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Nurture Your Loving Nature

July 8, 2011 By Leave a Comment

By Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD -

Only love is real. All else is fear and anger based. Love heals and nourishes; all else creates decay. In a third dimensional reality you are in a womb of consciousness and every seed you plant in your mind, including thoughts, feelings and emotions, will grow into something. Therefore, you need to be aware of your thought patterns and emotions and challenge their authenticity and helpfulness in every situation.

Being in tune with your loving nature enriches all aspects of your life. When you sense the need to share some aspect of yourself with others, you need to create a space in your heart that is filled with unconditional love. In order to feel love, give love freely. What you believe is what you create.

Remember to observe how often you forget or lose full awareness of the steps you take in your life and how often you lose connection with the Earth under your feet. Walk each step with full awareness of your impact on others and how others impact you. Nothing transpires by accident. Tread gently and you will create and draw gentleness into your life.

Opening your heart and sharing your time with those you care about is an indication of your awareness of the generous and loving part of yourself. Focus your attention on developing your loving nature and how it can enhance not only your relationships, but also the deepest core of your being. When you are with others think about how their presence in your life affects you and how you affect their life. You will notice they ignite something positive in you, thus, inspiring you to be sensitive and receptive to their needs. In giving to the people in your life, you will find that you receive a great deal of love and care in return.

When you nurture your loving nature you will notice your fountain of love will be full, and the more you give from it the fuller it becomes. Your relationships then become a springboard not only for you to commune with others, but also to cultivate and hold a more caring space that will affect both your loved ones and everyone else in your life. Saint Augustine, stated, “The measure of love is to love without measure.”

By being in touch with your heart, your generosity will create a more loving experience for yourself, your loved ones and for everyone with whom you interact.

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Life Coach, Hypnosis Practitioner, Author, “101 Great Ways To Improve Your Life.” Dr. Dorothy has the unique gift of connecting people with a broad range of profound principles that resonate in the deepest part of their being. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one’s daily thoughts and feelings. http://www.drdorothy.net

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The Power of Belief

March 11, 2011 By Leave a Comment

By Sonika Tinker -

I had the most amazing experience. I realized that I am always the source of my experience. I am the one that makes myself happy or unhappy. I am the one who gets to say whether I am in bliss or emotional pain. How? I do that by getting to choose which beliefs I focus on and the stories I make up. My point of power, always, lies in what beliefs I choose and what intentions I set.

We generally live in a stimulus/response reality. Meaning, we live like we do not have a choice around what we feel or do. Someone yells at us and we react with anger or fear. Someone tells us they are unhappy with something we did, and we get hurt and withdraw. We generally think the “stimulus” caused our response, and in an effort to feel better, we usually try to get someone to quit doing the thing that is causing our distress.

Consider for a moment that between the stimulus and response, is a belief or story. In actuality, it is the belief that we are responding to, not the stimulus itself. If you yell, and I believe that your yelling is bad for me, then I am likely to respond with anger of fear. But if I believe your yelling is giving me a perfect chance to practice being centered, or that your full self-expression is a good thing, then I might feel peaceful or even excited by your yelling. My belief determines my experience, not the stimulus.

Changing beliefs is relatively easy and produces immediate relief. It is where we truly have total power to determine the quality of our life experience. By changing what we believe, we change what we see, and in so doing, the world changes. You can dramatically change your work environment, your relationship, your health and your state of mind just by examining and shifting beliefs.

If you would like help looking at and shifting your beliefs, contact me for a free article, “Ten Ways to Change a Negative Belief”. You deserve to give yourself a happy and fulfilling life.

Sonika Tinker, MSW is a relationship expert, transformational coach, national speaker, NLP Professional, Certified Enneagram Teacher and author of Seize your Opportunities: Living a Life Without Limits. She is the founder of LoveWorks, a relationship training company, and is passionately committed to empowering men and women to create powerful successful relationships and to live deeply inspired lives. Sonika has over 30 years experience coaching singles and couples, both gay and straight, on the issues of relationship, communication, intimacy, sexuality, dating, law of attraction and personal transformation. She has designed and led hundreds of trainings, spoken for groups of up to 500, and has touched the lives of thousands. She currently has a private practice in Auburn and San Francisco, CA. You can contact her at http://loveworksforyou.com and receive a free audio. Email her for your free article.

