Personal Growth—How to Start Your Journey to Success!
Personal growth, personal development, and self-development are all used to describe a subject I’m very passionate about. They’re all used to describe a subject that changed my life, a subject that helped me start moving towards my dreams. The subject is self-improvement, but I prefer using the term personal growth.
I look at every single human as a being that never stops growing.
We’re like birds, hatching out of an egg and breaking the shell when we’re strong enough to do it.
Personal growth is all about breaking ‘’your shell’’ and the more often you do it…
The faster you’ll grow and move towards who you truly aspire to be.
In this post we will cover:
- What is Personal Growth,
- Defining Your Problems,
- Defining Your Goals and Fears,
- Creating a Powerful Daily Action (that will help you move towards your goals),
- Reaping the Benefits of Time and Consistency
Let’s start at the beginning, let’s define personal growth and take a look at what it really is. Or at least what my concept of it is, gained through experience.
What is Personal Growth?
I view personal growth as the art of growing through your limitations. I view it as a never-ending process that can take you anywhere you might want to go.
I often get asked, Benjamin, how would you define success?
Many people would respond with something like this: ‘’Success is about reaching your goals and living life to the fullest.’’
And while I do agree, my definition of success is a little bit different. For me, success is a never-ending process.
No matter how rich you are, who you hang out with or where you go on vacation, at the end of the day, you only truly have ONE competitor.
You only have ONE competitor, one that has been with you from the day you were born and will stay with you til the day you die.
That competitor is yourself.
My definition of success goes like this: ‘’Success is a never-ending battle with who you were yesterday. If you outgrew the version of yourself you were yesterday, you won the battle.’’
And the more of these battles that you manage to win, the more you’ll grow as a person.
But how do you start the process of personal growth?
Defining the Problem
We all struggle with our demons, our problems. But we all struggle with them in different life areas. To start, let’s define the 4
areas for personal growth
Areas for Personal Growth:
- Personal Growth (Confidence),
It’s important to note the importance of the order of these areas. Health at the top is the most important and without it, almost everything can come crashing down at any moment.
Here’s what you do next…
Take a look at every single area we wrote down, start at the top and work your way down.
For each area, ask yourself this question:
How satisfied and happy I am with my ‘’health’’?
If you can rate the area from 1-10, that’s even better.
Generally, everything above 8 is ok, but if you rate that area below 8, meaning you’re not quite happy with the results you’re getting, it means that you have to work on it.
Congrats, you just took the first step towards successful personal growth.
You defined your problem.
Defining Your Goals and Fears
For the sake of argument, let’s say you’re not in the best shape and you know you need to lose a few.
Every successful personal growth journey starts with a goal.
The best way to set goals is to make them specific and measurable.
To return to our example, a good goal would be…
“I will lose 15 pounds in the next 90 days.”
That’s a well-set goal, good job!
Now that we’ve defined our goals, we need to do the same for our fears.
“But Benjamin, why would I have to define my fears to reach my goal?”
I used to think the exact same, in fact, I did everything to avoid defining, let alone facing my fears.
But believe me when I tell you, that facing your fears is the core of personal growth.
You see, I truly believe that our minds KNOW exactly what we need to do in order to get a certain result, but due to our fear, we pretend like we don’t know what we need to do.
Even more often, we do everything we can, just not the action we know WE REALLY HAVE TO DO.
So start by asking yourself, what does scare me the most about losing 15 pounds in 90 days? Think about it, visualize it.
The answer will come to you. Maybe you suddenly get a vision of you looking absolutely beat up, running 10 miles.
And there’s your answer, there’s the fear you’ve got to face.
There’s the fear you’ve got to face to lose 15 pounds in 90 days. But how can someone go from being a couch potato to running 10 miles?
This brings us to our next point.
Creating a Powerful Daily Action
A common misconception in the self-improvement community is that you have to be motivated to do something.
In fact, 99% of self-improvement is just motivating others to take a BIG action.
But that doesn’t work. You simply can’t go from being a couch potato to running 10 miles. Just the thought of that probably makes you want to die.
But here’s what you can do.
You can work your way up to it.
You do that by defining tiny daily actions, that over time will get you to where you want to go.
To return to our example, you’ve 90 days to drop those 15 heavy pounds and you need to be able to run 10 miles to do so.
Start by asking yourself this question: ‘’What small daily actions do I need to take, for 90 days that will help me run 10 miles?”
Suddenly you realize that you can start by running just 300 meters and then every single day you take the length you ran and add a few percent to it.
Calculate it right, do it daily and you’ll be able to run those 10 miles before you know it.
Reaping the Benefits of Time and Consistency
There are many universal laws out there, but my favorite one has to be the ‘’Law of Compounding’’.
As Einstein said it: “Compound interest is the 8th wonder of the world. He who understands it, earns it; he who doesn’t, pays it.”
But as you can see, Compound interest doesn’t apply to just money, it applies to everything, even to things as simple as going from being able to run 300 meters to 10 miles.
As long as you keep showing up, facing your fear and pushing through it daily, reaching your goal becomes inevitable.
About the Author
Benjamin is an entrepreneur, blogger, and a personal development nerd. On his blog BenjaminStrusnik.com, he provides useful advice for anyone interested in business, personal development, building better relationships and living life to the fullest.