7 Goals You Can Set for Your Family to Achieve a Happy Life
You love your family! When it comes to sharing a household, it’s important to work together to achieve happiness for all. Here are seven goals to focus on.
When you have a family, your biggest goal is always for everyone to be happy. But this is such an ambiguous target because happiness is different for everyone.
Still, it’s a great philosophy to live by. You just have to be a little more specific in how you undertake knowing if you’re on the right track or not.
Life can be hectic, stressful, and demanding. It’s often easy to forget our ultimate goals of happiness for our loved ones during this busy season.
By breaking this big target into seven manageable goals, your family can work toward the ultimate destination — happiness.
1. Start With You First
It sounds counterintuitive, but if you’re not happy, it’s likely the rest of your family isn’t, either. When you live together and love each other, you’re sensitive to everyone else’s emotions.
You have definitely noticed this if you have children. Toddlers make it vocally known when they’re unhappy. Teenagers make it clearly known, too, though typically through physical gestures like huffing and eye rolls.
You have your own ways of making it known that you’re not in a good mood. It could be that you don’t even notice them, but the rest of your family likely does.
Keeping yourself happy is the first step to helping the rest of your family feel content, too. When you’re less stressed, it’s easier for you to quickly calm ruffled feathers in everyone else and refocus everyone on their goals.
Focus on doing something for you each week. It could be a hobby, a pedicure, or just reading a book for an hour, uninterrupted.
This not only helps your mental state, but it teaches your children that it’s okay to take time for themselves, too. That’s a critical skill they’ll need as adults.
2. Set a Family-Fun Target
Most of us feel better about the day-to-day monotony if we know we have something exciting planned. Your kids are probably the same way!
Give them something to look forward to, and they’ll be more content. This could be a regular family night or a trip for the future.
Sit down together to decide what family activity you’ll do that week or that month, or both! If one person wants something that no one else agrees on, offer to shelve that activity as the next target.
When it’s time to get away, work together to come up with a fun family vacation. Once everyone is feeling the excitement, set small milestones, and work together to prepare for the trip.
3. Be an Example of Conflict Resolution
Whether you want them to or not, your children will regularly mirror you and the other kids and adults around them. This includes everything from how well they wash their hands to how they manage conflict.
If you want your child(ren) to find peaceful solutions to their problems, you must show them how to look for them.
This may involve you relearning how you handle stress. Most of us react to external stimuli from an emotional perspective, which is not healthy.
When you learn to respond, not react, to stressful situations, you approach them with a clearer head. You are now more aware of the potential consequences of your actions. It’s easier to avoid knee jerk, hurtful comments, and punishments, and everyone is back on track a lot sooner.
Roleplay this react vs. response strategy with your children from a young age, and they’ll catch on (likely faster than you did!).
4. Encourage and Support Education
Whether your children are currently homeschooled or go to school, you need to take an active role in their learning. Everything is a learning experience for children, including cooking, chores, and trips!
Encourage your kids to stick to their schedules, complete homework first, and get good grades. These are character-building traits that will serve them well in college and their careers.
Learning can be fun, for sure, if you include hobbies as education.
Do your children want to play an instrument or sport? Treat those as educational goals, too!
5. Share the Workload
Running a home is a team effort. It takes everyone to make a mess, and everyone can help clean it up, too!
Don’t feel guilty splitting tasks up amongst everyone. It’s a character-building skill your kids will appreciate later — seriously!
Typical chores for pre-teens, for instance, might include things such as:
- Unloading the dishwasher or drying dishes
- Washing and folding laundry
- Helping to cook a simple meal (this counts as science and math if you’re using measuring cups!)
- Keeping their rooms clean
All the adults in a home should willingly step in to do their part, too. When kids see both parents participating, it sets a good example.
6. Feed Your Minds and Bodies Well
Setting a goal to eat meals together frequently throughout the week is healthy for the family unit and each person’s body. You can track what your kids (and you) are eating, to better ensure everyone is getting nutrition. With open conversation, you can get feedback on what’s going on in your children’s day.
What you’re eating is essential for your bodies. But to be happy, you must teach your children to mind their intake of other things, too.
Keep track of what you all watch and listen to. Your soul also feeds through TV, games, and music. It’s one thing to keep your young ones up on current events. It’s an undue influence to have them watch news geared toward adults that can even be upsetting to us.
Be cautious about what you are feeding your children, both in food and external stimuli.
7. Teach and Practice Gratitude
When times are tough, it’s critical to teach your children to focus on what they should be grateful for. And when things are going well, teach them to share the gratitude!
Through volunteer work, even at a school or nursing home, children learn the benefit of making someone else happy.
Gratitude is a perspective on life that gets us through the hardest of circumstances, but it’s a beneficial mindset to learn while still young.
Happiness is an elusive concept that is different for everyone. But most parents do want their children to grow up healthy and content.
By setting these goals for yourself and your family, you are giving everyone the tools to be successful and happy, no matter what happens to them in life!
About the Author
Adam Marshall is a freelance writer who specializes in all things apartment organization, real estate, and college advice. He currently works with Grove at Ft. Collins to help them with their online marketing.