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How to Find Joy and Contentment by Living Well Today

October 7, 2010 By 1 Comment

By Lynn Baber -

Most people spend a significant part of their day worrying about what happened yesterday, what may happen tomorrow, or living with the expectation that some future date or occurrence will magically cause contentment to finally be theirs. “When I buy a house,” “When I get married,” “When I get divorced,” “When I lose weight,” “When I have more money,” “When vacation gets here,” “When I have kids,” or “When the kids are finally grown and gone.”

Joy is in the Pursuit

There always seems to be something about the circumstances of our lives at the moment that makes us yearn for a better time that was, or creates an expectation of a better time in the future. What ever happened to contentment? Mind you, aspirations and goals are wonderful things, but not when they cause us to lose our joy in today. It is the pursuit of aspirations and goals that create excitement. It is the way we live our lives that determine its texture and significance, not the details of our circumstance.

Only when we consider the best part of our lives to be our present moment, will we reap the benefits and joy of contentment – living in real time. Bask in the reality of now. If there is a beautiful sunset developing on the western horizon, create a place that allows you to enjoy it with great luxury. Do you think you would have a better view of God’s artistic handiwork if you were on a tropical beach somewhere, reclining with an umbrella drink in your hand? If so, you are setting the scene of your own discontent; you’ve left real time behind.

Improve Your Life Today

Create luxury where you are, even if it is an old sofa pillow and the drink in your hand is a Diet Coke. Pick the pillow or blanket you want, grab the drink of your choice, and watch the sunset with the same wonder and awe you would have on that imaginary beach. You have the power to richly enjoy the sunset personally delivered to you right where you are.

Why yearn for an unknown love to sit beside you on that beach when the dog that loves you more than life itself sits at your feet just waiting for an invitation to share the pillow or blanket with you?

The Grass Really Isn’t Greener

Most discontent comes from a false belief that everyone else is better off than we are, and all we need to do is get what they have, look like they look, or act like they act in order to be who they appear to be. In truth, “they” are seldom what they appear to be. That notion is the basis of advertising pitches and class envy.

It has been oft said that living well is the best revenge. Living well is a value statement, not a description of body type or bank account. Do you think you could somehow feel love more deeply with a facelift? Is a pedigree in any way significant to how wonderful your relationship is with your dog? Live with abandon in the moments of today, resolving to build a little bigger “today”, tomorrow.

When we reach the end of this life, our greatest regrets will have nothing to do with what we didn’t have; they will be in how we wasted the opportunities we had to live joyously, share openly and love greatly. Are you living in real time?

Whether the topic is personal success or training stallions, Lynn Baber brings years of experience to readers and audiences. Highly credentialed in issues of leadership, relationship, and most things equine, Lynn has a unique perspective not found elsewhere. Read excerpts from Lynn’s latest book, “AMAZING GRAYS-AMAZING GRACE: Pursuing relationship with God, horses, and one another” at http://www.AmazingGrays.us. It may also be found on Amazon.com. Lynn is a retired equine professional and is a director of Amazing Grays Ministry.

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Are You Really Ready For a Relationship

October 7, 2010 By Leave a Comment

By Susan Sheppard -

So often I hear, I want a boyfriend, I’m married but I’m not happy. I just got divorced and I don’t want to make the same mistake again. When will I find someone? It occurred to me recently that in order to be in a relationship that works, it’s necessary to be ready to enter one. I know that sounds really simple, but if we look at our national divorce rate, you can see that it is not simple. In fact, I seriously doubt that many people consider their readiness for marriage or relationship of any sort. I think the average scenario goes something like this. He is attracted to how she looks. She is attracted to his energy and productivity. They start dating and eventually she thinks it might be a good idea to get married. He goes along because he is sure it’s going to get him regular sex and then all their friends and relatives get excited about their wedding. They have a big celebration and then they start to realize there is more to marriage than living together. Please forgive me for the offensive simplification of this scenario. It is merely an illustration.

My awareness heightened when I began working with clients who were in a state of chaos. They were in various stages of post relationship survival. Their finances were in a shambles. Some were broken hearted, with no self-esteem, out of work, wondering what to do about their rent and utilities payments and seeking coaching about their relationships. Many, I think, were planning on having a new relationship rescue him/her from impending disaster. I started to think about parameters for readiness in relationship. What specific standards and status should be the baseline? What exactly constitutes readiness? What is definite is that nothing is definite. So where do we start?

