How to be Fearless
Everyone on this earth want’s to be fearless, absolutely fearless. But bear in mind, there is nothing like fearless—you will have fears no matter what.
Dr.Kerry Resseler states, “After all, fear is the most evolutionarily conserved behavioral reflex for survival.”
That proves fear is not going anywhere, But what you can do is to create a mindset of “I don’t care”. Yes, that’s the only way to beat fears.
You will have fears, but you still can put those fears down and take brave action.
Being Fearless Is A Habit
When I gave my first presentation in my college, I was scared like the audience is going to kill l me. But doing it a few more times I was confident as hell.
When you do something for the first time, you will be scared, you will be sweating, and of course, you will be ashamed of yourself.
But doing it over and over will definitely make you a confident and bold person, you can overcome all your fears, By facing them.
8 Ways To Overcome Fear
If you wanna be confident as Tom Cruise, then you must do things which Tom Cruise does.
Here I am going to take you to a process, that will make you courageous and confident. I will give you a road map that you can use any time anywhere to become confident.
1) Uncomfortable Is Okay
I always look for a challenge and something that is different – Tom Cruise
The first step to becoming fearless is to put yourself in trouble. You need to be bold, if you stay always in your comfort zone, you are going nowhere.
See the example of Tom Cruise, When he is filming a movie, He does the real stunts, There is no actor in the whole Hollywood industry that’s brave as Tom Cruise.
And the only difference between them is, Tom Cruiseloves pushing his limits, He always loves challenging himself and trying something that’s never done.
Surely he has been injured so many times, but still, he never gives up.
So next time when you face a difficult situation, Don’t turn your face around, face it.
2) Be Bold In Your Decisions
No one knows the future, No one in this world can predict what’s going to happen ahead.
When Ronaldo tried a bicycle kick, He didn’t know if he was going to score the goal or not, And this one kick became one of his remarkable shots. He created history by following his heart and being bold.
This shows that you need to be bold when taking action, Ronaldo didn’t think about “what if I missed”, he just did what he felt was right.
When it comes to decision making we are unsure of what’s happening ahead, so fearless people in such situations just do what they have to.
And if by chance something goes wrong, They just say “I don’t care”, and that is what you need to do.
If you want it, go for it, take risks, Don’t always play it safe, Or you will die wondering.
3) Make Mistakes—Be Fearless
The more mistakes you make, the more you will be confident.
Micheal Jordan was the best ever basketball player in the world, And he admits that the key to his success was making mistakes over and over again.
He was never afraid of making mistakes, He put his life on risk by choosing basketball as a career.
Micheal was put down in his college time from his team, He went to the room cried and cried, but didn’t go to get a job and leave playing basketball.
I have missed more than 9000 shots in my career, I have lost almost 300 games. 26 times I have been trusted to take the game-winning shots and I missed. I have been failed over and over and that is why I succeed. – Micheal Jordan
He became the most popular athlete in the world, And the reason was his courage and boldness. He was not shy of making mistakes.
When you are to try something new—when you want to do something that is different—you will make mistakes. If you want to stand in the crowd, you need to make mistakes.
Making mistakes will give you experiences in life, You will automatically become confident, Because when you make mistakes, you are taunted, and blamed. And that is where you find true confidence, That is when a man becomes fearless.
4) Be In Control
What’s the most embarrassing thing? And the answer is when your voice is shaking.
When I am talking to someone and my voice shakes, I feel pretty nervous and embarrassed.
Amy Arnsten studies the effects of limbic system arousal on prefrontal cortex functioning. She summarized the importance of a sense of control for the brain during an interview filmed at her lab at Yale. “The loss of prefrontal function only occurs when we feel out of control. It’s the prefrontal cortex itself that is determining if we are in control or not. Even if we have the illusion that we are in control, our cognitive functions are preserved.” This perception of being in control is a major driver of behavior. (Source)
This shows if you just act like you are in control, you will be pretty much confident. as it is said,
Fake it till you make it.
The best example here is Don Draper, He takes a big pause when replying to someone, which shows I am in control, I am not controlled by your words, It’s me that decides what will happen.
Taking a pause during talks gives a message to other people, that you are not afraid to make your own decision, when you reply abruptly, You look nervous, and a controlled person.
5) Face Your Fears And Take Action
All tips aside, If you just face your fears and take action, You don’t need any advice at all.
Being fearless is just about facing your problems, doing what you are scared of, and developing the confidence to be okay in awkward situations.
When I was giving a speech during my school days, I was trembling like someone had pointed a gun at me.
That’s completely okay, it’s the only way to build courage, just face it and move forward.
Nick Vujicic is a perfect example here, He is a man with no limbs, which means no hands, no feet. In such a miserable condition, he is able to inspire millions of people.
He faces no difficulty talking to millions of people, He doesn’t care what people think of him.
The biggest insecurity for him was looking weird. When he was a child, his classmates would always make fun of him, He was always embarrassed by his body.
But he faced all these things bravely, now he even makes fun of himself in front of a big crowd, and it doesn’t really bother him.
So the key point to becoming fearless is by facing what you fear the most.
6) Believe In Yourself
You’ve got to believe in yourself if you want to be a bold and brave person.
When Elon Musk said that he will send people to Mars he was labeled as a crazy man. No one in this world believed him. He was alone and lonely in his idea.
And to some extent it looked impossible, I mean it was absolutely insane. Logically that was not going to happen. Why will people go to mars? And, especially, it’s incredibly expensive.
But it was his belief in himself, that let him take this brave decision.
He tried the first attempt and failed…
2nd attempt and again failed…
The third attempt and again failed…
If something is important enough, DO IT, even if odds are against you — Elon Musk
lastly, he even sold his own house to feed his project. He was hand to mouth this time, but he didn’t up. He knew that he will be successful.
And yes he did it, he was successful in his 4th attempt. It was all about belief.
learn to believe in yourself, it will make you an insanely brave person.
7) Take Risks
There is an old IQ test that was nine dots and you had to draw five lines with a pencil, Within these nine dots without lifting the pencil. The only way to do it was to go outside of the box, So don’t be afraid to go outside the box. —Denzel Washington
One of the things that are common in fearless people is taking risks.
There is nothing like for sure, You have to take risks, you have to choose one thing between the two. If you play it safe, if you don’t take risks, you are gonna stay average throughout your life.
Brave and bold people are not afraid to try new things, The things which have never been touched by others and that’s what makes them special.
Bill gates chose to drop out of college and work on his idea, It was a risk, What if the idea failed? What if he went broke?
He believed in himself and took the risk, he worked day and night to make his dream come true.
And you know it, He became the world’s richest person. It was possible because he took risks, He was not like other students who preferred to work for big companies.
So next time if you had to take risks, Don’t shy away from them.
8) Learn From Fearless People
A mentor is someone who sees more talent and ability within you, than you see in yourself, and helps bring it out of you—Bob Proctor
The more you see brave and bold people, the more you will catch their habits. You will be able to adapt to their lifestyle and be like them.
You can not only learn to be bold in theories, you need practical stories too. For that, you will have to read and see those people who are actually fearless.
Stick to your mentors, because they can give the experience of decades in few minutes.
Being fearless is an amazing feeling. Well there is nothing like fearless, but you can decrease your level of fear and actually overcome it.
Each time when you take a new bold step, you allow yourself to stretch your comfort zone, and you are getting comfortable in uneasy situations.
In the end, I just want to tell you, Stay strong, Believe in yourself, keep learning, You will get what you are seeking.