We all want to become better people, but the truth is self-improvement is a hard, time-consuming process that has more failures than successes. We know for a fact that self-improvement is 90% motivation and 10% action. Believing you can achieve a goal is often enough to get you halfway there.
These 7 motivational tactics can help you achieve your self-development goals and get closer to the ideal version of yourself.
Check up on your priorities often
What at one time was considered a top priority might now be a side project. By regularly revising your priorities you will allow yourself to let go of goals that are no longer fulfilling and help you focus on what’s actually important and nurturing for your soul.
Don’t be afraid to make changes to your grand plan. The road to self-growth is not a separate reality, but one informed by your daily routines and interactions. So make those changes when needed and see how much more motivated you feel as you start to focus all your energy into making your real goals and plans come true.
Pain is not always a bad thing
No one likes pain, but if you’ve ever embarked on a self-improvement journey you know how discomforting and painful it is to admit to your weaknesses and mistakes. Self-improvement is usually two steps ahead and one step back. Instead of viewing mistakes as a failure, see what you can learn from these mistakes, what you can avoid in a future situation where you’re faced with the same choices, and what needs more energy and focus in the present.
When pessimism creeps in and your inner critic is let loose you can jeopardize all previous efforts you’ve made. By practicing gratefulness you let yourself to be content with what you’ve already achieved and cherish the present moment.
Gratitude lets you appreciate how accomplished and whole you already are, giving you a momentum boost that helps you to begin the new day with a sassier attitude towards your self-development goals. Something as simple as acknowledging your blessings is enough to make all the suspicion and fear disappear and fill you with the energy to carry on with your pursuit of self-fulfillment.
For you to accomplish your self-improvement goals, there has to be one key ingredient: self-belief. This is the best form of motivation you can have, because self-belief is what makes doubt disappear and large-scale goals seem manageable.
Cultivate your self-belief by looking at your past achievements and small present accomplishments and the obstacles that you’ve already conquered. This will boost your sense of self-belief and keep you inspired to achieve even more. Believing in your skills, energy, and talents is the alpha and the omega in accomplishing your self-development goals.
The number one reason for failure is the mistake many people make of setting deadlines and timelines that are not reasonable. When we want change and progress in our life we want it instantly and radically. But that’s not how self-improvement works. Self-development requires patience, persistence, and small baby steps.
If you want to be at the top of your game, and to reach the goal you’ve set, start by reading everything you can find that pertains to that goal. Once you have the theoretical knowledge, you’ll find it easier to apply in the real world, and you’ll be prepared for problems. What you read becomes the rungs on the ladder you need to climb to reach your goal, and it’s something you need to do before you start attempting to climb up the ladder. Reading about how people before you have made their self-improvement goals happen is another excellent way to build a solid foundation that you can use for your own journey.
If you want to improve your well-being in 2014, read stories of people who managed to do so safely and gradually. If your goal is to learn a new language, for example, start reading about the best methods for mastering a new language or blog posts written by students and language teachers, before you pick up your first book of grammar. The underlying principle of success is that knowledge precedes action; to try to approach it from the other direction can be frustrating and self-defeating.
Don’t make hurtful comparisons
Comparisons are allowed only if they positively associate you with something or someone that supports your goals. In any other case, comparisons should be banned from your mindset. By comparing yourself to others, especially those who have better resources or wider support, you rob yourself of any motivation to keep trying to grow.
Don’t self-sabotage your efforts. Instead of comparing yourself to others and criticizing your own efforts, try to reflect on every little success you’ve already enjoyed and every problem you’ve solved. No matter how small, a success is a success.
Your past is irrelevant
“No matter who you are, no matter what you did, no matter where you’ve come from, you can always change, become a better version of yourself.”
That’s a mindset Madonna fervently supports – and a truer sentiment has never been expressed. Even if you’ve made unfortunate or immature choices in the past, that shouldn’t define either your present or your future.
Instead of lingering over your past failures, break away from your past. Make a new start by challenging yourself to realize your full potential as it is defined by the present moment. Your past shouldn’t sap your motivation but infuse it with momentum.
Following these seven motivational tactics will boost your self-improvement efforts and lead to your personal success, giving you the energy and will to set yourself even more goals for a successful and shining future.
About the Author: Chassie Lee is the Content Expert for eReflect – creator of 7 Speed Reading software which is currently being used by tens of thousands of happy customers in over 110 countries.