First is desire. The desire to be part of something is manifested in relationship. You can’t be “in” relationship unless you want to be. Partnership demands a serious time commitment, one on one conversations, planning, dating, socializing, compromising, making love, having sex, playing, working, sleeping, having children and raising them, shopping, cleaning house. Granted, some of these things you would do even if you were not in relationship. However, once you are seriously committed, as in living together, every one of the above -mentioned tasks involves agreement and participation by both partners.

Even prior to living together, finding someone you are willing to try being in relationship with is practically a full time job. So many of the people that I talk with in my work, tell me, I just don’t have the energy to go through the process of dating and getting to know someone well enough to feel comfortable being authentic and intimate. Don’t you agree that many people settle for what they have, even if unsatisfying, because it’s just too much work to change it?

Those that I have coached all the way to marriage and beyond have been serious about getting married. They wanted it, they were willing to do whatever it takes to find and enroll the right partner. They also do whatever it takes to maintain the level of passion and intimacy, production and appetite that are necessary to sustain a healthy, vibrant, satisfying relationship. In other words, they do not assume that once you are in a “marriage” or “committed relationship” that IT will take care of itself.

One seemingly unrelated concept that has forever been an annoyance has to do with loan applications. Bear with me on this. Whenever you submit a loan or credit application, the first response of the lender is to check your credit and your financial picture. If it appears that you need money for any reason, the likelihood of approval for financing is almost nil. However, if you appear financially stable with plenty of unused credit and a steady job and money in savings, every financial institution is clamoring to lend you money. So how does this relate?

It is my opinion, that love and relationship operate in the same way. Let’s say you go to the love bank and ask for a boyfriend/girlfriend, a serious one perhaps leading to marriage. The love bank manager takes a look at you and says. You work too much, you spend all of your money, your credit cards are maxed-out, you have diminished self esteem and a broken heart from the last one, you’re physically and emotionally bankrupt, and you don’t trust anyone. REJECTED!!! Now, you are really in need of someone to save you so you continue looking at all of the B and C rated love lenders, bars, pick up joints, work, internet dating services, personal ads until you find someone who is as needy as you are. You need someone to rebuild your self-esteem and reassure you that you are indeed lovable.

WRONG!!!!!

Although I have never been fond of credit reporting agencies and the use of their information by lending institutions, there is some validity in their strategy that is applicable to relationship coaching. In order to be ready for a serious relationship, one must achieve the following:

1. Desire to be in relationship

2. Self – esteem. Know that you are attractive and have something to offer another person.

3. Financial stability. At least enough income to take care of your housing and basic needs and minimal credit card debt.

4. Work. A job that satisfies some of your achievement needs.

5. Vulnerability. Enough healing that you are able to share your authentic self with this person.

6. Love. An abundance for yourself with enough left over to share with another person.

I am not saying that you must be in perfect shape. What I am saying, however, is that you will attract a person who is your balance, someone who has the same or different issues in the same proportions. If you are needy, you will attract neediness. If you have intimacy issues you will attract someone who is shut down. So it is in your best interests to undertake a personal redevelopment plan prior to looking for a relationship. Be the best you that you can be to offer to another person. This seems to be a great way to start the new year. Funny, how it usually happens that someone who has been taking extraordinary care of themselves and not looking for a relationship suddenly finds him/herself in love.

Relationship coaching is life coaching. Life becomes extraordinary when we discover that being absolutely committed to taking care of ourselves, leads to abundance in every aspect of our lives.

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Sex, Relationship and Health – Five Benefits of Sex

September 4, 2010 By 1 Comment

By Aderline Jane and Quester Peech -

Sex is not just about raging hormones and fleeting pleasure. As a matter of fact, sex has a lot more to offer than you know. The more sex you have, the greater the benefits you receive from it. Modern science has proved that sex has wonderful benefits for your mental as well as physical well being. Indulging in sexual activity on a regular if not daily basis is known to offer benefits such as relief from stress, better sleep, and better health. These benefits, however, are just the tip of the iceberg. Read on to know some of the not so well known reasons why regular sex can make your life healthier and happier.

