Psychological and emotional abuse has become a topic that is more widely recognized and accepted as a problem over recent years. The effects of being put down, chronically neglected, and made to feel “crazy” are tremendously damaging. The reality that a person who is supposed to love you treats you in this way is very difficult to swallow and accept, and it is very easy to listen to what the abuser is saying and take it in at face value. The fact is, what the abuser says about you is not true. Here are 5 strategies that will help you counteract the messages your psychological abuser is giving you about yourself:
1. Take care of your physical body. The mind and body are connected in profound ways, and caring for one will improve the state of the other. Eat healthy meals, take vitamins and supplements if necessary, and initiate an exercise program (check with your doctor first).
2. Enlist the aid of a counselor who specializes in abuse issues. A counselor is vital in cases where there is any concern that the emotional abuse could become physical, but even in non-physical cases of psychological abuse, a professional unbiased therapist will be of tremendous value in resetting the mindset your abuser has pushed upon you.
3. Gather your trusted friends and family close to you to help you “reprogram” your thinking about yourself. Your abuser has an agenda to make you feel inferior, less moral, less intelligent, or even crazy, in order to control you. Listen to your friends and family who love you and will give you a different assessment of who you are. They have no reason not to tell you the truth.
4. Do one thing every day that honors you and your preferences. Make a list of small kindnesses you can do for yourself. Each day, choose one and take the time and energy to do that thing to cherish yourself. You are worth it!
5. Whenever possible, avoid contact with your abuser. You will only receive negative messages as this person seeks to regain control of you and convince you that you need him or her to survive. You are competent, and capable of much more than you believe of yourself. If necessary, when the abuser talks to you, repeat “lalalalalalalalala” in your head to avoid taking in the negative messages.
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Shannon Cook is a personal growth and relationship expert who has written a number of informative articles and ebooks on the topic of toxic relationships and holistic personal growth, including physical, emotional and relationship health.