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YOUnique – Honoring Your Reality – And Everyone Else’s!

May 14, 2012 By Admin Leave a Comment

How are you different from every other human being on this planet? While it is true that we’re all here sharing the experience of being human, and that gives us commonality, we are each totally unique beings having our own unique experience of life.

Think about it. You can see this truth in the simplest of things. Some people love the beach while others love the mountains. Some people love Chinese food, while others hate it. Some people love modern art; others hate it. Some people like trucks while others prefer sports cars. We are all having our own unique experience in life – leading to things we like and don’t like, that we think are good or bad – sourced out of the totally unique entity we each are.

How is it that you determine what’s true for you? Have you ever thought about that? Why do you prefer the beach or the mountains? Why do you love or hate Chinese food? Why do you love or hate modern art? Why do you prefer trucks or sports cars? Or why do you not care for any of these things at all? How do you know these things? Where does that knowledge come from?

One of the most powerful stories I was ever told, and one which helped me embrace my unique truth and experience in life, I call “The Analogy of The Tongue.” I know that may sound a little gross, but it is memorable.

Years ago a good friend of mine saw that I was struggling to really embrace who I was as a minister, an evolutionary advocate, and a spiritual conduit. I didn’t really know what was evolving through me at that time. In the model in which I had grown up, and the life I was living at that time, it didn’t make any sense. I didn’t have any context or precedence for it.

So he said this to me:

He asked me to name a food I do not like. I told him eggplant. He said, “OK, why do you not like eggplant?” I said “Because it’s gushy, mushy, usually gray in color, and has a paste-like taste to it. There is nothing about it for me to like.” He said “Great. Now, what if I told you everybody else is eating it, would you then eat it?” I said, “A lot of other people do like and eat it, and I still do not eat it. Therefore, no.” He said “OK, great.

Now, what if I told you you should eat it, because it’s good for you and it’s the right thing to do. Then would you eat it? Might you like it then?” I said, “No, I don’t care what you say about it, I know I don’t like it and don’t want to eat it.” He said, “Good.”

He went on to say “Now, is this something you would purchase, prepare, and serve dinner guests?” And I said “No way. I would not serve them something I myself do not like. In fact, I wouldn’t even know if it was good or not anyhow. So, no, I would not serve it to guests at my house for dinner.” Then he said, “Is there anything I or anyone could do to make you like and eat eggplant?” I said “No, I just don’t like it.”

He said “Great. Your purpose in life, and all things in life, is just like this. It’s that simple.” And he was, and is, so right. Your purpose is innate in you, as are your preferences for food. You like some things and you don’t like other things. You won’t try to like and eat eggplant because everyone else does, or because someone tells you you should, or because someone else asks for it.

So don’t try to force yourself into SOMEONE ELSE’S TRUTH! Eat and serve others what you know and like – YOUR truth. Anything else is a disservice to yourself and others. It’s not authentic!

You have a tongue, or a taste, for everything that is true for you. And this includes God. How do you know what God is for you? How do you know which religion or path or philosophy is “the truth?” You know because you test it against your own internal “truth meter.” You are always automatically asking yourself “Does this seem true to me? Does this feel right to me? Do I like this? Do I want more of this?” We do this with everything – and so does everybody else. This is how we find our truth – including the truth for us when it comes to God.

If each person has his or her own truth about life and the world, their own unique experience, then there really is no truth – EXCEPT – and this is really important – EXCEPT what’s true FOR YOU. Truth is a personal thing. Truth is created by you, for you. No one can tell you what’s true for you. And vice versa – you cannot tell others what’s true for them. Although, of course, lots of people try.

It’s important to realize that your truth ultimately comes from within you, not from some source outside. And, just as importantly, realize this is true for everyone else too. Just because something makes complete and total sense for you, doesn’t mean it makes complete and total sense for everyone else, or anyone else for that matter. Just like you, everyone has their own unique experience and perspective of the world. And just like you, they believe what they believe, and they like what they like, and don’t like what they don’t like, because that’s what is true FOR THEM.

We live in a community of many levels: from the family; to the neighborhood; to the town; to the city; to the state; to the nation; to the planet. We all have a role in the functioning of the community, at one or many levels, and it’s essential we each play our authentic, inspired role, and that we each know, own, and share our unique truth. At the same time, we must allow others to play their role, and own, and share their unique truth. Whatever that may be and however that may look.

