So many people become caught up in the monotonous trap of existing through what they perceive life to be. They wake up and start their normal routine; eat the same breakfast, take the same route to work, eat lunch at the same restaurant, finish work, take the same route home, have the same dinner, watch the same TV shows, sign on to the same website, go to sleep and wake up only to do it all over again the very next day. Some people even consider themselves happy with the comfort of such a routine. To this I have to ask: when is the last time you laughed so hard it made you belly hurt?

When is the last time you helped an old lady cross the street? When is the last time you felt a sense of accomplishment? When is the last time you felt unique or special? When is the last time you felt real joy? When is the last time you felt like you really mattered to someone else? When is the last time you learned something new and grew as a person?

Sometimes we get stuck in our comfort zones and forget to actually live! Maybe it is because we like the certainty of knowing exactly what to expect out of the safe and secure life we have built. To me it is really just a cop out when we function through an existence and forget how to live. Are we really that afraid of change? Possibly even scared of being hurt again…and doesn’t that life of comfort become stifling and painful within itself? This is a form of self isolation we create by choosing only to exist.

We exist because we have to but we live because we choose to. It is okay to crave something different. It is okay to spice things up a little even if it just means taking the long way home. While you are at it, stop to pick a wild flower from the side of the road and then give it to a complete stranger. Sign up for dance lessons, reconnect with an old friend, make a new friend, plant a tree, get a pet, learn a new language, offer the neighbor to help bring in the groceries, buy a new outfit, change your hair color, something, anything, please just try something new!

So stop and look around, what small changes can you make in your life? Think of three, just three things you can do differently that will make you smile. Now go do them and when you are done maybe, just maybe, you will be ready to date again!

THIS is the difference between living and existing…

Denise Paravate is a professional matchmaker with 13 years experience in the dating service industry and is known as Miss MatchMaker. Ms. Paravate owns and operates MatchMaker International in Destin, FL. Her philosophy is simple: Give dating and relationships the same degree of thoughtfulness, time and effort you would give your career OR surround yourself with a team of experts to define and implement your dating and relationship goals. Then put your time and energy into developing and projecting the best version of who you truly are and you will always come out a winner. When you’re armed with the right attitude and strategies you will have more energy, feel better about yourself, and most importantly you will meet and keep the woman or man you deserve.

Denise Paravate authors a blog with insightful tips and advice at http://www.MissMatchMaker.net For more information about MatchMaker International in Destin, FL please visit her web site at http://www.MatchMakerGulfCoast.com

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 I believe there are seven spiritual laws you must live by to manifest true prosperity in your life. The discovery and implementation of these laws allowed me to turn my life around from abject poverty to abundant riches.

These seven laws are guidelines for living an abundant life — a life of harmony, joy, and prosperity:

•  Law 1: The Vacuum Law – One of the fastest ways to manifest prosperity in your life is to create a vacuum. You are surrounded by good everywhere. The only lack is the lack in your mind. Open your mind to receive prosperity and you will attract it to fill that space.

• Law 2: The Circulation Law – Miserly hoarding leads to recession. When you circulate substance, you keep the river of prosperity flowing freely. When you give away money, shoes, clothes or other items you are no longer using, get ready to receive your good.
• Law 3: The Imaging Law – Prosperity, like all forms of success, is created in the mind first. When you image things in your conscious mind, you are actually programming your subconscious mind to manifest them.
• Law 4: The Law of Ideas – We manifest prosperity by the power of ideas. If you can think of an idea, you can manifest it.
• Law 5: The Law of Reciprocity – What you give comes back to you multiplied. You can never out-give the universe. The more you give, the more you get back.
• Law 6: The Law of Tithing – You never know how your tithe will come back to you. Money is a common way, but it could also come back in the form of reconciliation with someone you’re estranged from, a gift, a new relationship, a healing or a promotion.
• Law 7: The Law of Forgiveness – If you hold onto thoughts of revenge, love can’t walk in. If you hold on to resentment, you are hanging on to being a victim. And if you are holding on to being a victim, there’s no space in your mind to be a victor. Release negative feelings, as they only eat you up inside and prevent you from manifesting good.

Some of these laws may sound familiar to readers familiar with the film The Secret, with its focus on the Law of Attraction. I don’t title any of these seven laws the Law of Attraction, but the concepts discussed in the film are what I call the Imaging Law. However I take a more practical approach, using manifestation maps, affirmations, and autosuggestion (from “Think and Grow Rich”) to help people program their subconscious to direct actions toward prosperity.

