5 reasons why not learning from failure can be disastrous for you
I have discovered that one of the greatest helps along the road to success is learning from failure. It took me a while to “get it” and it doesn’t mean I liked it but I finally accepted it. Let me tell you why I say that.
I couldn’t believe I had just faced another failure on my school project. What the heck was happening? I didn’t have the answers to my own questions. It was either that the teacher didn’t like me so he failed me, I didn’t put effort into the project, or I keep making the same mistake without being aware. It would have been easier for me to blame my setback on another person but I had, to be honest, it was one of the last two options.
But I didn’t bounce back that fast, there was this little voice in my head telling me you are going to fail again so don’t even try. It was this scary feeling that to fail is guaranteed and will happen.
I motivated myself and what I realized is that failure and mistakes cannot be avoided. They are guaranteed for anyone who is taking risks and trying to live his or her life to the fullest. It was that I needed to focus on learning from failure or do nothing.
According to Forbes, failure can and will happen, regardless of how awesome your work ethic is. The most successful people understand the reality of failing and its importance in finding success.
These are the five things I found out from not learning about failure;
You start the deadly comparison game.
You start to believe that the other person is better than you; he or she has got life figured out and is just better than you in every way. You compare yourself with that other person negatively and just feel like a worthless person after the whole exercise is done.
You can compare yourself with another person in a positive way, for example, he or she does 100 push-ups every day that’s why her health has greatly improved. You can look at this and see that you do need to implement and adopt this good habit. Remember that you didn’t compare yourself negatively; you saw a good habit that you can adopt.
Unfortunately, this is not the case for most or a majority of people. You’ll fall into the trap of negative comparison,. You failed and wholeheartedly believe that the other person is better than you because he or she never fails or make the same mistakes.
But have you ever thought of this in a different perspective, when you’re busy or worryingly thinking of how that person is better than you in every way, they might be another person just wishing that he or she was you.
According to the Huffington Post, if comparing is how you evaluate your worth, you will always be losing. In this game of life you will never reach a point where you are better than others in every way and why would you want to be? Part of what makes life awesome and interesting is learning from the talents of others. Instead of trying to be as good as or better than others, focus your energy on being the very best version of yourself. So next time you catch yourself using someone else as a benchmark for your own worth stop and remind yourself how ineffective this strategy really is. Instead, compassionately redirect your energy and attention to your own goals and what is required to achieve them. Therefore the comparison game is a losing battle.
Your strong self-belief is affected.
This has to be the biggest thing that failure does to anyone. You believed that you could do it before the failure but now you don’t see yourself doing anything worthwhile. Mistakes and failures are part of life and how you react to them is the difference.
You don’t believe in yourself and life seems too tough to handle. Taking that risk will have you thinking and believing that you’ll fail again. But you cannot continue feeling sorry for yourself if you want progress and growth in life. This is where self-belief comes into play. You’ll have to continue even though you failed. Self-belief will help you push forward.
You waste away by oversleeping.
Sleep is great but oversleeping is another thing altogether. You will develop this bad habit because you see no way that you can bounce back from this failure or mistake. Sp. your business or relationship didn’t turn out as you had hoped or intended. Yes do cry and spend some time alone. It’s totally okay and fine. You’re hurt and you failed in one way or another, but that doesn’t mean it’s the end of the story.
Life has got to continue. Find a solution but don’t spend all your time in bed sleeping when you clearly know you can wake up and do something meaningful. Easier said than done, I know. You put all your energy and effort into that relationship or business but you didn’t get the results you had hoped for. You made a mistake and things came crashing down. The future seems glum but oversleeping won’t solve it and help you move on.
According to John Hopkins Medicine, sleeping too much can be problematic. Oversleeping is associated with many health problems like;
- Type 2 diabetes
- Heart disease
- Greater risk of dying from a medical condition
You experience double the constant headaches, pain and body aches.
You are overthinking too much, you are constantly replaying and analyzing how you failed, why you failed and why did it have to be you.
Yes, you can analyze and look back at how you could have done things differently but it should be limited to just that. You aren’t supposed to look at every single small detail that you’ll later come up with a fail-proof plan. Even the best plans have flaws.
Your humor and laughter is wounded and forgotten
You start living in a sort of a trance with that failure or mistake eating you up inside. You feel betrayed and hurt but you forgot to laugh at yourself and your failure or mistake.
Humor has to be the best cure for almost anything and your struggles are no exception. Laugh out loud; it might seem stupid at first because you don’t see anything funny in your setback. Sharing a joke with family and friends has become a distant memory. All you see is that failure and how unfair it was.
In conclusion, nobody wants to fail and in taking any risk the hope is that you’ll succeed. You can do various things to be fail-proof but that isn’t a guarantee. Your fear of failure is scary but you overcame it and decided to gamble on that risk but you failed anyway.
It is so demoralizing. But, what would be better, not doing it and having regrets and what-ifs or doing it and learning that this doesn’t work in this formula or direction? You can do various things to be fail-proof but that isn’t a guarantee. Your thought of failure is scary but you overcame it and decided to gamble on that risk. You failed anyway.
Have you experienced failure before? Do you agree with the facts laid out in this article? Have you experienced some of them due to failure? Do you have any other ideas on how not learning from failure can be disastrous for you that I haven’t mentioned?
Then share in the comments section below. I would love to hear from you.
About the Author
Michael Karango is a freelance writer, with a big heart and a passion for helping people in a positive way through writing. I share stories and struggles about myself to help out anyone who might need it. More of my writing can be found at https://hubpages.com/@michaelkamenya: A site where I highlight what I have learned so far in this journey that’s called life.