By Peter Murphy –
Simply put, self-esteem is the mental image we have of ourselves. People with a good self-image are more likely to be successful in all aspect of their lives. Their positive attitude is likely to help them in school or a work and they are more likely to develop positive relationships than people with poor self-esteem.
People who suffer from poor self-esteem often find themselves struggling to accomplish even the most simple of goals. They often feel that they are not good enough, smart enough, attractive enough or even simple just not enough. These negative thoughts can impact upon your life every day.
There is hope, though. You can develop positive self-esteem if you are willing to put the time and energy into it.
1. View mistakes as opportunities to learn something new
Try not to think of mistakes as something bad; instead take the chance to learn something new. Life itself is a process of learning and everyone, no matter how perfect they seem, can learn new things.
Why are you any different? If you make a mistake, step back from it, think about what went wrong and determine what to do to avoid the same mistake in the future.
2. Nobody is perfect, so don’t expect yourself to be
Instead of focusing solely on perfection, focus on obtainable goals. Do not limit yourself by your need to be perfect. If you enjoy running, don’t wait to enter a race until you are certain you can win; just enter the race!
3. Stop being so negative
People who suffer from low self-esteem focusing on what they think are wrong with them. Anytime you find yourself doing this, counter yourself with one positive thought. If you find yourself thinking ‘I’m too fat too fit into those jeans’, counter the thought with something like ‘I’m proud of the fact that I’ve lost three pounds – I’ll fit into those jeans in no time at all’.
Another excellent ‘positive thinking’ exercise is to write down three positive things about yourself each night. After a week or two, go back and read them; you may be surprised to read about what a great person you are!
4. Step out of your comfort zone
Let yourself out of your ‘safe’ place and try new things. Go to a new restaurant or try out a new hobby. It is a great way to find out what you are really good at (or what you really like). Take pride in that.
5. Open your mouth
Your thoughts have merit and value, so share them with others. Do not fall into the trap that your ideas or opinions are ‘dumb’ or ‘stupid.’ The next time someone asks your opinion, tell them what you really think. Even if your opinion is different to theirs, it is still valid.
6. There is no magic wand to change things
There are some things you simply cannot change. While there are some things about yourself you can change, like your weight or your personal style, there are other things that you will simply never be able to change. Instead of hating your freckles, realize they are there to stay and try to learn to love them.
These are just a few ideas you can use to improve your self-esteem; however, the most important thing you can do is remind yourself day in and day out that you are worth it, you are more than enough.
Surround yourself with positive people who love and cherish you. Find something positive about yourself with every completed activity. The more you say positive things about yourself, the easier it will be and your self-esteem and self confidence will grow and grow over time.
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