Never Give Up: 5 Ways to Bounce Back from Failure
How To Get Back on Track After Failing
Have you ever considered the phrase “never give up?”
Ever felt like the universe is conspiring against you?
Say you’ve worked at something, given it your all, carried out your research, done everything right. But then out of the blue it all falls apart.
Maybe it’s something that has worked out for everyone else before you — until it was your turn.
If the above scenario applies to you, it’s important to remember that you’re not alone. You just happened to fall into a cycle as old as time, called failure.
The truth is everyone fails at some point in their life. It’s a natural part of human existence that comes in various forms depending on everyone’s unique circumstances.
Remember that before you get to where you want in life, there is a chance you’ll make one or several wrong turns.
But how do you pick yourself up and get back in the saddle?
Read on and find out how to motivate yourself and bounce back from failure.
Never Give Up
1. Separate Yourself From Failure
Yes, failure has happened. Maybe you feel like you’re to blame or maybe you’re a victim of circumstance. Whichever way you look at it, you don’t want to let it take hold of your life.
When you’re down, your emotions tend to get the better of you. While it’s only natural to react emotionally to your situation, remember that emotions can cloud your judgment. Pain does that.
However, looking at this turn of events from the perspective of hurt only prolongs your misery and makes it harder to focus on the next step.
The best course of action after you fail is to separate yourself from failure.
How do you do that?
You have all the time in the world to stay mad and let that fire drive you to come back stronger. But just for a moment, sit back with a pen and paper and detach yourself from the situation.
Observe your problem from a distance as if it was happening to someone else, you’ll be able to recognize where things went wrong from an unbiased position.
With all emotions at bay, this tactic will leave you with bare facts to help you confront the situation.
2. Stop Beating Yourself Up
Most of the time with failure comes the phase where we start thinking about what we could have done differently, and “if only” we could have done this instead of that.
While it’s necessary to reflect on what went wrong and look for new ways of getting what you want, too much self-criticism will only undermine your efforts.
You wouldn’t like to be judged by others for your mishaps. That kind of criticism breaks you, shatters your self-esteem, and discourages you from trying again. So why would you treat yourself in a way you wouldn’t like others to treat you?
Try to remember that blaming yourself and wallowing is unfair and doesn’t get you anywhere. What it does is leave you in a cycle of regret while discouraging you from actually taking action.
Of course, when you’ve hit a roadblock, it’s not easy to be kind to yourself. However, recovery comes a lot faster when you learn to forgive yourself and move on.
3. Consider Mistakes as Learning Opportunities
Pitfalls are unavoidable in life. They are part of the process of growth and self-discovery.
Look at it like this — how would you know your strengths and limitations if you don’t come across obstacles?
Think of failure as an opportunity to learn the dos and don’ts.
This doesn’t mean passing off something negative with a positive attitude. A mistake is a mistake. It’s ok to acknowledge it, but also look at it from a different perspective — learn from it so you’re better able to avoid it next time.
As a takeaway, help yourself understand that life doesn’t come with a manual. It’s like groping your way in the darkness making best guesses. That kind of journey is bound to have missteps.
4. Be Honest About Your Expectations
There’s a difference between what you think you should accomplish and what you really want. One is an expectation and the other is reality.
Oftentimes our expectations are clouded by what others expect from us. It could be your parents, your friends or your community. Sometimes you won’t even realize that your environment is affecting your perception when it comes to what you want.
Take your moment down as an opportunity to re-evaluate your goals.
Learn to be honest with yourself not just about what is really possible for you but also what makes you happy.
5. Never Stop Trying!
Admittedly, it can be super hard to remain optimistic especially if life keeps knocking you down. A series of setbacks can break anyone, paving the way for damaging thoughts like “you just aren’t cut out for it!” or “you’re not good enough!”
But if there are words you must keep telling yourself until they sink in, they are: “there’s always another way.”
No matter how many unsuccessful attempts you’ve had, there’s always another way of looking at things or doing things and you’ll find it as long as you don’t give up.
Remember that famous inventor, Thomas Edison? He failed 10,000 times before getting it right with his electric lightbulb.
Obviously, that’s a whole other level of dedication, but the message is clear as day — “Never give up!”
Failure is part of the process, a bump on the road of life that teaches us valuable lessons as we go.
From setbacks, we learn to realize that just because you did everything right, it doesn’t entitle you to having your way.
We learn that it’s ok to lose, but most importantly, that we can’t stay down. It teaches us to stand up over and over until we get it right. It teaches us to never give up.
Still, you don’t want to look at failure as one of the necessary stops on your path to success. Because it’s not. It’s nothing more than an unfortunate event that alerts you to adjust your approach.
Let’s say, you were passed over for a position at work. You can take it as a chance to look for another job or to add more skills to your resume. This way you’re not letting your pitfalls define you.
About the Author
Adam Marshall is a freelance writer who specializes in all things apartment organization, real estate, and college advice. He currently works with Grove at Flagstaff to help them with their online marketing.