Why You Need To Improve Self-Worth, And How To Do So
Self-worth or self-esteem can make a real impact on lives. Having low self-esteem negatively impacts your thoughts, emotions, values, and desires, making you more likely to think negative thoughts, have negative emotions, lower your values. Also, with low self-esteem, you set your sights lower, therefore not living up to your potential, and lowering productivity.
High self-esteem, on the other hand, improves all aspects of your life including your opinion of yourself, your relationships with others, your coping mechanisms, your productivity, and mental health. For some good self-esteem and a knowledge of your self worth may feel impossible to get to. Especially for the younger generation, but it’s not impossible to improve! You can gain confidence, greater overall happiness, and a knowledge of your self-worth. It is possible to improve your self-worth and here’s how to do so.
High schoolers and low self-esteem
Feelings of low self-worth are especially prevalent in high schoolers. 7 out of 10 girls said that they believe they aren’t good enough in some way. The reasons included relationships, grades, looks or other aspects of their lives. 44% of girls are trying to lose weight, and 15% of high school boys are as well. 6% of boys admitted to taking steroids, and 38% are using protein supplements to try to increase muscle mass. So what can we do about it?
Gaining confidence on the road to improving self-esteem
A large part of improving self-esteem is finding confidence. There are many ways to gain confidence, one of which is travel. Many students are doing just this during their gap year. Traveling boosts confidence, increases maturity as well as knowledge, and develops social skills. And taking a year between high school and college can be the perfect time to do this. However, it’s not available to everyone due to financial, or family situations, or other factors.
Improve feelings of self-worth through changing your thinking
If traveling is not for you, don’t give up! There are other ways of improving your self-esteem. A first step can be mindfulness. Changing requires you to realize there is something to change. You can start with negative or judgmental thoughts. Allan Lokos, a meditation teacher, reminds us, “Don’t believe everything you think. Thoughts are just that — thoughts.” Recognize when negative thoughts enter your head, remind yourself they aren’t facts, and let them go.
With this mindfulness also notice when you are comparing yourself to others. Social media has made this difficult as anyone can post only the best or even fake versions of themselves. This gives us a false representation of their lives. Comparing ourselves to these often fake or exaggerated avatars only brings us down. Whether it be on social media or in real life, notice when you are comparing yourself and try to let that go as well.
Recognize your strengths instead of weaknesses. You may be a terrible cook, but you can write amazing papers. Or maybe you are a great musician or can make anyone laugh. Everyone has something that they are amazing at whether they realize it or not. Find your calling, and instead of focusing on what you can’t do, focus on what you can.
Forgive your own mistakes and the mistakes of others. Holding onto all that negativity is harmful to your mental health. Let it go. Learn and move on. It’ll not only help you heal from past hurts, but it’ll also bring more positivity and self-worth to your life as you stop blaming yourself. Learn to focus on how you can do better instead of what you did wrong.
College is a time to become yourself, and be confident in it!
However you decide to go about finding your best self, now is the time to do it! Take time to travel, be mindful of your negativity and change them to positive things. Whatever it takes to become the best you can be. Be confident, be happy, be you. You’ll thank yourself.