Sex helps to maintain body weight

Sex is a physically strenuous activity that helps you shed the extra pounds and look younger and healthier. 30 minutes of sex helps to burn about 150-200 calories. This does not sound like much but regular sex sessions help to burn many more calories. 42 sex sessions of 30 minutes each, for instance, can burn more than 3500 calories, which is quite substantial. Set up a schedule for sexual exercise and watch the flab melt away as you and your partner have fun. Sex is a great weight loss technique if your busy lifestyle leaves no time for workouts. It is also a fun way to get in shape when treadmills or aerobics get too boring.

Sex improves the immune system

Being sexually healthy usually means that you have great physical health too. Having sex twice or thrice a week has been associated with higher levels of immunoglobulin A (IgA) – an antibody that protects an individual from the common cold and other infectious diseases. IgA binds itself to pathogens when they try to enter your body and then boosts the immune system in order to destroy them. Those couples, who have sex regularly, about once or twice a week, have been reported to have higher levels of IgA than those who abstained from sex altogether or those who rarely indulged in sexual activity of any kind.

Sex can create a stronger bond between partners

Apart from its reproductive function, sex is often used as an instrument of pleasure and to express the emotional intimacy and love that you feel for your partner. Sexual intercourse is known to have a major role in bonding between partners and a means to share your pleasure. Great sex forms an emotional connection and awareness between you and your partner, while discussing your sex life can add a wider emotional and spiritual perspective to your relationship, resulting into a strengthened and resilient bond that can be strong enough to survive many emotional upheavals.

Sex improves the blood circulation

Regular sexual activity has been proved to improve blood circulation in your body and is particularly beneficial for the brain because it causes deep invigorating breaths and an increased heart rate. Improved circulation brings fresh oxygen-rich blood into your body and refreshes the cells and organs. Regular sex helps in the elimination of toxins from your body and prevents fatigue as well as a number of diseases.

Sex controls sugar levels

A number of clinical studies have proved that sexual activity helps in the breakdown of sugar molecules present in your body in order to provide protection from serious diseases such as diabetes.

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Unconditional love – easier said than done

February 7, 2010 By Leave a Comment

unconditional loveBy Irene Conlan -

It seems appropriate that in this week before Valentine’s Day we take a look at love and relationships.  Loving and being love is, after all, what we all long for, isn’t it? Today I’d like to talk about “Unconditional Love” because we throw that term around so much.

The other day a friend of mind told me about her finace  and how wonderful he is. “I love him unconditionally,” she effused, but later on in the conversation she listed some of the things he’ll need to change after they are married.  Oops! That isn’t unconditional, is it?

The love we’re not talking about is best described by David Hawkins:

What the world generally refers to as love is  an intense emotional condition combining physical attraction, possessiveness, control, addiction. eroticism and novelty.It’s usually fragile and fluctuating, waxing and waning with varying conditions. When frustrated this emotion  often reveals an underlying anger and dependency that it had masked. That love can turn to hate is a common perception, but here, an addictive sentimentality is likely what is being spoken about, rather than Love.There probably never was actual love in such a relationship for Hate stems from Pride, not Love. (Power vs. Force, David R. Hawkins, Hay House, 2002, pp. 89-90)

Unconditional love is just that – unconditional. No conditions. No “I’d love you if  only … ” In terms of romantic love it mans I love you even if you throw your clothes on the floor or leave hair in the sink. It means I love you if you become ill or lose your job, get old or fat, become crabby or forgetful. I love  you even if you’re no longer “arm candy” or I don’t agree with your politics. It means I love you if you snore, bite your nails, or have other annoying habits.  It means I love you even if the thrill is gone and romance has gotten lost in the reality of paying bills, raising children, and being a participant in life. It means I’ve always got your back and I want only the best for you.

Few of us can love like that even though we say we do. We are human beings, each with our own agenda, abilities, likes and dislikes, personality, intelligence and emotions and, a lasting relationship require a mutual coming to terms with all of these.

Hawkins is talking about a level of consciousness, an energy level, a state of being,  a love that doesn’t fluctuate and isn’t changed by circumstances. It is all inclusive and has no barriers – in fact it removes barriers. It “focuses on the goodness of life in all its expressions and augments that which is positive.” Unconditional love dissolves negativity and positively affects all around it.  Howkins states that only about .4% of the world’s population reaches this level and truly loves unconditionally.

When I love you unconditionally I look beyond the externals and see the essence of who you are. I see indescribable beauty there and I can declare, “Wow! What’s not to love.”

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