By Jay Miles -
Self-love is perhaps the most powerful tool we have in dealing with the pressures and problems of society. If you love yourself, you are able to accept yourself for who you really are: strengths and weaknesses, perfections as well as flaws. Warts and all. And through this self-acceptance, you are able to determine your own self-worth, and realize that you as a human being have value.
If you love yourself, the emotional bonds you make will be deeper. Much deeper. Because without self-love, any connections you make, whether they be friends, partners, children, or parents are essentially hollow.
But don’t be fooled be the title; learning to love yourself is not easy. Simple, perhaps. But not easy. It is a difficult process, especially for those who have created such distorted views of themselves that they can no longer stand in front of a mirror without feeling ashamed, angry or embarrassed.
I have created a simple 10 step guide to make the process of learning to love yourself a little bit easier:
1. Wake up! Make a conscious decision to change for the better. Realize that the only one in control of your life is you. Take responsibility for your actions and know the power to love yourself rests with you, and you alone.
2. Stop trying to be perfect. Nobody is perfect. Nobody. So why should you be? Beauty lies in imperfection; it’s what makes you an individual!
3. Forget what popular culture tells you. You don’t have to wear a particular brand to be “cool”, you don’t have to look a certain way to be “hot” and you certainly don’t need a Ferrari to be “happy”. So stop trying to conform to these ideals. Realize that you are beautiful just the way you are.
4. Forgive yourself. Mistakes are in the past. And unless you have a working time machine, that means they cannot be changed. So take responsibility where responsibility is due, accept whatever the consequences of your actions are and move on. Think about it this way: if you hadn’t made the mistake, you never would have had the opportunity to learn from it.
5. Let go of your worries. Worrying never helped anyone. In fact, it is one of the first obstacles you must overcome in learning to love yourself. Rather than worry about something, act on it. If you can’t act on it, then it’s not worth worrying about anyway!
6. Be emotionally honest. Be truthful to yourself about how you feel. Acknowledge guilt, sorrow and depression as well as joy, enthusiasm and elation. Emotional honesty allows you to regulate and control these emotions and makes it much, much easier to love yourself.
7. Be authentic. Don’t be afraid to show people who you really are. This takes real courage but is key in learning to love yourself. People who hide their true identities end up living hollow existences. Don’t be one of these people.
8. Stop looking for flaws in your character. Rather acknowledge your strengths. Make these strengths your defining qualities; let them be the first things that come to mind when you think about yourself.
9. Be grateful. Gratitude is an essential component to self-love. Be grateful for everything you have. If you’re look at this article, it means you have a computer, electricity and you are able to read. That means you’re already better off than half the world’s population!
10. Know that you are special. Out of all the millions of sperm cells, you were the fastest and strongest. Not only does that mean you are very very lucky, it also means that you accomplished a feat more amazing than any Olympic athlete. And that makes you mighty.
Following these steps may not transform you into a beacon of self-love overnight, but they will go a long way in healing any negative self-image you may have, as well as providing a significant boost to your self-esteem. And maybe, just maybe, they will enable you to love yourself just a little bit more.
Jay Miles started writing on the internet after a trip to South-East Asia changed his life in a very real, very fundamental way. After a chance meeting with a legless beggar on the streets of Bangkok, he was given a completely different outlook on the world and life in general.
With this newly-found perspective, Jay aims to live his life with one overriding theme: love yourself. You can check out Jay’s blog here: http://mindthe-gap.com/
Or, if you want to jump straight to his newest post, “Living the Impossible”, you can do so by clicking the following link: http://mindthe-gap.com/?p=41
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