Try this:

Take a moment to reflect on what’s true for you and how it’s absolutely unique for you. Think about how this is true for everyone else on the planet. Ask yourself “Do I honor my truth and determine it for myself? Or do I bow to external authority and tend to believe what others say is true?” Are there opportunities or areas where you can more greatly empower YOUR truth?

And just as important, ask yourself “Do I allow and honor the unique truth that others have? Or do I more often try to impose my reality and truth on them?” Are there areas where you could more greatly honor and respect the unique truth of others as THEIR truth?

If you can really get this, you will be free – free to fully be yourself, and free to allow others to be fully themselves.

Congratulations – you are one step closer to your mojo!

Roger Kenneth Marsh is a Spiritual Life Coach & creator of the Major Good Mojo System. He has an engineering degree, MBA, is a Certified Life Coach, HeartMath® Provider, and Passion Test® Facilitator. Get his book “NexGen Human” on Amazon.com, and FREE CD “3 Keys to Major Good Mojo” at http://www.majorgoodmojo.com/free-cd

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Self Confidence – The Key to Happines

May 13, 2012 By Admin Leave a Comment

By Eva Bell -

Self confidence is the priceless ingredient that makes for a happy and successful life. It begins to develop at birth and escalates or diminishes, depending on the way we are raised, the different types of experiences we encounter, and the way others regard us. Self confidence determines our personality.

The resources we need to build up self confidence are in our minds, and therefore always accessible to us if we look within ourselves. William James the American thinker believed that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitude of mind.

Divya a young girl of fifteen, lives in a remote village in India. She is the daughter of a toddy tapper who died prematurely, leaving behind a family of five with no means of sustenance. Divya decided to take up her father’s profession although she had never climbed a tree before, and nobody had ever heard of a female toddy tapper. It was exclusively a man’s job, and in her traditional society, she met with stiff opposition from the men, and ridicule from the women. Her family was worried about the risks to life. But Divya with just a week of practice and with a great deal of confidence, carries on with her father’s job. Her work begins at dawn and is strenuous. But it lasts for only a few hours each morning. She earns enough to support her family and to continue with her studies. As Norman Vincent Peale often said, “You can if you think you can.”

Barriers to Self confidence.

o Inferiority Complex: It is the lack of a sense of worth that emotionally cripples people. It can begin in childhood even in the home environment due to parental criticism or rude sibling comments.

Children in school may be critical of one’s physical appearance or intelligence.

Neighbors can be thoughtless in the way they relate to children. A rude and condescending attitude to a child can make him feel worthless.

With the rise of Feminism, the status of motherhood has been viewed as a form of servitude. The stay-at-home mother feels inferior to her economically independent counterparts. Print and audiovisual media glorify images of smart superwomen in the corporate world, or sexy models and film stars who are the cynosure of all eyes. Physical attractiveness is at a high premium. Advertisements flaunting beauty creams, hair dyes, anti-aging salves, perfumes, designer wear, give those who cannot afford such luxuries an inferiority complex and a poor self image.

o Feelings of Inadequacy: Many people who have retired from their jobs and active lifestyles feel worthless with nothing to do. Self pity sets in and confidence plunges.

o Sexual Inadequacy: Fear of being physically and sexually inadequate, fear of being unattractive or even fear of pregnancies, can sap one’s self confidence.

o Environment: When one is not treated with respect and dignity at home or in the work place, a person can slip into self pity and feel that he is of no consequence to the world. Caste, colour, money, power are prejudices that can undermine the self confidence of victims.

o Fear: Autocratic parents, violent spouses, inconsiderate colleagues, nagging wives, disrespectful children – these are some of the situations that make people afraid or insecure. They develop a poor distorted self image, which robs them of self confidence.

o Worry: “The mind that is anxious about the future is miserable,” says Seneca. It affects one’s mental ability to think clearly or solve simple problems. Worry is a mouse that chews up self confidence.

Ways to build up self confidence.

1. Introspection: Are you living up to your full potential? If not, what are the road blocks you encounter? Road blocks are challenges. They are not insurmountable. It is wise to make a list and tackle them one by one. The more you are able to handle each one of them the more confident you get. Therefore, refuse to quit.

William Wilberforce was dogged by illness for most of his life. He was an opium addict for 20 years. But he never lacked self confidence. He was an able Parliamentarian and worked towards abolition of slavery in Britain. His imposing memorial in the Westminster Abbey describes him as the “Attorney General of unprotected families and the friendless.”

