By http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=JoAnne_Funch JoAnne Funch
Have you had the opportunity in the last decade or so to be quiet and just be?
Or has life gotten in your way?
We make excuses and say we’ll make time for ourselves later, and then ten or twenty years have gone by, and that day of self-discovery hasn’t come. Sometimes, self-discovery is forced upon us by a life circumstance such as a birth, a death, or a job change. We women make more excuses than men because we are so busy taking care of everyone else that the thought of just being with our own thoughts rarely enters our minds.
For me, self-discovery came after the death of my mom and husband two years ago. When they passed, I no longer could make excuses as to why I couldn’t find the time to be alone with myself. I decided that I had to learn how to just be.
At first, I wondered what that would look like for me, and I discovered it meant slowing my life and thoughts down enough to hear what I was thinking and feel what I was feeling.
That is much more difficult than it sounds. Just imagine what would happen if you jumped off your merry-go-round of life and said no to all of the outside influences long enough to sit and be still for days at a time. What would it be like to not have any obligations for your time and attention? People who meditate on a daily basis can relate, but most people do not see how stillness is even possible for them.
It takes practice (Go ahead and laugh!), but it does take practice to sit and do nothing. We need to give ourselves permission to be and contemplate what’s around us. I think we have a fear of facing our own thoughts because we are worried that our thoughts will take us places we don’t want to go. For me, I knew I wanted to just be, but I didn’t really know how. So, I started with pleasant walks in the morning. I found that to be quite relaxing, contemplative time spent in nature.
Then I turned off the radio, the television, and every other outside noise, and vowed to spend a certain period of time each day with myself. Sometimes, that included writing in my journal. I contemplated where I had been with no focus on where I was going. I found that very empowering because I have been so focused on family and work for the past thirty-five years. I was like one of those people who go on vacation and can’t sit still and enjoy the moment-you know, the ones who take their cell phones and computers with them on the beach! Everyone else can get in touch with them, except them!
I’ve learned there are benefits to being still. First, it’s very relaxing. Not only has it been good for me physically, but it’s been good for my soul. I also found that as I quiet my mind, my intuition comes in full-blast because I am now listening. I see and hear things I never did before. I also have more clarity of purpose, not that there are always clear answers, but I see the questions more clearly. I move more quickly now down a path of decisive thought because I have taken the time to be and see. Through being, I see more clearly with joy and expect more joy to fill my life everyday. I’m still working on my journey of being, but it is now a daily priority, and I feel better than I ever have before.
When was the last time you took time to be with yourself, to listen to what’s going on inside of you? Take some time for yourself. You’ll be amazed at the results!
JoAnne Funch ( http://www.circleofstrength.com) is an entrepreneur focusing on women, sharing their wisdom, knowledge and spirit with others. Her mission is to inspire, nurture, make meaningful connections, and have more fun.
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