One of my friends, Richard Brooks, leads a visualization seminar in which he directs people to write a script of their perfect day, involving as many senses as possible. To write your script, make it a compelling and thorough journaling of your perfect day. See into the future — the day you take your company public, make your first million, or open that new restaurant. Remember to involve all your senses to make the experience seem as real as possible. You want to see it, hear it, taste it, smell it, touch it, and FEEL it. It is only when you first experience prosperity in your mind and heart that you can manifest it.

Manifestation maps are another great way to program your subconscious mind for prosperity. Take a poster and fill it with photos, drawings, graphics and visual affirmations of what you want to do, have or become. Put it somewhere you will see it on a regular basis, everyday.

I also recommend people use goal cards, positive statements in your day planner, or even sticky notes with affirmations on your steering wheel, mirror, or refrigerator. When you see these reminders, you think about the thing you are trying to manifest, and that emotion anchors the thought in your subconscious mind. The more emotions you engage, the clearer the picture is in your mind. And the clearer it is to you, the sooner you will manifest it.

About Randy Gage: Randy helps audiences recognize and reject roadblocks to wealth and prosperity with warmth, wit and wisdom drawing from his rags-to-riches story. A former high school dropout, Randy rose from a minimum wage job and spending time in jail as a teen to become a self-made multi-millionaire who has inspired millions of people around the world. He is the author of eight books on success including Prosperity Mind and Accept Your Abundance that have been translated into more than 25 languages and sold millions of copies worldwide. Follow Randy on Twitter at: http://www.Twitter.com/Randy_Gage and learn more about him at his public website: http://www.RandyGage.com and on Prosperity TV: http://www.youtube.com/randygage.

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We have heard that we only use about 8% of our brain power or mind power and that geniuses like Einstein used approximately 15%. (Different people use different estimates so you may read differing numbers). We marvel at those who can do extraordinary things like multiply long strings of numbers in their minds or tell you what day of the week May 21 will fall on in 1312. We are amazed when someone can recite the Bible or the dictionary or know what someone else is thinking.

You watch someone perform such feats and come away saying, “Wow! How did he/she DO that? I can’t believe anyone can do that.”

But the truth is we all have those abilities. We just don’t know we do or know how to tap into it and use it.

Today I received a YouTube video that brings this truth home and causes you to wonder just what you can do that you aren’t aware of. It is 20 minutes long and well worth the watching. You can view it below or click on it in the right side bar later.

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Although holiday gives you a real break from your routines, still not all of us can afford going away on vacations.

So what do I really mean by taking a break? Simply put, just stay away from your daily chores for a while. Be alone and enjoy the silence. You will find that it gives you the necessary energy to work more with great strength and a refreshed mind. You can just hang around in your house without answering any phone calls or emails. Stay relaxed and do stuff that gives you enjoyment.

We are not machines that can run without taking a small break. We are built with emotions and working continuously makes us tired and causes us to lose focus. This is true with persons who work with computers or are stuck to their desks all day. It is essential for all of us to take some time off work to stay healthy and help us regain focus, not only with our jobs but with other aspects of our lives as well, including relationships.

For some people, being able to spend some time alone helps them re-energize. They prefer to be in isolation, away from the distractions and concerns of everyday life. For these people, it is a special place or moment, quiet and serene; where they can be alone with their thoughts or to just simply feel free of any encumbrances or baggage. It could be as simple as a cup of coffee at a sidewalk caf, quietly and peacefully watching the world passing by or it could be a day spent at the beach with a good book, hitting the waves, etc. It may be a moment or a few days, whatever it is, it is a good opportunity for them to recharge or just catch their breath and be ready once more to face the daily grind.

A break may improve your relationships and bonding

Taking a break from your partner and loved ones can also help in strengthening the relationship. Even in a wonderful relationship, the benefits of taking some time off for you are a good opportunity for enhancing the relationship. You will come back with fresh energy and love after a small separation from your loved ones. In the meantime, it helps your spouse or children to realize your value in their life.

Even after years of marriage, people get separated because of frustration. Things can settle by itself during or after a fight if you take a break to defuse the tension and prevent it from escalating. Try to maintain silence throughout the day, if necessary, you can communicate by writing so things don’t get worse. Let tempers subside and frayed nerves settle first before trying to reach a solution or a compromise.