2. Love yourself in a healthy way. Be happy with who you are. Recognize the power and potential that God has given you, and build on it.

o Know yourself. What are your strong points and what are your limitations? Work on the latter.

o Believe in yourself. “Self trust is the first secret of success,” says Ralph Waldo Emerson. Strive to change what you don’t like in yourself.

o Set high standards to achieve, based on honesty and integrity. Don’t waste time trying to live up to standards others have set for you. Be careful not to fall in line with the values of a commercialized, eroticized, immoral society. Don’t be like the 300 giant whales that chose to follow a school of sardines and got trapped inside a bay. Chart your own course, visualize victory and live for a purpose.

3. Have a positive mindset. Plan your moves according to what you wish to be. Stay motivated towards that goal.

According to Jean Sharbuno, “Positive Expectancy is a mindset- an eager anticipation of success, and doing whatever that takes to make it happen.” One is reminded of John Keats the sickly young English poet who in spite of declining health was confident enough to say, “I think I shall be England’s greatest poet after my death.”

4. Self Discipline: “The first and best victory is to conquer one’s self,” says Plato.

Keep ugly thoughts out of your mind. Set high standards for yourself and focus on achieving them. Settle for lasting values and maintain integrity in whatever you do. Positive autosuggestion will boost confidence. The mantra of “I am a confident person. I believe in myself” should be repeated several times a day, until you are convinced that you are a confident person.

The humble spider has much to teach us about self confidence. It has an inbuilt mechanism for survival. If it is wounded, it releases a protein filled silk thread on which it slides down and builds another web in a new place. When it is time to lay eggs it produces a protective silk sac to hold the eggs. An enemy who comes too close gets stuck to the sticky exterior of the sac. Then the spider weaves more threads around the enemy and eats it up.

A self confident person will live life to his highest potential. He will strengthen his weak points and profit from his strong points. “Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result but the cause of fear,” says Norman Vincent Peale. We need to remember that we are precious in God’s sight, and He has imbued us with power and potential to live confidently.

Eva Bell is a doctor of Medicine and also a freelance writer of articles, short stories, children stories.
Published in Indian magazines and newspapers, anthologies and also on the web.
Author of two novels, one non-fiction, two children’s books. Special interest- Travel and Women’s Issues.
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Self-Confidence – I’m Not Good Enough

April 13, 2012 By Admin 1 Comment

By Gail Manishor -

Many of us feel that we are somehow inadequate, that we’re just not good enough. We work hard to overcome this deep feeling of inadequacy. Yet it is still there holding us back from the full expression of who we are. We flounder around trying to figure out what we can do about it. The fact is that when we come to a full and complete realization of who and what we are, we find we are magnificent.

A doctor friend of mine had an incredibly capable and accomplished woman patient with a great job, who after knowing him for many years confessed to feeling that, “At any minute the fraud police will come and I will be dragged from my office in chains.”

I previously considered that this was mostly a woman’s feelings. However, the doctor went on to say that, “Anyone who pushes themselves to achieve feels this way. It’s a byproduct of achievement.” He continued, “Anyone who’s too certain of their place in the universe just isn’t trying.”

I have thought about his statement and realized that the truth is that we all have a place in this universe. God, Spirit, the Source of all created us and placed us right where we are. We can be very certain that we are in the right place at the perfect time. If and when the above woman comes to the realization of who and what she is, she will find that she is right where she should be, doing what she needs to do. That is the truth for her.

Some parents can be thoughtless about the negative images they give to their children. But as children, we soak it all up and we may remember a single hurtful remark all our lives. We might have internalized these negative comments made by our parents over the years which consciously or subconsciously could have undermined our confidence.

A woman friend once told me that, “my sister was my father’s favorite and we all knew it.” She has a vivid memory of her father often saying to her, “What’s up stupid?” He may have thought of it as a little joke. But it wasn’t a joke to his young daughter. It was cruel.

Another friend told me that she was the black sheep of the family. Her mother made the comments, “You’re different, aren’t you?” and “What’s wrong with you?”

I have always tended to compare myself to others I admire, and come up lacking. I’m finally realizing that I’m okay just as I am. Don’t compare yourself with others. When the thought passes through your mind that someone else is better, smarter or more attractive than you, be happy for them and let it go. Rumi wrote, “Why do you stay in prison when the door is so wide open?” You are unique and special in your own right. You are “one of a kind.” You are far better than “good enough.” You are great. You are an incomparable being.

