Boost Self-Confidence – Seek Approval Within

By Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD -

Do you sense that you are seeking someone’s approval when you make a decision or embark on a project? Have you heard your self-talk that sounds something like this? “I’ll show her/him.” “He/she will be surprised when I ____.” “You wait and see.” “If only I could prove to him/her___.” “I’ll prove it.”

You might use these thoughts because your accomplishments are seldom acknowledged by those whom you wish to impress. The acknowledgment you receive from others is merely frosting on the cake. The acknowledgment you give to yourself is the cake. Furthermore, your acknowledgment of yourself will boost your self-confidence.

You can start by examining the areas of your life when you have attained your goal with ease and on time. Make a list of the incremental steps and how you succeeded. Make note of how your ideas came into being and reached fruition. Completing this analysis will reinforce and strengthen your capabilities immeasurably. No one can give you the incremental acknowledgment of a job well done more than you.

When you have more confidence in your capabilities it will soften your reaction to other’s lack of acknowledgment. Being aware of all your incremental accomplishments will help you recognize that the approval of others is seldom necessary to feel worthy and fulfilled.

When you step back and examine your successes, you gain self-assurance and lessen the need to prove yourself to others. You might have a tendency to work more rigorously when you seek approval from people you admire or are an authority figure. This often times leads to frustration and a sense that in order to get the recognition you deserve you need to jump higher and through more hoops.

When you trust and acknowledge yourself, you will notice that your work is valued based on its merits and that words do not define who you are. It only defines what you have accomplished. Others will respect you for what you do more than when you push hard to gain their admiration. As you acknowledge your incremental accomplishments you will find that seeking approval from others loses its significance.

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Life Coach, Hypnotherapist, Author, “101 Great Ways To Improve Your Life.” Dr. Dorothy has the unique gift of connecting people with a broad range of profound principles that resonate in the deepest part of their being. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one’s daily thoughts and feelings.
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Create a New Self Image – Expand Your Life

By Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD -

Everyone has an image of themselves. That image is what people form their perception of you. Your image of yourself is how people will treat you, because you teach them how to treat you by your beliefs and actions. Your image of yourself is a compilation of your indoctrination, adaptations and experiences.

In order to bring a greater vision into your life, your image of yourself needs to become larger than it is now. You can no longer view yourself and your universe as limited or scarce. You need to see yourself and your universe as limitless and abundant. You can only bring into being that which you believe you deserve.

What do you deserve? Make a list of all the things you deserve. Unless and until you believe, without doubt, that you deserve them, your ability to create them will allude you. Unless you root out the belief of undeserving, positive thinking is for naught.

Building an image of a higher possibility can be tricky. There are a myriad of indoctrinations you believe to be true. Such as: Girls aren’t good in math. The sky is the limit for boys. Girls need to be conservative. Attractive men are more successful. Beautiful women are sought after in business and social circles.

While these general indoctrinations are less prominent for Generation X (1965 – 1980) and Generation Y also known as the Millennials, (1981 – 2001) the stereo type is none-the-less alive, albeit the negative indoctrinations were instilled in different ways.

When you become one with your desires – believing that you deserve – the image of yourself and your life expands to bring in what you desire. This is scientific, it is the Law of Abundance and Attraction, popularized by ‘The Secret.’ It is immutable and it works.

This moment is the first moment of the rest of your life, become one with your desires – believe that you deserve what you desire. As you believe you deserve what you desire, your image of yourself and your life expands.

Enjoy the journey of rooting out false beliefs, bringing in new beliefs and expanding your self image and life.

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Life Coach – Certified Hypnosis Practitioner, Author and Speaker. Dr. Dorothy facilitates clearing the blocks, fears and limiting beliefs, then, you can live the life you deisre. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one’s daily thoughts and feelings. http://www.drdorothy.net

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Make My Dreams Come True – 5 Things You Can Do Right Now to Move Towards What You Want!

Dreams become reality – that is an absolute truth of our life which I can verify from my own rags to riches story. My life is full of things right now which were ones just dreams in my mind. In this article I will write some simple steps you can take right now to put the process into action for making your dreams come true. You will most likely require focus, time, energy, and persistence at some point on your path, but here I will offer purely the beginning of your journey to turn your fantasy into reality.

1. Determine exactly what it is that you deeply desire – what dream you want to come true.

Many people out there are pursuing someone else’s dream and they don’t even realise it. If you want to make your dreams come true, you must first have an extremely accurate and definite idea of what your dream is.

This means that:

* You are absolutely certain that this is what you want – no changing your mind later.
* You are as specific as possible about what it is that you want. You don’t want to “be wealthy”, you want to, for example, “make $50k in the next 6 months by selling used cars.” Be specific and as definite as possible about your dream!

If it helps, start writing down the details of your dream. Tweak it until you know in your core that this is exactly the thing you want.

2. Energize your idea – visualize it as realistically and emphatically as possible.

Once you have a pin-point idea of your dream you must empower it. Energizing at idea is the pre-requisite to having something you are motivated about. Anything in your life which you are motivated about you will have an energized concept of in your head – this is the way the human mind works.

How do you energize your idea?

Hold the idea in your mind and make it as vivid and realistic as possible. If the image of yourself, and there definitely should be an image of yourself in there, is a third person image then you should “drop into” the image so that you take a first-person perspective of yourself.

You must focus as much as possible and inject vivid and active energy into this idea. If you’re charging your dream correctly then you will begin to feel emotions in response to this process. I have wrote articles detailing this process on my website given below.

3. Take action, and be courageous when your dream calls for it.

You must begin to take action – sooner rather than later. That means you should physically and realistically be doing things to move closer to your goal. If you need to make a plan, then make a plan.

Occasionally these actions will call for a great degree of courage, that’s to be expected – after all you are changing your life. That means you will be expanding your comfort zone.

These actions which require courage are the most important to take. If you are struggling, return to step 1 and 2 – ensure you definitely want this thing, and energize it more strongly.

4. Surround yourself with things congruent with your desired reality.

Don’t make things any harder than you have to – surround yourself with things and people that enforce your dream into your reality. If you are dreaming about one day buying and living in a log cabin on the beach, get a picture of one, put it on your wall. Start bookmarking web-sites where you can purchase land or property by the beach.

This may sound insane, but it’s not. This is part of your reality transition. You must begin taking these steps if you want your dream to come true!

Find people who are conductive to your idea, and tell them about it. If this means making new friends, then get out there and do it. Anyone who causes abrasion against your idea – ask them to start being supportive or cut them off. They will do nothing but hinder you. Is this harsh? Perhaps. But how much do you really want this?

5. Remain focused, decisive, and persistent – don’t sway from your path.

You will be tested on your path towards making your dream come true. You must remain focused. Don’t keep changing your mind about what you want or what to do. If you do that, you end up with the other 98% of the people on the planet who are wandering around without a clue. If you want to realise your dream then you must remain focused on it without completely changing your mind about what you want every few days – this highlights the absolute importance of step 1!

…and that should give you a good base to start from! I regularly write articles on this and similar topics with which I am thoroughly experienced on my website given below. Desire, energize, take action, surround yourself, and persist and you will make your dreams come true!

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