7 Confidence Boosters for New Moms
Taking care of your first baby can be a daunting experience filled with many challenges. Body image is a common issue among new moms. For working women, trying to get back into the workforce after giving birth can affect a mom’s confidence levels as well. Here are a few tips to help women feel more confident in their role as new moms.
Make time for yourself
With all the tasks and responsibilities you have at home, giving yourself time to rest and relax may be the furthest thing from your mind. But moms are just as important as the babies they carry. Wearing yourself down increases the chances of self-doubt and you can become more vulnerable to developing insecurities.
So be kind to yourself and try to take a break even if just for a few minutes a day. Yes, easy for me to say as my babies have grown into school kids, but when you do manage to get bubs to sleep for a few minutes, make a deal with yourself that this is your time. It can be in the form of a much-deserved nap, reading a mag or painting your nails. It’s your time.
A little retail therapy for new moms doesn’t hurt, either. Yes, I would say that buying funky breastfeeding tops or singlet dresses online from the comfort of your own home will help, or shopping when you do get the chance to leave the house with bubs in tow.
Go for an instant makeover
The demands of motherhood can make you feel a little on the frumpy side, but a quick trip to the bathroom can give your confidence a much-needed lift. Works a treat after taking a warm shower. It can be as simple as applying your fave moisturizer on your face and applying some lip balm.
Go out and socialize
At some point, you will have opportunities to mingle with other adults again. Invite your friends over or meet other new moms in your area. Socializing with other moms will allow you to talk about your concerns and get feedback from individuals who went through similar situations such as yours.
Take your spouse out for a date
Visit your parents or invite them to come over to your place and babysit your new baby. This will give them a chance to spend some quality time with their grandchild. Plus, this will offer you and your spouse an opportunity to go out, relax and have fun with each other. It doesn’t have to be fancy. In fact, you’ll most likely come home early because bubs won’t settle with their new grandparents – happens all the time. Forget romance. We’re just talking grabbing at least an entree here and if you’re lucky a full dinner. Ok, maybe watching a movie at home is a better idea. Whatever. Treat yourself any way you can.
Take care of your body
Carrying another human being for nine months is bound to leave your body with a host of new lumps & bumps & stretch marks. Most women don’t immediately regain their pre-baby bodies after giving birth, so be patient and give yourself some time. It does go back to normal. Celebrate this new phase in your life by investing in new clothes that make you look good and feel good. If you are running low on ideas on what to wear on your first trip out as a mom, a quick search on Google can give you some inspiration.
Eating a balanced diet is just as essential for new moms as it is during the pregnancy period. Breastfeeding moms will likely notice an increase in their appetite as the process creates an increased demand for nutrients. Talk to your doctor or dietitian to see if you need to make any changes to your diet.
Drown out the noise
Other moms are a good source of advice but listening to too many different sources can make you feel more confused and overwhelmed. Remember that your child is unique. What worked for one mom may not work in your situation. Find a mom that you can relate to and ask her for advice. When in doubt, you can talk to your pediatrician about what to do.
Play down those feelings of guilt
Don’t feel guilty about anything! You are doing one of the most important jobs in the world. And it doesn’t matter if you’re doing it right or wrong; you’re doing it, and that’s all that matters. Guilt and motherhood go hand in hand. Mothers feel it regularly, whether it is making a life-changing decision on when to go back to work or something as simple as letting the baby watch TV. In some cases, that nagging feeling inside can help you make decisions. It can help you decide which babysitter to hire, for instance.
Unfortunately, there is no way to make any mother feel completely guilt-free. Brushing the guilt away just becomes easier over time. As the baby grows older, you will get used to hearing the cry and knowing when to listen to it or ignore it.
These are only a few tips, and there are certainly many others. Try a few and see how it goes. Remember that the main goal is to make you feel more confident about your new role and enjoy your moments together with your baby.
At 16, Merril Bainbridge began her career in the Australian fashion industry. In her early 20s, she left to launch a successful Pop Music career which saw her at the top of the US Music Charts. Retiring to start a family, she found a new purpose helping breastfeeding women with her fashion label, Peachymama.