Gail Manishor, Author of From Here to Serenity, A Spiritual Guide to Transform Your Life, will help you move from wherever you are on your spiritual path to a place of tranquility. A step-by-step map to a deep sense of peace and harmony, this compelling guide takes you through real life experiences that will help you achieve your own serenity. Meditation Guides and Actions Steps make this a must have book.

Gail is a Licensed Practitioner / Spiritual Counselor and her many years of training contribute to the wisdom she shares in her book and articles. Her self-taught knowledge of Feng Shui has helped Gail in her own life and she shares that information with you.

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Inferiority Complex – Are You Confident In Your Own Skin? Boost Your Self-Confidence

April 13, 2012 By Admin Leave a Comment

By Alicia Isaacs -

Has your confidence been shaken because of being overweight? It’s time to take control and regain your self-confidence where you are right now.

For years I’ve been self-conscious because of my weight – you know, pulling my tummy in to make it look flatter, dressing in darker colours to hide the flaws. These in themselves are not all that bad and you should always try to look your best but for the right reasons and with the right mindset.

Is your being overweight affecting your interaction with others? Are you afraid to be seen in public? Then your self-confidence has been shaken. I’m not saying that you should stay where you are at an unhealthy weight, not at all. You should always be working toward reaching your goal but accepting yourself as you are right now on your journey to your ideal weight can boost your health and energy level and keep you from falling into a depressive state because of being overweight.

You can become comfortable in your own skin and loving every inch of you in the process. When you love someone don’t you want to take care of them, do the best you can to help them and find a way to do so even if you don’t see how right away?

The same mindset applies to your own body. You can comfortably love you; care enough to help your own body reach its ideal goal. Beating up on yourself is not being kind or loving and that behaviour is counter-productive to what you’re trying to achieve.

What can you do right now?

1) Come out of hiding

Appreciate who you are, not because of your weight, you are much more than that, but because of your connection to the All-in-all, the Great Universal Spirit. Why? Because when you get to your ideal weight there may be more physical flaws that you may encounter, what then?

2) Walk boldly

Lift your head up. You’ve nothing to be ashamed of. Square your shoulders back and walk boldly and confidently. The energy you give off transmits to others around you. Embrace the energy of joy, of acceptance of you and who you are and allow others to bask in the warmth of your positive vibes.

3) Release your weight anxiety

Let go of the stress that comes with being overweight, the anxiety of wanting to lose weight – these are counter-productive. It is only when I shifted my attention from weight loss to having fun and being strong that I began to release the excess weight.

Find something in your workout on your journey that brings you great joy in this path and keep on in that direction. Keep enhancing the process as you go along and be comfortable in your own skin.

Changing your life may seem like an overwhelming frustrating process. But it doesn’t have to be if you’re given simple doable step-by-step strategies that will get you from where you are to where you want to be and experience a transformed life.

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How To Build Self Confidence – Easy Tips To Make You Super Confident

February 26, 2012 By Admin 1 Comment

By Charlie Valentino -

For women who aren’t all that confident it’s not really a big deal as they can still get by in life and do pretty well. However, for us guys it’s more important that we’re seen to be super cool and confident. Women are attracted to confident guys whereas we men are more attracted to hot looking girls.

If we lack confidence in ourselves as men then we are at a major disadvantage in life. We’ll find attracting women a lot harder and we’ll also be passed over for that job promotion in favor of somebody much more confident. It really isn’t very fair is it, but that’s life I suppose.

Fortunately there are things you can implement to work on your confidence and many of them are even quite easy to do. I suggest you learn as much as you can to help you build your self confidence as it can only improve your life in a number of ways. Carry on reading for a few tips!

We gain confidence through our experiences. We don’t experience very much if we spend all our time playing on the PlayStation in our bedrooms, but as soon as we get out and start living then our lives change for the better. You should get out and start pushing your boundaries. Take up new hobbies and try and have some awesome experiences.

Consider going sky diving, horse back riding, biking or do some other extreme sport where you’ll meet many wonderful people. Perhaps the single best thing you can do to push your boundaries is to go traveling. You should even go traveling alone. This will force you to interact with people from all walks of life which can only change you for the better. When you travel, it’s the people you meet along the way that you remember the most. You tend to remember them a lot more than the tourist attractions and the food, I can promise you that.

