7 tips to help you choose the right clothing styles:
1. Research articles that specifically address this issue
2. Talk with a fashion consultant
3. Get accurate measurements
4. Inquire about styles to enhance appearance
5. Use accessories
6. Shop for classic and trendy pieces
7. Choose well-fitted clothing
Incorporating color is a great way to boost your morale and improve mood. Although this may be a temporary fix, every effort towards feeling better counts. Some psychologist suggests that colors have the effect to raise energy levels and communicate various messages. For example, red tends to be associated with sexiness and rage. Yellow and orange usually communicates vibrancy, and green is believed to bring harmony and prosperity. Regardless of the color you choose, adding vibrant colors to your wardrobe can enhance your appearance and improve mood.
Finally, a strong support system is needed to continue improve self-esteem and building morale. A support system may consist of family members, friends, instructors, and professionals. In essence, these individuals support your efforts towards personal/professional improvement. They offer constructive feedback, guidance, and support. Therefore, it is imperative that your support system include individuals who are both patient and understanding because of the time it takes to heal from emotional wounds. Associating yourself with people who are cruel and condescending only hinders your progress and leaves residue of failure.
In conclusion, no one has a 100 percent approval rating. Developing a healthy self-esteem requires continuous effort, time, a good support system, and incorporating a variety of techniques. Validation from others is important but to live a fulfilling life, encouragement must come from within. To solely depend on others to make you feel good is aborting your greatness.
When we give the best of ourselves, there is nothing worse than not having that giving appreciated. We can excuse a lack of appreciation if we know we haven’t really done our best, or if we know we have shared inauthentically. Yet when we have given our all to something, then we have a burning desire to see that willingness appreciated. What to do then, if we find that isn’t happening?
The first rule, is not to turn that lack of appreciation in on ourselves. We have to be willing to stay in our awareness and know that those who do appreciate our efforts, must find us. Perhaps those in our immediate environment cannot play that role and there may be many reasons why that may not be the case. But whatever the reason, their lack of appreciation does not need to be a reflection of who we are and what we have to offer.
Some of the best talks I have given have been to a half-filled-room with those who truly appreciated the content and style of my sharing. How much better to have a few who truly appreciate you, than to have many who may not get what you do, or who you are? It doesn’t matter what your area of giving is, be it being a great parent, employee, friend, partner, artist, musician, boss, craftsman, listener, teacher or student, etc. whatever your gift, you deserve to be acknowledged and appreciated.
So the second rule (there really are no rules just making a point!) is to value your own sharing, kindnesses, or offerings. Let nothing and no-one distract you from that. There has to be an innate sense of appreciation for who you are and what you bring to the world; an appreciation that comes from the very core of your being. In this way, you will not be rocked to and fro on the unstable base of others’ approval. You will be resting on the solid foundations of knowing your own value and worth.
One of the biggest indicators that we are not valuing or appreciating ourselves, is if we are resentful of others who are getting the love, acknowledgement or appreciation, we feel we deserve. It can be like a red flag being waved in front of our faces, churning up our emotions and provoking our ‘bullish’ responses. Why them and not me? becomes our lament.
In our hearts we already know the answer. Them, because they have decided that they will accept nothing less, at some level. Them, because they have come to know their own value and do not deny it. Them, because that is how they wrote their story and so the actors must come in to play their parts in that story.
Yet though that person or persons may allow validation or appreciation in that area of their life, don’t believe they are allowing it in every, area. Each of us have areas where we just accept and expect; to be appreciated, affirmed or acknowledged. In those areas we allow that energy in without thinking, and in fact it we may not even view it as a big deal precisely because, we don’t expect anything less.
Therefore, if we are feeling under-appreciated in some area that really matters to us, then it may be precisely because, it matters too much to us, that we are not allowing in our acknowledgement. We have given that area of our lives too much importance and so there is already a tension and subtle resentment, built into our story. We may constantly be peeking around the metaphorical corner to see if our appreciation has turned up yet. And that is a sure sign that it is time to loosen our attachment to that outcome.
Whatever our triggers may be around feeling unappreciated, the answer is to always acknowledge and appreciate ourselves first. We may have to explore what story we’re holding on to around that trigger, and see if we have to redefine and rewrite, that story in a way that it is more pleasing to us. We may have to let go of the need to have our appreciation show up in a particular way, or a particular form, so that the most nurturing and appropriate form, can reveal itself.