It would be even better if you stayed with your friend or relative for a bit of time if the cause of the fight or argument is a major issue. You will be surprised to see how a relationship can work well after a short break. Resolution and compromise are more achievable with cooler heads and not through escalating confrontation or recrimination.

Tips for taking off

You can change daily habits and routines. Instead of lunch in the office, go out to enjoy good food and atmosphere for a change. Go shopping, dine and relax. Wear colorful dresses which are reserved only for vacations. Sit down by a window and take a long breath. Watch those cute birds outside in a tree. Taking a break does not only mean a physical break from routines and monotony of the daily work schedule, you also need to make that break on a mental level. Come out of boundaries and inhibitions. Love yourself.

Productivity increases due to effective working hours and not through continuous working hours. For some people who work from home or run a business, there will be literally no break at all. You should realize that it is high time to take off and you certainly deserve it. Money is not everything in life and find out some reasons to stay away from work for a while. You might even get innovative ideas for your business once you go away on a real vacation. You cannot always fill your brain with numbers and details all day; you’ll end up getting sick and tired of it. Software professionals are keeping so busy that they don’t even realize how much time they keep sitting before the computer to finish the task. Peer pressure and competition may scare you from taking off. But stay cool and nothing will fall apart because of a small break. You can come back with rejuvenated enthusiasm and energy to work vigorously to reach the target.

Vacation is absolutely necessary in everybody’s life and that does not mean you have to spend more to travel. It is enough if you take a break sitting alone in the backyard of your house and enjoying your time by yourself, free of concerns and worries, if only for that moment. You will realize the importance of a break when it frees up the mind to usher in more new ideas and thoughts, and provides you with renewed energy and motivation to tackle the challenges ahead.

2011 Moira G. Gallaga

Recently resigned civil servant from the Philippine Foreign Service. Specializes in Protocol and served 3 Philippine Presidents as Presidential Protocol Officer. Assigned along with her diplomat husband and son in Philippine Consulate General in Los Angeles and Philippine Embassy in Washington D.C. for 6 and a half years.

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A lot of us have grown careless in what we say. “It wasn’t my fault we lost the game, I didn’t hear the whistle.” or “I was pushed over and my foot hurt.” Who has never made up an excuse to stop feeling embarrassed?

This covering up may seem harmless enough but over time a pattern of making up excuses can become an ingrained habit, a way of defending oneself against any inconvenient fact that might otherwise expose mistakes, greed, or failure.

As a way of avoiding criticism sometimes people unfairly blame others.

So if telling lies gets you off the hook why is honesty the best policy?

1. Wasted time and energy

Only a spurious conscience would worry about telling the odd white lie spoken to pull someone’s leg, or to give a needed compliment. However, lies that are used to defend yourself can grow and multiply and there can be a lot of nervous energy involved in not getting found out. You have got to make sure it’s a credible story that hangs together and remember what was told to whom at various times.

2. Not connecting with others

Who doesn’t get irritated from time to time by other people? Like with a neighbour who has not returned your garden tool or a relative who won’t take no for an answer. Sometimes one ends up saying nothing, or saying “it’s just fine” and pretending not to mind when really one does.

Not being honest actually takes away the chance of connecting with others authentically and experiencing the satisfaction of true friendship. On the other hand sometimes people assume that being honest means giving vent to their feelings without restraint and of course this can do much harm to a relationship.

What does work is to be firm with someone about your point of view without going over the top and without taking a blaming attitude. Honest communication can be clear and to the point, yet tactful and kindly meant.

3. Not feeling a sense of forgiveness

If you don’t confess to someone anything you have done wrong that affects the person, how can you hope to find their forgiveness? It is difficult to forgive yourself without a sense of the other person’s forgiveness.

4. Causing harm by gossip

We have all probably enjoyed telling tales about someone behind their back when they are not around to defend themself. Sometimes what we say is true but often we give a biased version, slanting the truth to bring out an unhelpful meaning.

Unfortunately a spirit of antagonism rather than harmony develops. Chinese whispers come into play as what we say is repeated and perhaps further exaggerated along the way and our put-downs have maligned the person.