Why not learn a foreign language and speak to the locals in the language you learn as you go traveling. You could even take a foreign language teaching course in a foreign country, teaching kids English in say France or Spain. How exciting does that sound? You’ll return home a changed man, it’s only natural that you should.

There are many other things you can do to improve in this area so you should research how to build self confidence and actually take action.

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Meditate Your Way to Positive Self Esteem

February 25, 2012 By Admin Leave a Comment

By Kate Irwin -

Have you ever wondered why positive self-esteem seems so natural and effortless for some people, while others struggle daily with feelings of self doubt and inferiority? Would you believe that the solution to achieving a greater sense of confidence and positive self-esteem could be as easy as changing the way you speak to yourself?

The thoughts and words that circulate through one’s mind each day can have a powerful effect on their self-esteem. For example, when a person constantly doubts their ability in a given situation, uttering phrases like “I’m not good enough, smart enough or worthy enough,” they may actually begin to believe that it’s true. Without realising it, they may be sabotaging their chances of success and self-realisation before they’ve even had a chance to try.

Positive Self Esteem and Meditation

One way to combat the problem of negative self-talk and promote positive self-esteem is through meditation.

Meditation, a component of many religions throughout the world, especially in the Far East, is a relaxation technique in which the practitioner attempts to move beyond negative, reflexive thinking by clearing the mind of everything, except for what is happening in that precise moment. By freeing the mind of the regrets of the past and the worries of the future, meditation allows people to focus only on the present to achieve a greater sense of focus and self awareness.

The meditative act has two main components: focused, relaxed breathing and a mantra of positive self affirmations.

o Breathing. In meditation, practitioners are taught to focus only on their breathing and nothing else, helping both the body and mind to relax.

o Positive Affirmation. While the body is relaxed, and the mind is completely blank, positive affirmations can be used to replace former thoughts of negativity and self doubt. A simple slogan, such as “I am worthy,” or “I am powerful,” repeated over and over while in this relaxed state, can do wonders for self confidence and positive self-esteem.

As you can see, sometimes attaining positive self-esteem can be as simple as the words and thoughts that regularly pass through your consciousness. If you struggle regularly with feelings of self doubt, and are looking for a way to replace these thoughts with more productive and self-affirming ones, meditation can be a great tool.

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3 Simple Tips To Improve Self Confidence

February 25, 2012 By Admin Leave a Comment

By James W Ashley -

We all want to be more confident in life. Having a greater level of self-confidence can open up so many doors to different opportunities, whether this be in employment choices, business success or even romance.. It all comes down to your ability to be confident within yourself.

Some people seem to be born with high levels of confidence, where as others seem to have zero. But did you know it is incredibly easy to increase? If you have belief in yourself, dedication and patience, you can improve your self-confidence over time.

Below are 3 simple tips that can help boost your self-confidence to new levels. Try these few tips and see the effect it has on your life.

When facing a new challenge, ask yourself ‘what is the worst that could happen?’ The majority of the time the worst that could happen is someone saying ‘No’. This small, tiny word puts fear into many people and stops them reaching out for something greater. When in reality it is not that bad. Sure somebody might turn you down, or say there are no job opportunities, but you might be surprised. You will never know unless you ask.

It is very easy to get lost in fear. When you sit down and think ‘what really is the worst that could happen?’ The majority of fear can disappear, making way for new thoughts of the potential consequences, both good or bad. Allowing your mind to discover how you can recover from any problems and learn from these mistakes.

You Are You! Not Anybody Else You must learn that you are a unique person. With all the outside influences of today, which make people compare themselves to the next celebrity in the latest magazine. There will always be somebody richer, faster, stronger and more successful than you.

Benchmark your goals with yourself, not anybody else. Doing this can eliminate a lot of unnecessary pain in your life. Making you a more successful, confident and happier human being.

Think Positive. Not Negative Stop seeing the negative side of things. Stop seeing the glass half empty but rather half full. Yes the grass is greener on the other side and the sooner you start thinking this way the better. Think positive and you will reap the benefits. Yes it can be difficult to do, especially if you have been stuck in a negative frame of mind for many years. But you have to start somewhere!

Try implementing these 3 simple steps for improving your self-confidence into your everyday life. See how your mind changes and the smile it brings to your face everyday.