We are to rest on our own solid foundations. We are to derive our sense of worth from our own innate and unconditional value. We are to know that we are already appreciated, valued and validated from within, and then exude that inner confidence so that it shows up in our outer experience (as within, so without.) This is the path to receiving true appreciation, to offer it to ourselves first and then allow the world, to follow our lead… I wish that for you and I know without a doubt; that you deserve it.
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To be happy or feel good about anything you need to feel good about yourself. The feeling of self-respect and personal worth is the greatness asset anyone can ever have.
When we hear the word self esteem we know what it means (hopefully). But how many people have a good level of self esteem to carry through their lives? Going by the definition of Self-esteem by Nathaniel Branden- Self esteem is the experience of being competent to cope with the basic challenges of life and of being worthy of happiness. It consists of two components:
1) self-efficacy — confidence in our ability to think, learn, choose, and make appropriate decisions;
2) self-respect — confidence in our right to be happy; and in the belief that achievement, success, friendship, respect, love and fulfillment are appropriate to us.
Self-esteem is indispensable to anyone who wishes to succeed in anything. It is definitely not all you require but without it the battle cannot be won. Like Mind Juice, it inspires us to achieve and allows us to take pleasure and pride in our achievements. For us to be able to cope with daily challenges and development it is quite essential to believe that, we have the capacity to achieve what we need and deserve happiness in life. As simple as that may sound, it is not automatic. It is a choice you have to make and nurture all day of your life. It takes more than a change of scene; it requires a change of perspective.
It quite surprising is how quick we are to accept negative judgment and how serious our lack of faith in ourselves can become. If I have decided to change my look by dying my hair to blonde from black. I should expect to hear- “What is wrong with your hair?”, “oh no! Why did you?”, “Please, tell me it’s washable” or more ridiculous comment from people. Change is never instantly accepted. The truth is that how I wear my hair does not determine my integrity, its just a way expressing my creativity. So do not be scared to appreciate yourself. Express yourself, love yourself and celebrate yourself. Even when you do not get the support you need-Just do it! You would not feel praises, if you cant praise yourself. If you do not believe in yourself then forget true happiness. People are different- “First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.”- Mahatma Gandhi
If you look around in real sense, you will see that self-esteem is an idea whose time has come. We now live in a global economy characterized by rapid change, accelerating scientific and technological breakthroughs, and an unprecedented level of competitiveness. You cannot afford to remain clueless. You should not be found on a low esteem track at any given time. The society is not waiting for those that needs to be dragged along. You got to catch the bus on your own. The world needs people to roll their boat confidently.
An example is what is going on in organizations today. They don’t just need those who are qualified for the job. They want people with a higher level of independence, self-reliance, self-trust, and the capacity to exercise initiative. Basically, people with self-esteem. In order to play a bigger role in life, you need to visualize a bigger picture of yourself. Once you have that picture before you, it will be much easier for you to paint that picture into reality. That is simply build your from the inside.
There is no right way to regain your self esteem. Different people have their own version. Lets learn with these:
“Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden
Over three decades of study and of working with people have persuaded me that there are six pillars on which health self-esteem depends.
1. Living Consciously. To live consciously is to be present to what we are doing; to seek to understand whatever bears on our interests, values, and goals; to be aware both of the world external to self and also to the world within.
2. Self-acceptance. To be self-accepting is to own and experience, without denial or disowning, the reality of our thoughts, emotions and actions; to be respectful and compassionate toward ourselves even when we do not admire or enjoy some of our feelings or decisions; to refuse to be in an adversarial or rejecting relationship to ourselves.
3. Self-responsibility. To be self-responsible is to recognize that we are the author of our choices and actions; that we must be the ultimate source of our own fulfillment; that no one is coming to make our life right for us, or make us happy, or give us self-esteem.
4. Self-assertiveness. To be self-assertive is to honor our wants and needs and look for their appropriate forms of expression in reality; to live our values in the world; to be willing to be who we are and allow others to see it; to stand up for our convictions, values, and feelings.
5. Living Purposefully. To live purposefully is to take responsibility for identifying our goals; to perform the actions that allow us to achieve them; to keep on track and moving toward their fulfillment.
6. Personal integrity. To live with integrity is to have principles of behavior to which we remain loyal in action; to keep our promises and honor our commitments; to walk our talk.”
Always remember–”Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside of them was superior to circumstance.”- Bruce Barton.
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