5. Dishonest reputation

Honesty in business and professional life means being true to one’s word, honouring commitments, and keeping promises. Twisting the truth, exaggerating details, deliberately changing a word or leaving out aspects of a story in order to prove one’s point, are all kinds of dishonesty.

When someone’s dishonesty gets found out they lose their reputation for being trustworthy. And once lost, a reputation is very hard to recover. This loss can even affect their livelihood. Who is going to ask for professional advice that is suspected of being unreliable or who is going to deal with a dishonest trader?

6. Lying to yourself

When reflecting on a mistake you have made or something wrong you have done, it is tempting to believe the rationalisations that come to mind. It is easier to secretly but unfairly blame someone else than acknowledge one’s own mistakes; nicer to indulge feelings of self-justification and even self-pity.

But self-deception means living a lie and results in all sorts of anxiety because one is not in touch with one’s inner self. What is needed is an honest self-examination to acknowledge one’s errors as well as one’s strengths.

7. Preventing authentic relationship with God

Adam and Eve in the biblical story, after eating the forbidden fruit, tried to evade personal responsibility by dishonestly blaming God and blaming the serpent. Just think how such an attitude might affect the authenticity of one’s relationship with God. According to religion, prayer just doesn’t work without honesty: for the truth will make us free.

8. Distorted thinking

The truth is often sidestepped when we are experiencing a dark mood, or a feeling of anxiety, anger, or guilt. A distortion of what is reasonable can be an exaggerated way of seeing what is going on, or an over-generalisation unwarranted by the facts. “The plane will crash”; “I will die in the operating theatre”; or “The future is completely without any hope.”

Distorted thinking like this can result in worsening feelings of fear, fury, or despair – emotions which often result in unwise actions such as panic attack, violence, or suicide.

Better to be helped to think rationally getting a more balanced view of how things really are. For what is true has a power to rebut such distorted thinking.

Copyright 2012 Stephen Russell-Lacy

As a clinical psychologist, Stephen Russell-Lacy has specialised in cognitive-behavioural psychotherapy, working for many years with adults suffering distress and disturbance.

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It is a Saturday evening around 5:30 and I’m facing a decision. It’s not a life-changing decision but rather a little decision about how I’ll handle the evening. Relatively minor, in the big scheme of things, but one which has consequences.

I feel pretty lousy. Although normally healthy, I’ve been assaulted by cold and flu-like symptoms these past few days. It seems to be getting the worst of me, tonight, since I just returned from an all day meeting. An all-day meeting on a Saturday. One that I didn’t really want to attend, so I’m not in the best mood. And then Judy (my wife) has been home doing my books (end of month and year accounting). That’s never fun. She hasn’t exactly been doing what she’s wanted all day either. And, on top of that, there are usually a few things she has to talk to me about when she finishes the books, things I haven’t handled just right. She is a stickler for detail, thank goodness. But, I can feel some criticism and complaints coming my way. I’m not looking forward to it.

So I think about what I want. I want to come from a good place tonight. I don’t want to talk (complain) about how I feel. In fact, I want goodwill to override the minor aches and pains I’m feeling right now. I’d like to spend some good time with Judy. Let her give me feedback about the books. Not defend. Know that she’s right. Ask more about her day. Listen to her. Enjoy her company. Spend time in the kitchen getting dinner. (She probably won’t let me touch the food.) Let go of my preoccupations with my sickness and “to-do” list for next week.

Yup. That seems about right. Seemly small decisions but decisions nonetheless that lead me down the path I want; a path that fits with my purpose and vision for myself. A path of knowing that I can over-ride some natural tendencies. I can choose what this evening will be like for me.

There are big decisions that determine our fate. But there are also small, day-to-day decisions. It is these small decisions that validate and reinforce the big decisions. Life is difficult, in big and small ways. But what matters more is my ability to choose, to decide. That’s the lesson I want to learn. I think I’ll practice it tonight.

Roger K. Allen, Ph.D., author of The Hero’s Choice: Living from the Inside Out, is an expert in personal transformation, leadership and teams. His tools and methods have helped hundreds of businesses and tens of thousands of people transform the ways they work and live. Learn more at http://www.theheroschoice.com.