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10 Powerful Ways To Boost Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence

January 8, 2012 By Admin Leave a Comment

By Millen Livis -

” I am what I am and that’s all that I am”

I learned this Confidence Mantra – ” I am what I am and that’s all that I am” – many years ago at one of my yoga trainings at Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health in Massachusetts. It might seem simplistic and repetitive, but for me it brought to light one of the most important, defining, and not to mention sexy aspects of one’s personality: Self-Confidence.

Have you ever caught yourself thinking along these lines?

Who am I to be considered for ______________ (position, role,…)?
Why would this awesome, intelligent and successful guy choose me (fall in love with me)?
What if I would not be able to ________________?
Who would possibly hire me for such an important leadership role at ___________?

Or telling yourself

I am too fat
I am too short
I am not funny
I am not sharp
I will not be able to ________
I am not good with computers to do _________
I am not a leader to be ________
I don’t know how to ________

If these kinds of thoughts never popped up in your mind, good for you! You may stop reading here.

However, for most women today (myself including), who live incredibly demanding and competitive lives, it’s often a real challenge to feel confident, capable, proficient, and secure. This lack of self-worth, feeling that you are “not ______ enough”, can be very persuasive… In fact, it may stop you from pursuing your dreams or destroy the things that you already have and love. The damage from lack of self-confidence can be really enormous and very self-destructive… it may lead to wrecked relationships, loss of jobs, feeling stuck or incapable. More often than not, low self-confidence is associated with chronic depression and other serious health issues.

One of the dangers of diminished self-worth and lack of self-confidence is that it often masquerades as truth. It causes a great deal of mental noise, which prevents you from seeing “the forest for the trees”. Your negative or limiting self-image becomes a filter that you use to see yourself in your personal and/or professional life. Once you see yourself through this narrow self-imposed filter, you close yourself off and become “the story” that you created… unable, powerless, incompetent, useless, un-lovable, etc. You become the lead actresses in this dramatic movie that you produced without realizing that you did it! However, this is NOT the Absolute Truth but rather your own Skewed Perception of Reality. This skewed self-image may become so convincing and so powerful that when someone tries to suggest otherwise – you will reject the notion of another reality as Untrue or Impossible. Ask me how I know this… because I lived it.

Conclusion and Action Steps

I believe that self-confidence is a very attractive quality of a women’s personality and is an attainable skill. OK, some women are naturally confident and G-d bless them! If that is not you, don’t despair. You can develop this attribute! But first acknowledge that you would benefit from focusing on building up self-confidence, self-reliance and positive self-image across all aspects of your life.

The process of re-building a positive self-image may take some time but you can see it as a fun game, not an assignment!

I would suggest taking on the following action steps:

Live with an Attitude of Gratitude. Remember this saying:” I was sad because I didn’t have any shoes until I saw a man who didn’t have any legs…”? Every morning, while in bed, think of 5 things you are grateful for. This will help restore self-confidence and instill a sense of contentment.

Come up with your own Freedom Mantra that you could use to deflect any negative self-talk or un-supportive comments from others. Examples of freedom mantras: “I am who I am and that’s all that I am” or simply “I Love the way I AM”.

Mind Your Own Path. Everybody has his/her own Path; G-d has a plan for everyone. There is no need to compare yourself to others or to their achievements – you are Unique in your own way and there is a higher purpose for your uniqueness.

Practice Judgment Free Awareness. Your thoughts become your feelings and your feelings become your beliefs, which form your subconscious mind and subsequently manifest as your physical reality… Be VERY MINDFUL of your negative thoughts – remember that you are the producer of the movie “I am ________” (fill the blank) and you can change the script at will!

Become your Biggest Fan and Promoter. Every night, while in bed, recite at least 5 successes of the day and praise yourself for these accomplishments.

Be Authentic/Live authentically. Some people will not like you, but many others will. There is no need to change yourself in order to please someone else or get them to like/love you. The right person will respect you and will be attracted to you because of the way you are, not the way you pretend to be.

“Fun yourself” - sing your favorite songs out-loud and/or dance your “funky moves” whether somebody is watching or not.

Find your Own Unique Style/Image that would eloquently reflect your personality on the outside. An attractive external self-image is important for building self-confidence in women.

See Greatness in others… What you see in others you strengthen in yourself.

Be Brave and Bold - Play everything, be willing to take risks, mess up, fall, and constantly challenge your un-supportive beliefs. That is how you learn – by falling and getting back up.

