Getting older is good. Ingraining this into your brain is one of the healthiest things you can do for yourself. It’s one of the healthiest things you can do for your soul and for your life.
Let’s go back in time. Kids love getting older. Kids have zero qualms about aging. Have you ever heard an eight year-old say “getting old is hell?” No, me neither. But I have heard people in their mid-20s say this, sadly.
There’s things that kids have that allow them to be so free and so joyous. Trust is one of those things. Lack of responsibility is another one. Most adults can’t (and won’t) give up responsibility, understandably.
Looking forward to getting older is yet another thing, another wisdom kids have that most adults lack. Think of what that means for your lifestyle and mindset.
For kids, each day is another day older. Another day closer to the privileges of being an older kid – more autonomy, greater freedom, more choices, more opportunities. Kids live with this optimism and this expectation. It’s reflected in their moods and demeanors.
Kids have life to them, and we adults can see it. And in a lot of cases we can’t grasp it, and we sit and wonder what it is that kids have that we don’t. Why are they so joyous?
“I must be searching for something, something sacred I lost…” – Billy Joel
Somewhere between 21 and mid 30s, many people decide there are less and less benefits to growing older. We may notice that hangovers last for days instead of hours, and injuries and colds linger a little more than they used to. After a morning and afternoon out of the house, you’re more likely to want a nap than a drink. So you say “getting old sucks…”
No, it doesn’t. What sucks is your perspective on it. If you focus on the things that you perceive are negative, then anything will suck – be it aging, your job, your family, or your favorite sports teams. Focusing on what you believe are the negative aspects of aging will only exacerbate what you are observing. It’ll just make it worse.
Aging is great. Every year – every month even, I’m smarter, more confident, more balanced, and more at peace than ever before. Some of my average days today are better than my good days of 20 years ago. It’s a different ballpark entirely.
With ages comes a maturity and a perspective that lets you enjoy life more than ever. It lets you be comfortable in your own skin, it lets you appreciate the good things in life since you’ve been around long enough to experience the bad things.
You learn to appreciate those you have because you’re old enough to have lost some you love. You can watch younger people and kids bend themselves out of shape over what they read in the newspaper, but you’re old enough to know it makes really makes no difference in your life. You have peace, you have perspective – you have age.
Focus on that when you think of aging. Focus on what you have inside – your soul. That is, after all, what’s really real – right? The outside world is a reflection of our inside world, and that all we really have is our inside world. That inside world – our soul, our energy – only gets better with age. It is indeed a fine wine.
You may see more wrinkles, you may see more pains on the outside, but I propose this – if you keep excited about aging and about your future, will the wrinkles matter? Will the pains be as great? I’m young enough to not have a complete answer to that. But I’d love to hear yours.
If you looked forward to your next big milestone – 35, 40, 45, and so on – with great excitement because you anticipate a greater quality of life at that age – how excited would you be? How much more would you look forward to aging? Would that joy and passion for life ingrain itself in your soul, and would you have the vibrant demeanor, maybe, of a kid? Possibly.
Lastly, if you tell me that your quality of life will not increase at those ages – that it will remain the same or get worse – I cannot help you. If that’s what you really believe, that’s going to happen for you. And I won’t try to change your mind. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
I’ve decided to be excited about getting older. I’ve never fretted age milestones, and I’ve realized I’m never going to start. Each year of my life has been better than the one before it, and I expect that to continue. It opens the door to a world of possibilities going forward. What’s not to be excited about?
Louis Savalli is a long-time enthusiast of all things related to personal growth and spirituality. He currently resides in upstate NY with his wife and two children. Read more and connect with Louis at www.savalli.me.