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The French Have a Saying, “comfortable dans votre peau,” which means looking and feeling comfortable in your skin. Science can unveil its latest beauty theory, Hollywood can showcase its dewiest starlets, fashion magazines can parade their stable of underweight models, your mother can criticize your hairstyle, cosmetic companies can display their latest colors specially designed for complexions different to yours. Some random guy on the street may inform you he’d like your breasts better if they were a different size. When it comes down to it, however, you are the only person who can make others see you as beautiful. No, this doesn’t require magic, spell-casting, or mind control; it takes self-esteem.

Humans not only perceive, but are also influenced by, each other’s feelings. If people sense your self-hatred, there’s a good chance they’ll see you the way you subconsciously tell them to see you. In other words, you’ve got to believe you are attractive before other people will believe it. Throughout history, there have been beauties who could have been deemed too unusual, too plain, too ugly, too something, to be beautiful. Yet these smart ladies have ignored what society says is beautiful. They realize that to stand apart they must celebrate their own unique looks. We react to their self-comfort and are as comfortable with their beauty as they are.

Learning to appreciate yourself

Instead of worrying about what you look like, realize that your looks are only a small portion of what makes you unique. Take your mind off this small component and focus on your other characteristics, such as your spirituality, your generosity, your career, and your relationships with others. Always be aware that your body and face were created first and foremost to be functional.

Next time you compare yourself to a cover model, bring yourself back to reality with this tidbit: the average fashion model in 1968 weighed 8 percent less than the average woman; a model today weighs 23 percent less.

Celebrate your eyes, nose, mouth, and ears by bird-watching, smelling roses, enjoying a terrific meal, going to the symphony. Learning to appreciate your body and face for what they can do ­instead of how they look – helps boost your self-esteem. If you are comfortable and relaxed about the way you look, you will have a natural radiance and elegance about you.

Be happy being you

Celebrate the looks you were born with and play to your strong points. This may mean ignoring current fashion and wearing something that makes you feel good, whether that something be purple eye shadow that makes your green eyes shine like jade or an outdated hairstyle that plays up your bold profile.

When you are confronted with a media image of unrealistic beauty, ask yourself what it is about the image that is unnatural. You could write to or phone the television station or magazine responsible and let them know your thoughts. If your self-esteem is low, try reading confidence-boosting books, associating with positive people, or even visiting a therapist for professional help.

Don’t dwell on airbrushed images of underweight models. Eleanor Roosevelt knew what she was talking about when she said no one (or no thing) can make us feel inferior without our permission.

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In a previous article, we discussed how to recognize passive aggression, and how the passive aggressive person communicates his or her emotions. Passive aggressive behavior takes many forms but can generally be described as a non-verbal aggression that manifests in negative behavior.

Instead of communicating honestly when they feel upset, annoyed, irritated or disappointed, a passive aggressive person will bottle the feelings up, shut off verbally, give angry looks, make obvious changes in behavior, be obstructive, sulky or put up a stone wall. It may also involve indirectly resisting requests from others by evading or creating confusion around the issue. It can either be covert (concealed and hidden) or overt (blatant and obvious).

A passive aggressive person is keen to avoid show how much is angry or resentful. They will cover up their anger with an appearance of agreement and friendliness by using kind words.

We all shut off sometimes, and keep our feelings bottled up. However, letting that become a normal way of interacting with people (because you’ve been hurt and can’t trust others, or because it’s just “easier”) can lead you down a dangerous road to passive aggression. Once you make passive aggression, your pattern of interacting with others, it’s very hard to keep friends and loved ones close, and you’ll find it hard to keep personal connections alive.

Perhaps you think that there is nothing wrong with not showing anger – that it is “zen,” “manly,” or “stoic.” There is nothing wrong, of course, with being in control of your emotions.

There is something wrong, though, with pretending that those emotions don’t exist. This passive aggressive behavior, done consistently, destroys trust between friends and significant others.

Ask yourself, what is the purpose of an intimate relationship if you can’t show your feelings? Sex? Financial support? Why not just get a hooker or a good job then? Even if you don’t want to admit it, emotional connection and support is probably important to you (it’s sort of an instinctive need in us humans, actually). You won’t be able to get it when you’re shutting yourself off passive aggressively, which means hiding your pain (anger, sadness, disappointment) will only actually cause more pain.

It creates negative energy in your partner, who feels that you don’t trust them. They get angry at you, and then you get angry at them for being angry, and then you don’t express it and withdraw more…. and round and round it goes.

Ask yourself – are you doing anybody favors by pushing your emotions deep down inside?