To your Health, Wealth, and Happiness,

Millen Livis

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Millen Livis is a Success Coach and is committed to assisting women in becoming more Confident, Accomplished, and Content.
She is a mother, a wife, an entrepreneur, and an Inspirational Success Coach for Women. She is currently semiretired and lives in the US and France. Millen holds two Masters degree, one in Physics and another in Business Administration. Previously to being an entrepreneur, she was a technology executive working for major Wall Street Corporations for many years until she decided to change and re-invent her life. Now she is a successful business owner, happily married, and have an awesome daughter. If you ask Millen to describe how she got to where she is now, she would say: “EVERYTHING I CREATED IN MY LIFE STARTED WITH A VISION OF WHAT’S POSSIBLE.”

For more information, please visit http://www.daretochangelife.com or connect with Millen on Facebook or Twitter

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How to Deal With Your Self-Esteem Issues

November 8, 2011 By Admin Leave a Comment

By C Yvon -

Having low self-confidence or self-esteem can restrain you from becoming successful in life. If you believe that you lack the courage and strength to overcome your fears and resistance, below are some steps to help you build a healthier self-esteem.

Identify any troubling factors or events.

The first you should always do to help you overcome the feeling of nervousness is to determine what situations, events and things that contributes in deflating your confidence.

These factors might include an upcoming job interview, a major exam, a colossal change in life such as losing your significant other, breakups, or dealing with financial crisis.

Being able to identify any of these factors can eventually help you root out the main source of your poor self-esteem.

Change your limiting beliefs.

Every stressful situation that came across into your life, your subconscious mind tends to create false or limiting beliefs as a way to interpret that particular event.

Whenever these situations arise, you need to pay attention with your thoughts. Your mind may create rational and accepted ideologies or might create an entirely false belief system based on the situation that happened.

If your mind had created a false belief, you need to intervene and turn them into positive ones so that it won’t affect your self-esteem and confidence when you’re caught up on that same situation.

Start affirming your strengths.

Everybody has their own flaws and strengths since all of us are born imperfect. You may excel in creative arts yet suck on sports but the point is that, we can never be good at everything!

What we can do about it is to be grateful and affirm our own assets and strengths. By doing so, we are boosting our mentality and self-esteem making us realise that there’s something beautiful and great within ourselves.

Consider self hypnosis.

If you’re still having problems dealing with your self-esteem issues and limiting beliefs, you may want to consider self hypnosis. This powerful mind technique enables you to come in contact to your subconscious mind and enable it to change your negative belief system.

Hypnosis is designed to let go all your negative and limiting beliefs and turn them into positive ones. This will enable you to finally let go of your inner resistance on certain things that is keeping you away from being free and successful in life.

Find emotional freedom you’ve always deserve and let go of these negative energies and beliefs you had in you. Recreate your own positive thoughts and find your way in building self-esteem and confidence like never before.

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Self Esteem Exercises For the Perfect Marriage

August 28, 2011 By Admin Leave a Comment

By Menelaos Christophi -

Self esteem in a marriage is something that can be improved by systematic effort by the person itself and by the help and support of the significant other. Below there are 5 self esteem exercises that can be followed by a couple to improve each other’s self esteem and develop a more quality relationship between them.

1. The unconditional acceptance

The complete and unconditional acceptance is the most stable foundation to build the self-esteem. Without self estem, a marriage is left in the hands of our emotions that are a non-permanent element.

2. Forget the past

You need to adopt a positive and hopeful perspective against a background where your partner has proved inadequate. Do not always refer to the past and remind your partner for his/her failures. Forget the past and try to praise your partner’s skills and capabilities.

3. Be careful on what you say

It is unbelievable how much power is contained in the words we speak – what words we use and their effect on people of our environment. The words have the power either to destroy a healthy self-esteem and personality or to reverse the negative image that someone has for himself. In your mouth is”life”and”death”.

4. Be supportive in the difficult moments

Within the storms and problems of your marriage, instead of rejecting each other, it is better to build and support each other. Being supportive will not only raise your partner’s self esteem but it will also improve your self esteem because the feeling you get when you give is one of the factors that can make you feel better and make your self esteem better.

5. Free your partner from the feelings of failure.

Free your partner from the prison of “performance and results”, with the gold key that says “freedom from the fear of failure”. One of the most common reasons that may impact someone’s self esteem is the fear of failure. If you constantly criticise your partner about his/her failures then in the long run this will impact self esteem. Try to be supportive and do not always judge your partner based on its performance and results.

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