Aren’t you hurting anybody, including yourself?

You may feel that if you express your real emotions you won’t be accepted. In this case, you may be in danger of hurting people through passive aggression because you feel that they can’t (or won’t) love the real you.

This is your low self-esteem talking, and it’s time you started talking back.

Next time you’re feeling something strong and are going to (once again) pretend everything is okay, kindly open a door in your mind and kick that self-hating voice out onto the street.

Repeat this: “I am a person worthy of love, and I will show it by expressing my emotions in a grown-up and respectful way.”

Nora Femenia is a well known coach, conflict solver and trainer, and CEO of Creative Conflict Resolutions, Inc. You can find innovative and effective solutions for passive aggression behavior solutions at her website:
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I have written a lot about not giving up and the importance of pressing through difficult times until you succeed. You have probably heard a lot of things about not giving up but one thing that isn’t discussed much is letting go. Sometimes you need to know when to cut your losses and move one. So what’s the difference?

Truly successful people know when to cut their losses and when to keep pressing on. The first thing that you need to consider is purpose of what you are doing. If you know in your heart of hearts that what you are doing is part of your purpose in life, you probably should never give up. Instead, the best thing to do is to keep trying different things until you figure out the secret combination that unlocks success for you.

A great thing for you to do whenever you start something is to figure out what your pullout point is. In business this might be a certain amount of money that is lost. For instance, you might be willing to loose one hundred thousand dollars on a project. Once you reach that point you will quit and move onto something else.

This is much different then just quitting something because you feel like it’s getting tough. If you give up because something doesn’t go the way you thought it would or it’s harder then you thought, you are giving up for the wrong reasons. Letting go is part of a successful strategy where giving up is part of failure.

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We can all say a big thank you to our mums on mother’s day. Over the years I have sent many bouquets to my mother. Did you know that this special anniversary has been officially recognised since May 10th 1908. The woman who had this day dedicated to her was known as Anne Jarvis. Anne was born in 1832 in Virginia, USA. Married at 20 it is believed that she had as many as 12 children, most of whom did not live into adulthood. Diseases such as, diphtheria, scarlet fever and whooping cough claimed the lives of most of her children. Ann realised that poor sanitation, including uncovered garbage and bad ventilation contributed to the spread of disease. Putting aside her own grief, Ann Jarvis became a community activist. Anne launched designated days for mothers where local women came together to improve their surroundings.

During the civil war, she organised women to nurse wounded soldiers from both sides of the divide. Anne had a massive influence on the lives of many women of the time, her own daughter Anna devoted much of her life to campaigning for a national holiday to recognise and commemorate all mothers particularly Ann’s. The first official mother’s day service was held on May 10, 1908 in a Methodist church in West Virginia. Anne saw it as a day to show love and gratitude, she suggested that white carnations represent family bonds. This American tradition has spread across the water and “a happy mother’s day is a tradition embraced by people in lots of countries” Giving your mother flowers on mother’s day is a wonderful way of showing your gratitude and love for a mothers love.

Flowers are said to give instant pleasure and happiness. Rutgers: University researcher Jennette Haviland-Jones Ph.D. explored the emotional impact that the receiving of flowers has on people.

It first of all revealed that those who send flowers, in comparison to other gifts, are viewed as successful, caring and emotionally intelligent people. For the person on the receiving end of this gift is the pure delight and positive emotion that they can evoke.

Flowers are not just for special occasions. It is commonplace to send flowers to your mother on mother’s day, to your lover on Valentine’s day, or to a grieving relative or friend, if you use your imagination a little, flowers can be given in between all of the “occasions” just to show someone you care.

The list is endless as are the types of flowers themselves. Giving them to someone you work with, the giving of flowers is not always a declaration of love, it is sometimes a show of appreciation, a thank you for getting the job done, a big well done and beneficial to everyone in the office! Giving flowers to the rebellious teenager; as a thank you for cleaning their room, this may on the face of it, be deemed as a bribe, but imagine the sheer delight of a clean bedroom, with a beautiful, sweet smelling floral tribute and a happier, cleaner him/her, Flowers as a gift send out messages of love, hope, kindness, thanks, and sympathy; the giving of flowers is as old as time itself, long may it prosper.

Linda Thurlow is a writer on many subjects including floristry and floral tributes including Mothers Day Flowers and the opportunity to order flowers online initiative

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